- Username
- tasha123
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Well, given how in OCD we're compelled to seek reassurance, I'll try to put it this way. Sometimes for reasons we can't pinpoint we fall out of love. It could be related to some fear of abandonment. Did you recently do through a very bed break up?
Tasha123 I’m right there with you. I had the same horrible thoughts and it was debilitating. This went on for months before I knew it was OCD. I finally broke down and went to see a psychiatrist and that’s when I was diagnosed with OCD. Don’t worry, you aren’t falling out of love. You’re just suffering from OCD. Honestly, I had to go on a very low dose of medication to initially help with coping. I never wanted to go down the medication path but I’m so glad I did. Try talking to your psychiatrist about medicine. Then once you get a grasp on your thoughts, begin Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with a certified therapist. During that time, you’ll begin to find ways to cope with those thoughts and before you know it, you’ll be ready to drop the meds and move on with your life. Good luck!
I've had this several times whilst with different boyfriends-although it always passed and was never the cause of a break up! People with OCD tend to be very moral, and OCD also attacks the things you care about the most, so it's natural that if you notice someone else your OCD jumps on it and tells you you love them and are going to break up your current relationship. Do you know what compulsions you are doing? Reassurance seeking, avoidance etc? Try and stop doing them and sit with the feeling till it passes. So hard I know. But you will get through it!! People with OCD are naturally very strong ?
I fear not being able to fall in love. So it doesn't seem so far fetched
Any advice please?
Same! It’s with someone I work with though, and I don’t get false memories, just more “ideas” of how much happier I’d be with him instead of my boyfriend. Because him and I can talk and have so much more in common. When in reality I’ve maybe had 5 conversations with this guy and he has recommended me to listen to some songs, which I would listen to. We like similar music. And in my head I have convinced myself because of this we’re actually meant to be, not my boyfriend and I. Writing it down here makes me realize how stupid this is, how it doesn’t make any sense and it’s actually kind of laughable. But in my head it definitely isn’t and is scary
OCD is ruining my life. I thought I had my recovery down & have done so well for almost 7 months. Then this week I had an intrusive thought I couldn’t get rid of - my brain convincing me that I’m in love with somebody else when I am absolutely not. I adore my boyfriend and I’m currently away traveling with him. He struggles to understand my thoughts and struggles with his reaction to it and overthinks my thoughts that I didn’t even want to have. :( please if anyone has any advice, I’m desperate as I can’t lose the love of my life over OCD.
I’m feeling like I don’t like him and don’t want to anymore. Before it was ROCD thoughts and I felt guilt about not knowing. Can ocd convince me I don’t like him when I want to. I really want to continuing loving my boyfriend!!! Does anyone one experience this or anything similar?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he is an absolute angel. All throughout the relationship I would have nightmares and intrusive thoughts “what if he leaves/cheats”. And he would reassure me and treat me like the world revolves around me. Lately I’m realizing this was actually ocd and not anxiety as I had previously thought. I would get paranoid if he didn’t check his messages for a couple hours, I’d get anxious if I saw an ambulance heading toward his street while I was driving, I would ask for reassurance that he loved me constantly. Bear in mind, I have no reason to have these fears. My boyfriend is my best friend and has supported me through thick and thin and he’s amazing. One time a couple months ago I was being a bit snappy with him one night and I had the thought “only people who don’t like their partners are snappy with them” and it just stuck. Now I struggle with intrusive thoughts about my own feelings, do I love him, do I miss him enough, is my relationship going to end because this couple on social media broke up. I could deal with the thoughts about his feelings because he is so so good about making me feel loved but now I’m stuck in this constant guilt loop where I question my relationship for no reason then get anxious and feel guilty for even thinking that way because I think I’m manifesting it. Was wondering if anybody else in a healthy long term relationship has had this happen to them and how you talk yourself down :(
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