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- 6y ago
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Well, given how in OCD we're compelled to seek reassurance, I'll try to put it this way. Sometimes for reasons we can't pinpoint we fall out of love. It could be related to some fear of abandonment. Did you recently do through a very bed break up?
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Tasha123 I’m right there with you. I had the same horrible thoughts and it was debilitating. This went on for months before I knew it was OCD. I finally broke down and went to see a psychiatrist and that’s when I was diagnosed with OCD. Don’t worry, you aren’t falling out of love. You’re just suffering from OCD. Honestly, I had to go on a very low dose of medication to initially help with coping. I never wanted to go down the medication path but I’m so glad I did. Try talking to your psychiatrist about medicine. Then once you get a grasp on your thoughts, begin Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with a certified therapist. During that time, you’ll begin to find ways to cope with those thoughts and before you know it, you’ll be ready to drop the meds and move on with your life. Good luck!
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- 6y ago
Same! It’s with someone I work with though, and I don’t get false memories, just more “ideas” of how much happier I’d be with him instead of my boyfriend. Because him and I can talk and have so much more in common. When in reality I’ve maybe had 5 conversations with this guy and he has recommended me to listen to some songs, which I would listen to. We like similar music. And in my head I have convinced myself because of this we’re actually meant to be, not my boyfriend and I. Writing it down here makes me realize how stupid this is, how it doesn’t make any sense and it’s actually kind of laughable. But in my head it definitely isn’t and is scary
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- 6y ago
I've had this several times whilst with different boyfriends-although it always passed and was never the cause of a break up! People with OCD tend to be very moral, and OCD also attacks the things you care about the most, so it's natural that if you notice someone else your OCD jumps on it and tells you you love them and are going to break up your current relationship. Do you know what compulsions you are doing? Reassurance seeking, avoidance etc? Try and stop doing them and sit with the feeling till it passes. So hard I know. But you will get through it!! People with OCD are naturally very strong ?
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- 6y ago
I fear not being able to fall in love. So it doesn't seem so far fetched
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- 6y ago
Any advice please?
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You know when you have weird thoughts about a coworker and because you have OCD these thoughts really stick and you panic and feel sick? Yeah that’s me and I’ve struggled with having intrusive thoughts about my coworker and now he just got in a relationship with my coworker and my intrusive thoughts are WORSE I thought they would be better? And initially they were because I was relieved that he couldn’t be weird with me now because he has a girlfriend. But this is the thought that i cannot get over- my OCD is like you’re jealous that he doesn’t like you and he’s not with you instead and i envy this girl he is with. Why the fuck am I having these thoughts while I’m in a healthy relationship and love my boyfriend to DEATH- like I know he is my forever. I couldn’t look at him today because I’ve been obsessing over this thought I’ve had in work and now I have to find a new job I hope no one will judge me for these thoughts or maybe someone has had this weird thought before? :(
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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