Am I really unappealing to boys or is it just my perception?

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I’m confused. I think I’ve gotten progressively more boy crazy and more of a hopeless romantic, but I’ve completely manipulated myself into thinking that boys just don’t like me and I think it’s a fact. In the past, I was confused and lost on what my sexuality was so I would be in a lot of “flirty” friendships thinking that I genuinely liked my female friends I had these friendships with but that was far from the truth. I can’t imagine myself being with a woman but for some reason it’s just easier for me to talk and flirt with them. I have trauma involving why I brainwashed myself into thinking that I’m a magnet that repels boys from me and I still think that and it’s ruining my brain. (I have a crush on this guy and texted him for the first time, he never replied!!!) which honestly proves my point even more. Am I right or is just all in my head? Some advice please!!

Username: hanysm@gmail.comhanysm@gmail...

Date posted: 7w ago

It's all in your head, IMHO. Connecting with females might seem easier because, as a female, you understand their feelings and preferences. However, when it comes to sexuality, it might not be your cup of tea; otherwise, you wouldn't question it. I'm not suggesting that connecting with boys is more challenging, but it does require the right mindset and approach. Instead of focusing on seeking love from either boys or girls right now, I recommend working on self-love and appreciation. You are an intelligent woman, and like all women, you possess qualities that make you special to a man. However, it's important to first nurture your relationship with the woman within you, if that makes sense.

Username: aza holmesaza holmes

Date posted: 5w ago

@hanysm@gmail.com sorry for the late response, i’ve taken your advice into thought for the past week and i honestly think i do need to learn how to love myself and be gentle with myself before trying to start something with other people. i’ve also been trying to get over a past guy that i’ve been in love for 3 years and that’s probably why im trying so desperately search for love. the question of “why can’t boys like me?” is still wandering around brain and im trying to control it, and learn to not care. it’s definitely gonna be a tough journey but i hope i can get there someday. thanks for sharing and you’ve definitely got me on the right track :)

Username: jmiraclerjmiracler

Date posted: 7w ago

I use to think I was lesbian but when I went to have sex with a girl I was highly repulsed and couldn’t do it even though I cared for them. I later realized that I was attracted to anyone who love me and accepted me. I wasn’t meant to be lesbian if that makes sense, hence the reason I’m not sexually attracted. I was attracted to their spirit persay….. it’s hard to explain but your story is similar to mine. Just something to ponder on

Username: aza holmesaza holmes

Date posted: 5w ago

@jmiracler I know this is a late reply but i completely understand you. I’m also drawn to spirit of girls more than sexually. i guess a part of me wishes that guys would treat me like some girls do but that’s not something i can control, but i’ve tried to control my own impulsive thoughts instead and try not to get attached by a female friend because i don’t want them to get the wrong idea and then get hurt by me because im straight. your story is very similar than i originally thought. thank you for sharing :)

Username: morgan?

Date posted: 5y ago

Ok so this might be long might not but I’m going to try and explain this very well ok so I have always dreamed about having a boyfriend and I’ll read novels and want that for me and I can imagine myself with a guy when I’m older and happy but right now I can’t whenever I try to think about it I get anxious and just want to cry cause more than anything in the world I want happiness but ever since I got hocd whenever a guy tells me they like me all I want to do I stop them from liking me and want to tell them to stop liking me I get an anxious type feeling and lately I have had the theme of asexuality like “am I an asexual? What if I turn asexual? What if because I get these weird feeling about boys liking me does that make me asexual?” I need some opinions of what people think and I also don’t know these could be new feelings to me I just have never dated or had a boyfriend I want one but at the same time “myself” doesn’t want me having one! What do you think?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: Idk

Date posted: 5y ago

Geez, I seem to just be getting worse. I keep thinking what if I’ve been lesbian all my life but never payed attention to it. I mean it feels right to be with a man and have a boyfriend I want that. But why do I keep doubting it I just want this to end. I’ve never been a girly girly. I like cute clothes but I hate how it looks on me I feel so insecure. Same with make up. And I keep thinking maybe that’s evidence I could be lesbian. This all sounds ridiculous but why can’t I just accept the fact that I’m straight. I actually like being with boys and kissing them. I get aroused when I kiss them. So why is this happening?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: Idk

Date posted: 5y ago

This is ridiculous, now I feel like I’m truly questioning my sexuality. I’m 15. Never had a crush on a girl, don’t think I have. Touched myself to lesbian porn mostly, turned on by sexual images of women but still I never questioned what I felt for boys. I knew I would crush on them, I knew they were feelings. If anything maybe I could be bisexual. But still that doesn’t seem right. I’m just completely lost. Maybe I’m just thinking to much. It shouldn’t be this hard right? I read bisexual people immediately knew. Most of them I think, they realized all their crushes and Fantasies they wanted in real life. I never fantasized about a women, or any girl. I remember crushing on a senior once, I felt excited to see him at school. And fantasized about him. And with my Boyfriend he was just so innocent, and cute and sweet, and when we do sexual stuff I like it. I get uhm .. wet. Sorryyy. I recently got advice to look out for any girl crushes. And I’m really scared about that now. Maybe I can crush on a girl and maybe I can’t. I don’t know anymore. I feel completely unsure of everything. Im not sure if I’m straight or not. I recently started to take quizzes again. I either got straight or bisexual. And idk can anyone give advice? Thanks for reading through all of this if you did.

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