lflores1988
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- 5y
Beth823Beth823
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I’m guessing that maybe your house stresses you out and/or gives you anxiety and therefore exacerbates your OCD in that environment. It would be helpful to understand what subtype(s) of OCD you experience (ie contamination, harm, perfectionism, etc) and how your OCD manifests in your home (like examples of behaviors).
lflores1988lflores1988
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Beth823....thanks for the info...i think its the perfection part....i like everything one way and if someone moves it or leaves things in a noticeable way it triggers me...butnif i go to a friends or someone elses home I really dont care about the perfection unless i make a mistake i try to fix it .
Beth823Beth823
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Ok, yup! That makes perfect sense, and I had a feeling that was the type of OCD you had. I completely understand! How many people do you share your home with? I’m wondering if it could be a form of control as well. For example, when I feel stressed and like I don’t have much control over the things that are stressing me out, my OCD flares up and I get super OCD about things I can control. For example, I get SUPER OCD about laundry and the dishwasher, and because I’m so OCD about it, I put it off because a) it stresses me out and b) it consumes a lot of my time and energy. So, then my husband wants to load / run the dishwasher and it drives me crazy and I can’t help but open the dishwasher and re-arrange everything in a “perfect way”. Yet, if I go over to someone else’s house, I have no issues using their dishes and silverware, even though I didn’t see how well they cleaned them. Also, because EVERYTHING takes me SO LONG to do with my OCD issues, once I get something “perfect” I HATE / can’t stand it when someone messes it up! I’ve been working on ERPs with my therapist for these sorts of issues, and it’s been helpful, but it’s definitely going to be a long road, but will be worth it.
lflores1988lflores1988
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Thank you so much thatbis so me
Beth823Beth823
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Please keep me updated! ??
lflores1988lflores1988
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Im not sure if thats considered ocd
Beth823Beth823
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Long story short, OCD is irrational and is not consistent across all environments / conditions. For example, I have contamination OCD when it comes to things like raw eggs in the kitchen. It FREAKS ME OUT and I go overboard on cleaning after someone cracks raw eggs in the kitchen and am so paranoid that I will get salmonella poisoning YET, I will eat raw cookie dough or raw brownie batter with absolutely NO issues or anxiety, which CONTAINS RAW EGGS!!! It makes absolutely no logical sense, but that’s exactly what OCD does to us.
lflores1988lflores1988
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You described me in you lol in my home we are 5...my husband myself my 2 kids and my brother inlaw which is the one i have my problems with because we dont speak at all becayse hes just plain weird and i cant tell him how i like my things done which drives me more crazy . my husband doesnt support my ocd...he thinks im crazy and that im exaggerating . he will tell his brother clean up after himself but he will just do it his way and thats when my ocd triggers and i go in after he comes out of kitchen or bathroom to correct the thinks he messed with or drawers he didn't close .helllpppp
lflores1988lflores1988
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Just thinking about it it gives me ocd and when hes home i have flares of ocd all day unless he doesnt use the bathroom or goes into my kitchen...i forgot to mention he cooks for himself
lflores1988lflores1988
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I didnt have it years back but for some reason ive been having it for couple years.. When i see deep clean videos its bad because i get obsessed and i feel i need to clean more or better or that my house is not clean enough???
Beth823Beth823
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Ugh, it is SO tough sharing a home with other people, especially those that aren’t in your immediate family. This might sound crazy, but maybe try to work on your relationship with your brother in law. For example, my mom is messy, yet when she would come to visit, her messiness didn’t bother me. Whereas, when my father in law came to visit, I would get super stressed out (for no reason) and my OCD would get REALLY bad!!! I used to dread when he visited, but now, we are SUPER close (we actually talk way more than I do with my own dad), and I’m actually trying to convince him to come out to visit me! So I think your OCD irritations are a symptom of your relationship. For example, if you think he is weird or don’t like him, than you are likely to think less of him and that he can’t do anything properly. Also, if your relationship is better, he might be more respectful in regards to how he leaves his environment. Not sure if this applies to your situation or not, but before dismissing it, I think you should really think about the situation and why it only seems to be the things that he does that set off your OCD.
lflores1988lflores1988
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It also happens with my children and husband but its not as much as with him..he is so careless and sometimes i try to understand that its a guys thing but i always ask myself if he sees how the things are b4 he messes with them why can't he just leave them the same way thats the fight with my husband .
lflores1988lflores1988
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I know its hard for my husband to tell him to leave the things as it is but my brother in law is not respectful and will sometimes talk back to him amd they end up arguing because of me
Beth823Beth823
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? Although it’s none of my business, does your brother in law pay rent to you or your husband? Or is he staying with y’all free of charge?
HeythereHeythere
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My house in general stresses me out. Its always messy bc I live with multiple ppl every though it was cleaned the day before. Have ur room and another area that u clean every day or move out.
lflores1988lflores1988
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He pays rent he has too it was my husband co dition for him to stay with us so in a way i try to hold my oocd a bit because if he leaves we are going to be financially struggling
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