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Don’t worry, she must have a pos lawyer who is telling her these things. It won’t be used against you. Just make sure you get a lawyer is who versed in OCD
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this ! That’s just such shit that this is being used against you. I honestly think as long as you have your doctors to back you up that shouldn’t even be allowed to be used against you. I wish you the best of luck
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I’m sorry that I unfortunately have no legal advice, but it’s really unkind for her to attack a part of you that is an illness. I hope everyone involved in the decision making can see that.
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I'm so sorry that you are through this, it's not fair with you!
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Yeah it feels like the people I confided in are now trying to leverage and utilize it against me out of dishonesty
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I'm so sorry that you're going through this. It sounds extremely unfair and hurtful for her to use your imagination script writing to build a case against you. I obviously am not a legal professional, but I recommend getting a really good lawyer who understands mental health law and like others say, check with your therapists on here to see if you can give consent to release your records to a judge, as it will hopefully show that you have POCD and imagination script writing is part of your treatment plan.
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I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this, and that this kind of stuff is happening to people with common mental illnesses :( I don’t know any of the legal aspects surrounding this issue, but I strongly recommend having a competent lawyer and mental health professionals who are knowledageable about OCD to back you up. It is so unfair and stigmatizing that this is being used against you, and I wish you the best with whole issue! If you’re comfortable sharing, I’m sure when it’s all over many of us would be very interested to hear what happens!
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Thanks everyone, I will let everyone know. I have the signed diagnosis from the therapist and the notion that erp is the most common practice. But I never went through therapy fully because my wife and her family said that “I would be sinning” and Satan would have a grip on me. I’ve been on medication since November and my world changed completely. The medication was discouraged in the past as well from my wife and her family. Again, I work full time, took care of my children, have a good career and been able to live a full life with this. So the fact that she is using it and twisting it to a lie makes me sick. If it’s certified therapy, wouldn’t she be lying?
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This is torture I can't even imagine what you must gone through . Yes she is lying . ERP is a form of therapy which is verified and please get a therapist to testify on your behalf. Take your medication if that is what helps you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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Hi again, I’m so glad to hear you have professionals on your side and also that you are finally able to access medication and treatment! I think that if everyone involved follows science and logic everything will be fine. I strongly believe that what she’s saying is not valid, especially against the word of professionals. We support you on this app, and I hope that will give you some hope as well :)
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That is really sad , your wife should not use your mental illness against you
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I really thought it’d be okay because it’s a diagnosed condition but seems to be a bigger up hill battle
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Oh yes I understand , you have my empathy. It's a battle alright. It's not an easy one. Be patient and kind to yourself please.
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Yeah it’s just as if she’s using the ocd fear and making it real in another way
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This is an opportunity for you as well to not perform compulsions
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Yeah I’m just trying to find a way to get a credible therapist to testify for me. I have the signed diagnosis with recommended therapy. But how would I get someone to speak to it. I don’t want to lose my children.
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Have faith in God .
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I don't understand a lot about divorces in the law aspect, but I imagine that the doctor who diagnosed you could prove that the script is just a part of therapy. As long as he is an actual doctor with license and all that, whoever decides about who gets the custody of your kids can't use the script as an evidence.
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I don’t think much of this has to do with OCD and the subtypes that I struggle with: Harm OCD and religious OCD and Guilt OCD. Yesterday, I felt like a failure. I’ve been volunteering at my church to help families affected by some wild fires and I’ve been managing a lot of the logistics associated with it. I love this type of work and the people I work with. I consistently struggle with not giving my heart away so easily to the various interns or full time staff there. My affections were all over the place yesterday and thinking about how I looked or appeared toward one person in particular. I tried on four different occasions to remind myself and to refocus that she was an just like an older sister in my faith and to try and think of her as a literal sister as well, but it didn't really change how I was feeling. It was really cool at some points I felt very comfortable to talk briefly about my story. Told her about my wife and my son (we are currently separated and living in different states) and the battle I’ve had with OCD. Yet I could see that I was jealous for her attention. It was pretty much just us there yesterday. There was a guy named Jim and I felt like I was just irritated that he was there, because he was taking the attention from me. It wasn't all bad, we were able to help a lot of families, I made my son and awesome video, there were moments of relief when I recalled her as my sister and got to hear more about her testimony, in a way deeper conversations helped me see her more than just a crush or temptation. Idk. I've asked for forgiveness to the Lord and I know even though I feel guilty and upset at myself, that He is rooting me on. My wife and I have been going through an uncontested divorce, a lot of it has to do with OCD and this new diagnosis, but as you can see by what I’m struggling with there are other problems as well within me as I’m trying to be a faithful husband, a strong father, and a just good friend to the people in my life. For so long I went to relationships and the hope of one as a source of life, but when I got married I kept trying to find life in “what if I was with this person?” I’ve caused real hurt to my wife and struggling to stop the way I feel so easily when I’m around different people and love everyone how I am supposed to.
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