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Going through OCD treatment brought my family closer together. They became my biggest support and cheerleaders. They have also worked to educate themselves on OCD which allowed them to be more understanding.

Ocd treatment has helped me realize that I had ROCD. For years I had struggled with it not knowing what I was dealing with. Let’s just say this treatment has helped me in my marriage tremendously.

I’m constantly over analyzing every little thing he says or does and how it can be taken the worst way possible. Always questioning whether things are right and that he’s “the one”, and checking to see if it’s normal to feel the way I’m feeling. It’s so fucking exhausting

Treatment helped me to lean on my close friends for emotional support, and to accept their kindness, both of which used to scare me. I also got the courage to tell my family about my disorder. It helped me with my relationship to myself too, in terms of giving myself grace and self-compassion, and ending cycles of negative self talk. Some days it’s hard, some days it’s easier.

My OCD was relationship OCD. Therapy helped me deal with my thoughts so we could actually see and enjoy the progress we had made with marriage counseling. Being free from those obsessions gave me time, and motivation to be the mom and wife I want to be. I think the whole family is better because of it.

My family is very supportive. Sometimes I feel like a burden when I get into a reassurance seeking loop but they are so good about it. My So knows I have rocd and we even joke about it it which actually helps a lot because I don't have to hide anything

I don’t ask my mom for reassurance anymore - I can just be present with her and hear how her life is going and talk about my own without needing to do a compulsion. Such freedom!!

I lost my most important relationship due to extremely high OCD and so im committed to making sure that doesn’t happen ever again. It was so painful to have happen.

Once I found out I had relationship ocd, therapy helped me lean in closer to my values. I am so much closer to my boyfriend. I feel more present in my life and relationship. I have my period where I have more intrusive thoughts, but its mostly in passing now

OCD treatment has allowed me to grow in my relationship. From the lowest of lows, and now recovering back to that high. My relationship isn’t the same before the OCD hit, but now something different my partner and I have both learned to live with

NOCD has helped me develop relationships (marital, family, friends, work) in the sense that before I would avoid mostly all places and people including my family (my kids and siblings) because I never felt like I was there meaning I was physically at a place but never mentally there. I had become a stranger to others and even to myself. NOCD has helped me regain myself and has allowed me to be present for those who matter the most. On behalf of my husband, family, friends and kids but more importantly me, Thank you NOCD!!!!!!!

I have relationship ocd. For years, my wife has occasionally had to go out of town on business trips. I always get nervous whenever this happens because I have trust issues with her and think of all the possibilities of her with someone else. It drives me crazy. I obsess about it until we end up in a huge fight, and one of us threatens divorce. I have no friends to rely upon when she's gone. I also end up sick and sometimes in the E.R. I NEED TO BREAK MY CYCLE!

OCD treatment has allowed me to connect better mentally with my friends and have just a better and greater time being in the moment compared to the beginning of treatment and where I was months before now 🕺

OCD treatment has allowed me to create relationships that I thought I’d never have 👀

Honestly, when I was good for a few months and had zero symptoms. My relationships were amazing. My head was so clear. But other stuff come to the surface and I'm not the best with them right now because I'm almost hyperfocused on what's in my head (creativity wise rather than ocd). So still currently not the best but I am healthier than what I was

My parents don’t understand OCD. Especially, my dad, who does not believe in ERP. He thinks OCD can be cured with a pill. I’m alone, on my own. OCD gets triggered whenever my dad argues or has an attitude with my mom (even if they are divorced my dad will find a way to speak bad of her in front of me) I had to learn how to do ERP on my own, but what’s also eating me is my environment. I am in therapy for trauma, but I feel controlled. I’m sinking and each day I can’t see the surface

I have ROCD. My wife refuses to educate herself and tells me that she does not think that I have OCD. She really pushes meds. Which I’ll admit meds have made a huge impact, once I got through the bad meds. I’m doing better but worry about our marriage long term. My relationship with my kids is better and I’m focusing at work better.

I used to self isolate switch hurt my relationships with family and friends. I stoped self isolation after treating ocd with greatly helped my relationships.

Definitely made all of my relationships easy I wasn't shaking from anxiety thinking harm could come to them :)

Messed up my life I don’t have relationship friends

I finally feel like I can connect to people like real people do. I don’t have the need to anxiety dump or confess as strongly as I used to. I can simply just enjoy the people I love.

I would say 2 big things for me are 1) I’ve stopped asking people for advice for the most part and comparing their answers and agonizing and 2) being able to do an exposure when I’m very anxious to target a specific insecurity

Treatment for my ocd has given back my relationships with my friends and family! I’m no longer compulsively confessing any moment I get to be with them and am spending time with them while being present. My relationship with my husband is less strained as we have been working together on being with each other and through our current needs.

Boss isn’t happy I’m missing some work. Other than that it’s still pretty terrible hahaha

That's a loaded question.

Time. Time is literally being taken away from my loved ones. It’s sad to me, but not only till then end of the day. I go, go, go and do things until bed time comes.

Yes :( friend, family and spouse !@! I hate this sickness t

I have always felt so guilty and ashamed around my family but still reached out cause I didn’t want to fight it alone as a kid- I would sleep next to my mom for comfort in the night, through my teens it was so bad, and like mumbling reassurance shit to myself, calling my youth pastor, my sister, anybody with great reassurance at like 3am- it was bad

I was really struggling and I felt like I was dragging my family down the drain with me- the worst part was none of us knowing what this was all about and judging myself for having these mental breakdowns- I could barely handle going to the bathroom alone with my thoughts … my family has tried their best and I’m so glad I’m finding better support so I can share these thing with them to help them understand what’s going on and how they can get help

I also feel significantly less jealousy of exes and other people my partner could be interested in

It has given me hope and grace for myself. It has taught me how worthy I am of my life and the people I have in it

They improved a lot. I’m finally able to go out with friends and my boyfriend. I am less distant too.

I’ve never had a girlfriend. That’s how it’s affected my relationships.

Going through this has caused me to get confused when it came to my romantic one and has been so hard to try and figure out fact from fiction sitting with this is not the best feeling

Better. All better. I'm able to actually be emotionally present with my friends and family in a way I never was before. I always felt like I was presenting a false self and I was stuck in the throes of guilt. I have rocd as well, so treatment allowed me to recognize this and have a great relationship with a great man.

OCD treatment has really helped me to be able to spend more time with my friends and family without the interruption of compulsions. It helped me to not worry so much and focus on the present with whoever is with me in that moment.

Well I told some dear friends of mine and they thought I was a psychopath so there's that. These are adults in their 50s .

I notice that after I complete an exposure, I need to decompress before I can walk back into social interactions. One time, I finished an exposure, went right out of my room to spend time with my sister, and she asked me, “Are you okay?” because I didn’t seem quite myself. Exposures can be really intense, and I need to be in solitude (watch a funny video or something, by myself) for at least a little while after completing an exposure.

A spike in ROCD when I moved in with my boyfriend (first time living with a partner) is what made me realize I had severe untreated OCD. I’ve been in therapy for over a decade, but OCD was the missing piece of the puzzle I could never find. I wasn’t broken, unlovable, or a terrible person—I just never had the correct tools for what I was dealing with. This new awareness + ERP has helped me work on myself and stop self-sabotaging. I was always stuck in the past or future and was never able to enjoy the present with my loved ones. I no longer feel doomed to repeat this cycle of self-torment. It has also helped me identify OCD symptoms in my partner and family members (I went under the radar because everyone around me has OCD) and share hope and courage for their journeys too. We were all unknowingly feeding off each others’ OCD, but in just a few months I’ve seen so much improvement in my life and relationships with others.

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My OCD GOT SOOOOO BAD ?!!!

Not at all. First of all I’m single and always will be. Secondly my parents have always been there for support

In terms of hand washing, my parwnts(my father, mainly) joke abt me washing my hands endlessly. At this point I’m used to it, but they get rlly upset when I can’t control something, and it feels like I’m just ocd

My firsthand treatment experience has helped me to educate my loved ones. My mom just recently bought a book about OCD to learn more!

My relationship with my anxiety :3

OCD f’d up so many relationships, to the point where all I could do was let. Go.

What should I do if my family calls me too sensitive? How can I tell them lovingly that I have OCD without seeming aggressive?

It has affected my relationships in many ways but my family has a long line of people with OCD that lets us understand who we are and what we need to be functional!

100% yes. There is very little OCD hasn’t affected in some way.

What is an exposure

What is ERP messaging?

Going through OCD treatments so far as I’m a beginner has got me to bring my family and friends who are very supportive closer for emotional support. It’s got me to understand that my relationship with myself is just as important and how some days harder than others to end negative feelings

I honestly have felt pretty alone going through treatment. I know my husband loves and supports me but just doesn’t fully understand. And my mom and dad they didn’t know what to do at all which is nothing against them. All the way from when I was a child they would get frustrated and then as I got older and my themes shifted to more taboo themes they were terrified and so was I. We don’t really talk much but I know they love me and support me as much as they can. I’ve learned that while yes having support from others is nice however, I am the one who has to put in the work. Regardless of what type of support I’m receiving. My therapist is obviously a support and I’m so happy to have met her. I know others have to go through this completely alone so I am grateful for the support I do have. My heart goes out to those who are doing this alone. You are amazing and strong and you can do this.

I don’t visit back home because I am apprehensive about traveling or ‘what ifs’ of traveling or being away from my comfort zones. I over-question my feelings in my marriage, if they’re real, genuine, even there at all. I sometimes get existential thoughts about how I even got to where I am like it was by chance rather than choice.

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It has made me able to explain what I need from loved ones much easier.

It was hard. I was hospitalized for 15 days about 8 months ago, so it's been a journey. NOCD treatment and all of my treatment has helped my relationship with my mom and my husband and brought us closer together!

My son has OCD and he’s 9. My husband is in denial, my mother thinks he needs a spanking and my sister thinks he’s spoiled! I tell them, “knowledge is power”! Educate yourselves and then maybe I’ll listen! It’s just my son and myself keeping on. I’ll continue to read and search and hope.

Going through ERP has helped me learn to trust my boyfriend and live act confidently in my relationship!

No judgements, listen to understand and not to blame or point a finger "thus is why..." Don't look at it as flaw, a problem, look at is as something you, they, us have to learn, adapt, like diabetes or Kidey disease. Change your lifestyle to live better and live longer and most productive. Understand boundaries maybe necessary.

My whole marriage was affected by my undiagnosed OCD. Once I got an official diagnosis and treatment, I cried a lot to my spouse due to feeling so bad for how much it caused issues. Now, I’m so very grateful to be able to explain to my family and try to do my treatment in real time. They have been reaping the benefits as I do. Unfortunately, my marriage has ended because of my ROCD. I had to be very honest with myself. Now, my ex-spouse and I have a new understanding and respect for each other and life is getting better.

My wife and I have never understood each other more than we do know. Bringing her in to my treatment plan was scary AF, but it was a turning point in my life. It took time to consistently share, but once I did, the isolation I felt slowly subsided.

I have gained a better relationship with my father

Relationships will always be a difficult one for me with my disability but it made me understand my relationship mental loops and help my current relationship thrive more. It also made me understand how much more healing I have to do. My current partner is so incredibly loving and understanding and wants to help me beat this 💛

Having a hobby helps keep your mind off of the what ifs guys and gals it really does

My husband is very supportive.

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My OCD drove everyone away. I’m hoping treatment helps me maintain new relationships better.

Almost didn’t marry my husband: diagnosis and ERP saved my relationship. 🤍 That’s not everyone’s takeaway and that’s okay. Marriage has had some difficult points that also almost ended my relationship because of ROCD getting triggered. My partnership has survived by a two way street of communication, perseverance, and seeking help and support!

I haven’t been in a romantic relationship yet bc I keep second guessing if it’s the right time, who I’m attracted to, if that person turns out to be bad for me, if I’m ready to date or not, I’ve never confessed feelings to anyone out of fear of rejection. Even if I like someone, I think there are more people out there and what if this person isn’t the right one. Ugh

I am more present with those I care about. 💕

almost certainly saved my marriage

It has strained my relationship with my wife because she has to put up with my distress so much and because I have constantly sought reassurance from her for a long time. She is put upon and is frustrated that she can't help me.

my mom told me i had a flat affect , and didn’t show my feelings much to her; my ocd wanted me to act guarded so that i could protect my loved ones from “myself” (my intrusive thoughts) but it only hurt me and her more

My relationships have actually improved since I started treatment. My wife did therapy with me and we are really making progress. I’m really nervous about my next ERP session, but my therapist is AMAZING.

I've been single for 21 years and I have no friends or family.

I spend all day talking about my partner and his life stories and fetishes lmao

In some ways it has helped my relationships because my family understands OCD much better now and knows what I'm going through, but it has hurt friendships over the years because I will obsess over friends and ruminate about them. I have relationship OCD really bad when it comes to friends. It used to be bad with romantic but I've been with my husband for over 7 years (less than a year married) so it's calmed down lol

Very much so!

Right now, I’m unfortunately in the stage where now that I know it’s OCD, all that’s changed is I now blame myself for having it and how it negatively effects my relationships instead of just blaming myself in general. 😓

Its brought me a lot closer to many friends in the long run, but the fear of losing my friends and these bonds I've built has become worse over time. My bond with my parents definitely strengthened.

I have no friends, no family that I talk to and I've been single for 21 years. Reassurance about any of it doesn't sit well. I know what friends are really like, my family are thieves and I don't want the hard times that come with relationships. Life ain't Disney and few people understand that.