- Username
- SoMi1907
- Date posted
- 4y ago
You might live with the thought forever, but you might not live with the *feeling* Remember, intrusive thoughts are normal and everyone gets them. OCD is an anxiety disorder, not a delusional disorder. Our problem is that we have a strong and persistent fearful reaction to our intrusive thoughts. The *feeling* is what makes the thought grow into an obsession, which in turn intensifies the feeling. The point of therapeutic intervention isn’t to control our thoughts, which I’m pretty sure is impossible anyway. It’s to ease the anxiety. Our emotional being need to be trained to witness an intrusive thought, say “yikes,” and move on with our lives.
We focus on the “content” of intrusive thoughts, when we should really be focusing on the way we process the thoughts. Those thoughts scare us and activate the flight, fight or freeze response in our bodies. We react by doing some type of compulsive behavior to get relief. So, it’s not the “content” of your thoughts that mean anything at all but how you process and react to them. If you process them as true thoughts and spend energy on the reactions, you will perpetuate the vicious cycle of OCD.
I have this exact same feeling. Lime even when I start to feel a little bit ok, that doubt and anxiety is still there and I sit depressed thinking I cant change anything that I've done and if anyone knew the real me but like you say we just have to accept it.
I feel like it's so unfair!!! I told him that I don't want to feel like this for the rest of my life... I know that, once I accept it, I'm more likely to move on and will not have the thought for the rest of my life, but this wouldn't be accepting to have the thought...
So honestly the worst part of (what I think is) my OCD is the "groinal syndrome"... My intrusive thoughts were fading, but now all the doubt is creeping back in because of it. I know that I'm not what my thoughts try and persuade me I am. My whole identity is much more solid now than it was when I was at my worst. But at the same time, the anxiety is still there and the groinal response thing has started to come back recently... I try not to do anything compulsive but a lot of my compulsions are mental ones so I find myself doing them before I can even stop myself. Am I just going to be stuck with the anxiety & the physical manifestations forever?? Because even now, after I have learned about OCD, and after things started to get better, I am still experiencing it. I'm terrified to get a diagnosis too, in case they tell me it's not OCD or in case there's nothing they can do to help me :/ Ach I hate this all so much ?
need help or tips? i've been spiraling because i have confession compulsion and i have this fear that once my boyfriend finds out the themes of my OCD, he'll leave me. he loves me and tells me he'll always be by my side but before i kind of confessed that my mind kind of has his followers memorized because of compulsions i've performed before and he admitted that it slightly turned him off because "damn that's something else" but it wasn't a dealbreaker... can't help but think if he thinks that's something else then he is definitely gonna be turned off after he finds out about my POCD especially now it kind of involved his younger nephew or about Harm OCD or Pure O Really need help to overcome this. I have this urge to confess to him and try to make him understand to get that reassurance from him that even after knowing these he won't leave me but I also don't want to bc not a lot of people will understand or be comfortable about it esp we've only been together for a few months
Is this why people say talk therapy isn’t helpful for people with ocd?? I haven’t been able to get the help I actually need so I’m self diagnosed but I go to talk therapy I’m just obviously unable to talk about my intrusive thoughts because they involve being a p***. My intrusive thoughts haven’t flared up and I’ve actually been feeling good for about two weeks but my therapist knows I’m dealing with intrusive thoughts but I don’t want to open up about them. The only thing I tell him is I’m scared of being a bad person who does awful things and he said something in between the lines of “what if only you think it’s bad but it really isn’t” and that sort of triggered me because he doesn’t get it my thoughts are awful but it’s difficult to even talk about it when I could possibly be reported if he didn’t understand.
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