Can someone who has dealt with a similar situation help me. warning do not read unless u can deal with depressing post. Recently my girlfriend broke up with me and she was my best friend so I dont have anyone else to ask. I've been increasingly depressed lately and have been feeling suicidal. I'm afraid to reach out for medical help because last time they almost sent me off to a psychiatric ward and im not sure I can deal with that. I just feel like like my OCD is worsening. I have a hard time getting up in the morning, I used to only sleep 4-6 hours and now it's around 10 a night. I try to eat but I just never feel like eating even when I cook. I just dont really know what to do anymore I just want some advice and to know if anyone else has gotten past this point.

Username: QbertQbert

Date posted: 5y ago

I spent time in psych ward. I BAKER ACTED myself because I was in such a state of extreme panic about losing my sanity. it helped and opened the door to intensive outpatient program. I remember most about it that I was bored and felt couped up. I got the medical attention I needed though and I did it to help myself.

Username: andrewt_andrewt_

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 5y ago

I think you should reach out for help regardless of whether or not they put you in a psychiatric hospital , how can you be sure it wouldn’t be for the better in the long run ? What if they have the right advice to give to you ?? I think it’s worth a try , especially considering how you’re feeling. Breakups are really rough , but the pain you are feeling will not last. Circumstances constantly change , can you think of something positive you learned from this relationship or how it changed you for the better in some way ? Maybe there are positives , but they are being overshadowed by the negatives. Again , just a possibility man.

Username: pureolifepureolife

Date posted: 5y ago

Breaks ups are hard on everyone, and it’s very common to go through a period of depression after one. Difficulty getting out of bed, eating, and a general lack of interest or enthusiasm in things you once enjoyed are quintessential signs of depression. I think therapy would be of great help to you. You can open up to your therapist about your thoughts at whatever pace feels comfortable to you. And I think that even if you choose not to discuss your suicidal thoughts at all, that you’d still benefit (though you may decide to once you’re comfortable!) Most likely they’re start treating you with a method called behavioral activation as well as CBT. This will involve identifying your core values and then starting to live by them, whether or not you “feel like” doing them at first. The idea is that if you start engaging in the world more actively, that the emotional desire to do those things will naturally follow after awhile. With CBT, you’ll learn to challenges your distorted thoughts to see the world in a more neutral way, rather than with pessimism or hopelessness. I’ve been through terrible breakups before, and the solution for me is always to get out there and reconnect with things I used to love or find new things to love. Join a club or sport, get a hobby, learn to make something. The best things to try in my view are things that get you out and around other people. For me, yoga, the gym, and the climbing gym were amazing places to reconnect with my body and mind in a healthier way. In the process, I met new people, started looking/eating better so I could see more results, and overall gained more confidence. Just remember: at first, you won’t want to get out of bed. But if you wait until you feel like it, you might never do it. When it comes to depression, we have to think in reverse: do the thing you want to want until you want it. Good luck to you!

Username: LynbaebieLynbaebie

Date posted: 5y ago

My condolences. Best advice is to love yourself and work on cultivating a loving inner dialogue. The most helpful tool I’ve found is the DBT Handbook, second edition

Username: Ineedtogrow

Date posted: 1y ago

Break With GF is Driving me insane

I’ve never tried posting in this community or any online community for that matter, but my girlfriend of 8 years just told me she wanted to take a weeklong break 3 days ago. I know a week isn’t long and I believe everyone deserves space when they need it, I’ve been trying to give it to her. We’ve still ended up texting everyday (I made a rule with myself that I’d only text her if she texted me, so that the space is there if she wants it). These obviously aren’t our normal texts, the coldness and having to pretend this isn’t my other-half of 8 years is killing me. I haven’t been diagnosed with OCD, but I’m almost positive I have rocd reocd. Ive been the type to make up problems in my head and obsess over them until I have to share my thoughts with her, this usually upsets her and we have a fight. She’s amazing, and I’d do anything for her, but shes not the reassuring type when I’m panicking about our relationship (not that that’s her responsibility). I have this awful feeling that when we talk about it after this week, she’s going to ask to just be friends. For some reason I just can’t do this, I can’t keep conversing this way with the woman Ive planned my life away with, I can’t keep living in this hell. I know that my delusions will get better once we move in together as they completely go away when we stay together, but I can’t help but feel that she’ll doubt this and want to break up anyway. As dramatic as I feel saying this, these last few days have been torture on my heart and mind. I can’t eat, and when I do I throw up and dry heave, I’ve lost 10 pounds in 3 days. My whole day is filled with random panic attacks and an inability to remain present and focused for more than 5 minutes. The panic attacks get much worse at night, not allowing me to sleep, and I just keep fearing the worst and obsessing over what I’m going to say or do to show her I’m serious about making this work. I’ve contacted two counselors and am meeting with one tomorrow, but I just don’t know what to do right now. I really appreciate anyone who read all this I just needed to put it somewhere.

Username: Mya11

Date posted: 35w ago

Lonely

I feel so overwhelmingly lonely. I have been lonely my whole life, and I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about it. I feel like a burden to my family and my friends and I feel like they all secretly hate me. I’ve been through a lot of really traumatic things over the last 18 months (abusive relationship/ stuck living with an ex/ finishing my degree/ family problems/ eating problems and of course having OCD doesnt help) and I felt so alone. I still haven’t been able to talk to people about the extent of it because I don’t know how. I have tried counselling but I just felt like my counsellor was very dismissive. Ive tried talking to one of my friends and she told me it was worrying her/ not to do it again. It was all manageable before I came off my medication, but I just can’t go back on it again because it made me gain so much weight. I really don’t know what to do. I’ve tried reaching out to old friends, making new ones, dating, herbal remedies, therapy, gym, moving house. Nothing is working. I feel like the only option is going back on my medication but I really don’t want to do that. Does anyone have any advice?

Username: mmarzolf11

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 28w ago

Having a hard time hanging on.

Hey guys so I just got broken up with in the last week. I’ve always had really bad ocd and self harm thoughts. When my bf and I moved into together I was so happy and he understood how to help me with my ocd. I didn’t have bad thoughts for the full 8 months we were together! And then we broke up bc I found out a lot of things he was lying about. I’m living back home again, single and all of my bad thoughts and urges are back again, I don’t know how to make it stop. Living with him is the FIRST time I’ve had these thoughts go away. Now everything is bad once again. If anyone has any advice that could help I’d appreciate it.

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