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Idk how much experience you have with loss, but there's no 'should' when it comes to your emotions. That's a general rule which is helpful for OCD anyway, but it also applies in particular to grieving. It comes as and when is pleases, we don't have control over it. You'll feel sad or angry or guilty or whatever else, just as and when those feelings come. I've lost family and felt basically nothing for YEARS until my general stress levels went down enough for the feelings to appear.
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*it pleases
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Keep going love. Remember that OCD latches on to what we love. Try to give it time for the sadness to lessen a little, and ocd will be easier to manage, it usually is for me
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Hey! I’m so sorry to here that, it’s never easy to lose a pet you love. In 2017 my cat died and I loved her unconditionally..she was my best friend. I didn’t really cry or anything at first, of course I was sad, but I too felt guilty for not feeling the way I felt that I should feel. I then learned that it’s part of the grieving process and it’s normal to feel guilt for something like that. Also a part of me new she was going to pass too and when it happened, it wasn’t a shock to me and I was happy she wasn’t suffering anymore (she was really sick). There is no right or wrong way how to grieve. I hope this helps and again I’m sorry for your loss❤️
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Thank you so much I'm sorry for your loss s well ?
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this was so sad to read :/ try and sit with the uncomfortable and very intense emotion without compulsions...sit with the feeling, you can handle it and you can do this! I hope you can greive without the rude interruption of ocd or compulsions.
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This same thing happened when my sister and my estranged mom passed. I was just numb. When I saw my sister in her casket, that's when I lost it. After a day or so after hearing the news of my mom, I cried so much that night. Your body is in shock, it may take a while for your tears to make an appearance.
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I am so sorry for your losses?
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@Makki23 Thank you ?? Keep your head up girl, don't beat yourself up over your reaction. It is all a part of the grieving process.
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I’m a huge believer that there’s no particular way a person “should,” feel. Let yourself feel how you feel without judgement.
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I'm so sorry to hear this. I know how much you love animals, especially your own pets. Try not to judge your reaction one way or the other. May I ask your gecko' s name?
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Her name was Athena
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It's bugging me seeing her like that and not having a strong emtional response....
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@Makki23 Athena was well cared for ☺.
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@Ben84 I'm so sorry. I lost my gecko a while back and it was sad. If I was a gecko I would envy Athena though... An owner like Makki is hard to come by. ?
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I get alot of times that you should let yourself feel your emotions,now I kinda see the emotions i was struggling with before, and the problem might have been that i didnt let myself feel them, and i even think that thats why i experienced panic attacks. However im struggling again cause letting myself feel the emotions made me emotional and throughout the day many times i feel something that i dont know what to do with, giving them attention makes me spiral. Now its about my dog, for two days he vomitted out what he ate and now he doesnt want to eat his food, some food he does want but those are some human food that he shouldnt eat. But my mom brought chicken meat to him, he doesnt want to eat it, and she made something for him but he doesnt wants to eat that either...This makes me really sad cause im afraid i will lose him. I feel really bad when someone who i love is sick and with him its hard cause dogs cant tell you whats the problem. I have a deep sadness about it and fear and I let myself feel it but it gets so bad that it doesnt help me at all. I dont find it helpful, its just makes my day harder. Now again makes me angry if i hear someone saying you should feel all your feelings... Being aware of it, it takes your focus too, i never understood that, how you are aware of something and your focus does not move there... The bird exemple is not true for me, if i go out and hear a bird chirping either im aware of it and it takes my focus,or I enjoy it with the view, or I just notice it and then ignore it,I dont give so much attention to it. Right now birds are chirping, if i put my awarness there i notice them, but if i focus on here that im writing now, i dont notice them,i forget that birds are chirping...Its not like im aware of both... I agree that i should let myself feel more emotions cause alot of problems came there but I dont know where is the line and when im giving too much attention or when im dealing with them too much...
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I lost my brother almost a month ago. if feels like it was yesterday. my biggest worry is when i snap out of the denial stage of this grief , that i’m going to lose my mind. it’s a scary feeling and i don’t know what to do. i’m still in therapy and don’t plan on stopping either but i just worry. i’ve cried here and there but all ive done is keep myself busy and distracted from this. i have my moments - i just am in such disbelief.
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We still don’t know what happened to her. Young, healthy, vibrant. I have so many thoughts…I want to know what happened to her. She is the one I would go to for times like this. I feel selfish as well. I’ve been seeing her for ten years. I can’t imagine starting over. So many strong OCD issues that she helped me through. I have lost an important person in my life. My heart and prayers go out to her family.
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