tasha123
- Date posted
- 6y
deputydeandeputydean
- Date posted
- 6y
Well, given how in OCD we're compelled to seek reassurance, I'll try to put it this way. Sometimes for reasons we can't pinpoint we fall out of love. It could be related to some fear of abandonment. Did you recently do through a very bed break up?
CBLCBL
- Date posted
- 6y
Tasha123 I’m right there with you. I had the same horrible thoughts and it was debilitating. This went on for months before I knew it was OCD. I finally broke down and went to see a psychiatrist and that’s when I was diagnosed with OCD. Don’t worry, you aren’t falling out of love. You’re just suffering from OCD. Honestly, I had to go on a very low dose of medication to initially help with coping. I never wanted to go down the medication path but I’m so glad I did. Try talking to your psychiatrist about medicine. Then once you get a grasp on your thoughts, begin Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with a certified therapist. During that time, you’ll begin to find ways to cope with those thoughts and before you know it, you’ll be ready to drop the meds and move on with your life. Good luck!
Cat_attack Cat_attack
- Date posted
- 6y
Same! It’s with someone I work with though, and I don’t get false memories, just more “ideas” of how much happier I’d be with him instead of my boyfriend. Because him and I can talk and have so much more in common. When in reality I’ve maybe had 5 conversations with this guy and he has recommended me to listen to some songs, which I would listen to. We like similar music. And in my head I have convinced myself because of this we’re actually meant to be, not my boyfriend and I. Writing it down here makes me realize how stupid this is, how it doesn’t make any sense and it’s actually kind of laughable. But in my head it definitely isn’t and is scary
NotbotNotbot
- Date posted
- 6y
I've had this several times whilst with different boyfriends-although it always passed and was never the cause of a break up! People with OCD tend to be very moral, and OCD also attacks the things you care about the most, so it's natural that if you notice someone else your OCD jumps on it and tells you you love them and are going to break up your current relationship. Do you know what compulsions you are doing? Reassurance seeking, avoidance etc? Try and stop doing them and sit with the feeling till it passes. So hard I know. But you will get through it!! People with OCD are naturally very strong ?
deputydeandeputydean
- Date posted
- 6y
I fear not being able to fall in love. So it doesn't seem so far fetched
tasha123tasha123
- Date posted
- 6y
Any advice please?
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