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Hey, I’m sorry that you’re struggling right now. I want you to stop for a second and take an objective look at what you wrote in regards to your question of “I just dont know if SO-OCD is the new attachment the anxiety has or if its true.” If it it looks like, smells like and feels like OCD experiences that you’ve had in the past, then it’s OCD. You mention that you have compulsions with googling what’s wrong with you in regards to health stuff, you’re doing the same thing now just on a different theme. My OCD has jumped all over the place over the years, it happens but it’s ok. The treatment is all the same. I know it’s so hard, but please, please, don’t google anymore, you’re just reinforcing the thoughts. Sit with them, and let them come and go. Don’t interact with them or give into the compulsions. Take some deep breaths and return your attention to the present task at hand. Please get help from an OCD therapist if you haven’t already. You got this.

I guess giving reassurance isn’t the way to treat OCD but I have OCD and I can really sympathise with you and recognise myself in the thought pattern. That sense of urgency, like ”I need to do something or be certain RIGHT NOW” is very common in OCD. I have alot of OCD about different relationships in my life. I had a really rough period in November. Me and my amazing boyfriend has been talking about moving in together for a while now and I’ve been so exited and a bit nervous about it all summer! Then one day I was feeling terrible, I was having alot of anxiety and trouble sleeping due to sickness in my family, I was on a trip with work and I felt so uncomfortable, homesick and overwhelmed. Then my BF called and told me that he had had a real estate agent over looking at his apartment. I didn’t feel exited instantly, more nervous and scared so quickly my brain went… ”OH MY GOD this means you DON’T want this!!!” ”perhaps this is your true feelings and you need to break up RIGHT NOW” ”you have tricked him into loving you and really you’re just using him for attention” ”maybe he doesn’t even love me and I’ve manipulated him on taking this step and now you’ll make him unhappy” ”what if I accidentally will blurt out that I wanna break up and he will leave and never come back and fall in love with my friend and I’ll have to watch them build a whole life together and I’ll regret that I left him”! I got so overwhelmed with these thoughts that I ran to the toilet to vomit. I was experiencing extreme fear of losing him while at the same time feeling a big urgency to break up with him. I’ve read more about rOCD (relationship OCD) and listen to podcasts and has been able to recognise what my compulsions are etc. Now it’s February and I’m feeling alot better, I still feel scared but it’s getting much better and he is gonna be my valentine’s ❤️ I love him and I try to accept and sit with the uncertainty. I’ve decided to not be driven by fears, intrusive thoughts and compulsions! ❤️🥰 I hope you’ll get clarity and feel better soon! Best wishes!

Hey sorry to hear this. But I struggle with the same thing. For example, when I am just in close proximity of a friend, I get all confused and am like I am supposed to do something like “kiss him.” You can see he irrationality of the thought but you cannot fight OCD with trying to be rationality. Thats what it crazes. Oddly, just try to sit with the anxiety and accept the thought as a thought, and remember just because you have a thought, does not mean you need to act on it. Hope this helps! We can conquer this together.

And idk if it might help but I realised that I had alot of sneaky compulsions. My most obvious OCD compulsion is that I brush my teeth a lot. Then cleaning and organising quite excessively. But my ROCD compulsions was different. When I was feeling anxious I started to smell his shirts to make sure I liked his scent, I was looking at pictures at him when he was at work to make sure I felt attracted and felt love to him, I had like a manuscript in my head about how much I love him and that my thoughts was so unfair and mean. I was making upp different terrible, ruminating scenarios in my head. Even during or the anticipation of intimacy I started to to get scared that ”perhaps I don’t want this and I’m only using him” even if I 10 seconds earlier was feeling love, arousal and excited. So then I started avoiding intimacy. I started to avoid romantic comedies, romantic songs and books… Perhaps this might help you seeing some sneaky compulsions of yours! Best luck

I have the same thing. It just popped up despite being in a straight relationship that I’ve been in for seven months, and before that always being in straight relationships. I was married to a woman too, and I enjoy/enjoyed the more “intimate” aspects. So I relate to this 100%. It’s suddenly present and it’s very horrifying

I know things will get better for you. It will just take some effort. Will not be easy with ERP but will be worth it in long run. We got this!