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I’m guessing that maybe your house stresses you out and/or gives you anxiety and therefore exacerbates your OCD in that environment. It would be helpful to understand what subtype(s) of OCD you experience (ie contamination, harm, perfectionism, etc) and how your OCD manifests in your home (like examples of behaviors).
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Beth823....thanks for the info...i think its the perfection part....i like everything one way and if someone moves it or leaves things in a noticeable way it triggers me...butnif i go to a friends or someone elses home I really dont care about the perfection unless i make a mistake i try to fix it .
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Ok, yup! That makes perfect sense, and I had a feeling that was the type of OCD you had. I completely understand! How many people do you share your home with? I’m wondering if it could be a form of control as well. For example, when I feel stressed and like I don’t have much control over the things that are stressing me out, my OCD flares up and I get super OCD about things I can control. For example, I get SUPER OCD about laundry and the dishwasher, and because I’m so OCD about it, I put it off because a) it stresses me out and b) it consumes a lot of my time and energy. So, then my husband wants to load / run the dishwasher and it drives me crazy and I can’t help but open the dishwasher and re-arrange everything in a “perfect way”. Yet, if I go over to someone else’s house, I have no issues using their dishes and silverware, even though I didn’t see how well they cleaned them. Also, because EVERYTHING takes me SO LONG to do with my OCD issues, once I get something “perfect” I HATE / can’t stand it when someone messes it up! I’ve been working on ERPs with my therapist for these sorts of issues, and it’s been helpful, but it’s definitely going to be a long road, but will be worth it.
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Thank you so much thatbis so me
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Please keep me updated! ??
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Im not sure if thats considered ocd
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Long story short, OCD is irrational and is not consistent across all environments / conditions. For example, I have contamination OCD when it comes to things like raw eggs in the kitchen. It FREAKS ME OUT and I go overboard on cleaning after someone cracks raw eggs in the kitchen and am so paranoid that I will get salmonella poisoning YET, I will eat raw cookie dough or raw brownie batter with absolutely NO issues or anxiety, which CONTAINS RAW EGGS!!! It makes absolutely no logical sense, but that’s exactly what OCD does to us.
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You described me in you lol in my home we are 5...my husband myself my 2 kids and my brother inlaw which is the one i have my problems with because we dont speak at all becayse hes just plain weird and i cant tell him how i like my things done which drives me more crazy . my husband doesnt support my ocd...he thinks im crazy and that im exaggerating . he will tell his brother clean up after himself but he will just do it his way and thats when my ocd triggers and i go in after he comes out of kitchen or bathroom to correct the thinks he messed with or drawers he didn't close .helllpppp
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Just thinking about it it gives me ocd and when hes home i have flares of ocd all day unless he doesnt use the bathroom or goes into my kitchen...i forgot to mention he cooks for himself
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I didnt have it years back but for some reason ive been having it for couple years.. When i see deep clean videos its bad because i get obsessed and i feel i need to clean more or better or that my house is not clean enough???
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Ugh, it is SO tough sharing a home with other people, especially those that aren’t in your immediate family. This might sound crazy, but maybe try to work on your relationship with your brother in law. For example, my mom is messy, yet when she would come to visit, her messiness didn’t bother me. Whereas, when my father in law came to visit, I would get super stressed out (for no reason) and my OCD would get REALLY bad!!! I used to dread when he visited, but now, we are SUPER close (we actually talk way more than I do with my own dad), and I’m actually trying to convince him to come out to visit me! So I think your OCD irritations are a symptom of your relationship. For example, if you think he is weird or don’t like him, than you are likely to think less of him and that he can’t do anything properly. Also, if your relationship is better, he might be more respectful in regards to how he leaves his environment. Not sure if this applies to your situation or not, but before dismissing it, I think you should really think about the situation and why it only seems to be the things that he does that set off your OCD.
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It also happens with my children and husband but its not as much as with him..he is so careless and sometimes i try to understand that its a guys thing but i always ask myself if he sees how the things are b4 he messes with them why can't he just leave them the same way thats the fight with my husband .
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I know its hard for my husband to tell him to leave the things as it is but my brother in law is not respectful and will sometimes talk back to him amd they end up arguing because of me
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? Although it’s none of my business, does your brother in law pay rent to you or your husband? Or is he staying with y’all free of charge?
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My house in general stresses me out. Its always messy bc I live with multiple ppl every though it was cleaned the day before. Have ur room and another area that u clean every day or move out.
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He pays rent he has too it was my husband co dition for him to stay with us so in a way i try to hold my oocd a bit because if he leaves we are going to be financially struggling
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I never heard about people with OCD who have messy living conditions. Maybe this is why it took so long to accept my diagnosis. Although I really dont like how OCD is percieved at by the majority of people, I feel like Im weird or something because I dont fit into that stereotype. I understand that a lot of people with OCD have this issue, but why do I feel so different? If anybody else has/had this belief, what helps with feeling more comfortable? Everytime my mom points out my room, and how its messy- Its like I feel so lazy and useless. So then I often plan out everything I was going to do, step by step, always having a reasoning behind everything, because logic always comforts me. When I start tidying up my room, I go full out (Sheets, Laundry, Clorox, Candles, Vaccuming, Then I start going through the guinea pigs cage to rearranging all of their stuff) Yet always somewhere after doing a few things, I start feeling disgusting and almost shameful of myself. 99% of the time I end up laying on my floor sobbing, noting every little thing about my room. How my furiniture doesnt match, how i would rather have solid floor like hardwood or vinyl instead of the carpet, usually things i cant change… and then barely anything gets done in my room. I start to have a meltdown and often dont take care of myself even more afterwards. A piece of me feels like my thoughts are just me being a spoiled brat and wanting everything i dont have- meanwhile others dont even have a roof over their head. The other piece of me is just tired, just emotionally exaughsted. Please comment any thoughts or recomendations to maybe improve motovation and attitude towards doing long tasks.
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sorry this is super long i just wanna know if anyone else has been thru something similar bc i feel super alone 🩷 i have super bad contamination ocd. it was bad already but my house was like my safe space until a few months ago someone brought something into my house that i considered ‘contaminated’. and so then i felt like that part of the house was contaminated, then it spread to everything outside my room (since family is moving around touching stuff) and then somehow i got convinced everything in my room except my bed is contaminated and i need to wash my hands after touching it. in my mind its like the contamination just infinitely spreads to things after the tiniest bit of touch. idek what im afraid of anymore or even what the original thing was but i can’t let it go. when i have to wash off contamination i have to wash at least 4 times or until it feels right, or sometimes take rlly long showers and wipe down all my stuff. i even throw away food and clothes or just whole items sometimes because they feel so contaminated i don’t want them in my space. i can’t be super near people or have anyone touch me, and i also can’t bring anything new into my room since it had to go through the entry of my house which feels contaminated. i feel like all i do is lay in bed and then wash my hands and do compulsions so i can go eat or do other stuff around the house. also i never go out because i’m bc people outside make me feel dirty, and i hate thinking about how many people have touched stuff in stores or in public and stuff. so im just in my room worrying all day. i feel so trapped and the contamination/avoiding it is all i think about anymore i barely have time for anything else and im never present when i talk to people because im worrying about if i accidentally got contaminated. im starting erp next week and knowing that im going to have to expose myself to things is really freaking me out. does anyone else have this kind of ocd ? im exhaustedddd 🥲🥲💔
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i’ve unfortunately fallen into the cycle of trying to figure out my thoughts and find answers as to why i feel so distressed. this still pertains to the situation regarding changing my room for those reading who have seen my multiple posts over the last few days. i’ve been so distressed and in so much panic about it. i’m also panicking over my other room looking so different from when i left it. it’s been making me feel crazy because to me there’s no reason for my anxiety to latch so hard onto something that seems so minuscule. i was thinking i was having anxiety over change, but it’s like symptoms of ocd too that’s making it really hard for me to let go. SO i started thinking maybe it was perfectionism ocd? i’ve realized over time that i do compulsions to where things have to feel “just right”, but i also do that with any environment i’m in. like it HAS to feel cozy to me and provide me comfort in order for me to feel at ease. and this change is causing me to panic because there’s something wrong that i can’t find an answer to. maybe the different colored carpet? but it’s also more than that it feels like. however, now it’s spreading into other areas of my house where i’ve always been fine in and possibly to just any area i’m in at all. hence why it’s making me feel crazy because there’s no reason for me to be THIS distressed over that as i’ve never really had this problem before. and when i did it would last maybe an hour to a couple of days at most, but this has been going for over 2 weeks with my really bad anxiety being this week. i’m doing a little better, but it’s still hard when i can feel that panic waiting for me to acknowledge and just engulf me in the ocd cycle. i’m also analyzing basically any feeling i have so i just feel off in general and like i’m going insane. i’ve been so hyper focused on how i feel and that will send me spiraling too. multiple themes then start coming in like existential ocd and fear of solipsism. not to mention my harm and contamination ocd that just adds on when i’m this vulnerable. then i worry if no one is real, then no one feels the way i do. or just in general that what if no one feels the way i do. honestly, i think being out of college and in my house with nothing to do is causing me too much time with my thoughts. which is why i’m so distressed about everything that pops into my brain.
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