So many people expected me to grow up and do great things when I was a kid but I’m almost 24 and I’m a huge disappointment to anyone who ever expected anything of me.

Heey, I'm really sorry that you're feeling like this! I've never met you and I don't know you either, but the amount of times you've helped and offered me support makes me really, really doubt that you are a disappointment. Please, don't be like this to yourself! You seems like such a lovely person, and it hurts to see that you're struggling. And then, the age of 2 neither equals the end of life nor the end of the opportunities you've got. Life just starts at this age (I'm aware of how cheesy it sounds but I do believe in that!). I'm 21 (nearly 22) and I really don't think that in approximately 2 years I'll have my life stopped just because I won't have achieved anything important by that point, and trust me, I won't. Also, I don't think you need to live your life for someone else. If people think that you are a disappointment (which probably is not true at all, not even a tiny bit), then it's their problem. You should live your life for yourself (again, cheesy, but true!). You make the decisions for yourself and you take all the time you need in the world to accomplish what is on goal list. Please, please, be kind to yourself! You deserve it! There's plenty of time to do anything that you want, but before all that what you need is to be truly happy! Take care! ??

Yes, exactly! It's absolutely amazing that you're helping others with understanding how important it is to be kind to yourself, but now it's time for you to do the same thing. You can do it! Stay strong! ❤ And we're here for you any time! ?

I had a lot of gifted & talented pressure and am 26 and in roughly the same boat, haven't been able to hold down jobs and I didn't go to uni until I was 23. You'll get there you just need time. Other people's expectations need to take the backburner because you have a lot going on which most people wouldn't be able to function in. If you keep working on those, it'll get easier to Human, but you'll have to learn your own limits so that you can push them gradually, like going from low pressure volunteering to part time work, to full time work in a job you can actually stand. I've come to the conclusion that for me it's more important to have a balanced life which I can survive than to have a fast paced high stakes career with all the pressure and uncertainty and risk which goes along with it, that I wouldn't be able to function in. If you're naturally analytical, creative and intelligent then you'll do fine at whatever you pick, and when you feel settled you'll be able to channel that into creative pursuits that you enjoy, maybe even one of those becoming your career/business. Children are ALL little bundles of potential by nature and are constantly having other people project their expectations onto them. Parents and other people who emphasised your academic potential (and their own expectations) heavily were not seeing you as a whole person, and you don't need to attempt to live up to their ideal for you. It doesn't matter whether they're disappointed or not, it's not reasonable to ask more of a person than they are actually able to give. As a side note, if anyone is dead or killed themselves, the blame would not go on you for not somehow preventing it. You're feeling guilty about not being god.

The past is the “past” you must leave it there and focus on the future. Times change, you won’t always be in your twenties with “twenties” issues. Look forward not back.

As a 39 year old let me assure you that you are still quite young and have plenty of time to do whatever you choose. As to disappointing others just realize that you live your life for you, no one else. The more important thing is finding meaning in your life

So you consider yourself inferior for not doing these "great things" people expected you to do?

What great things have those people done in life?