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- 4y ago
Don’t worry, she must have a pos lawyer who is telling her these things. It won’t be used against you. Just make sure you get a lawyer is who versed in OCD
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- 4y ago
I’m so sorry you’re going through this ! That’s just such shit that this is being used against you. I honestly think as long as you have your doctors to back you up that shouldn’t even be allowed to be used against you. I wish you the best of luck
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- 4y ago
I’m sorry that I unfortunately have no legal advice, but it’s really unkind for her to attack a part of you that is an illness. I hope everyone involved in the decision making can see that.
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- 4y ago
I'm so sorry that you are through this, it's not fair with you!
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- 4y ago
Yeah it feels like the people I confided in are now trying to leverage and utilize it against me out of dishonesty
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- 4y ago
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. It sounds extremely unfair and hurtful for her to use your imagination script writing to build a case against you. I obviously am not a legal professional, but I recommend getting a really good lawyer who understands mental health law and like others say, check with your therapists on here to see if you can give consent to release your records to a judge, as it will hopefully show that you have POCD and imagination script writing is part of your treatment plan.
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- 4y ago
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this, and that this kind of stuff is happening to people with common mental illnesses :( I don’t know any of the legal aspects surrounding this issue, but I strongly recommend having a competent lawyer and mental health professionals who are knowledageable about OCD to back you up. It is so unfair and stigmatizing that this is being used against you, and I wish you the best with whole issue! If you’re comfortable sharing, I’m sure when it’s all over many of us would be very interested to hear what happens!
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- 4y ago
Thanks everyone, I will let everyone know. I have the signed diagnosis from the therapist and the notion that erp is the most common practice. But I never went through therapy fully because my wife and her family said that “I would be sinning” and Satan would have a grip on me. I’ve been on medication since November and my world changed completely. The medication was discouraged in the past as well from my wife and her family. Again, I work full time, took care of my children, have a good career and been able to live a full life with this. So the fact that she is using it and twisting it to a lie makes me sick. If it’s certified therapy, wouldn’t she be lying?
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This is torture I can't even imagine what you must gone through . Yes she is lying . ERP is a form of therapy which is verified and please get a therapist to testify on your behalf. Take your medication if that is what helps you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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- 4y ago
Hi again, I’m so glad to hear you have professionals on your side and also that you are finally able to access medication and treatment! I think that if everyone involved follows science and logic everything will be fine. I strongly believe that what she’s saying is not valid, especially against the word of professionals. We support you on this app, and I hope that will give you some hope as well :)
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- 4y ago
That is really sad , your wife should not use your mental illness against you
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- 4y ago
I really thought it’d be okay because it’s a diagnosed condition but seems to be a bigger up hill battle
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- 4y ago
Oh yes I understand , you have my empathy. It's a battle alright. It's not an easy one. Be patient and kind to yourself please.
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Yeah it’s just as if she’s using the ocd fear and making it real in another way
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- 4y ago
This is an opportunity for you as well to not perform compulsions
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Yeah I’m just trying to find a way to get a credible therapist to testify for me. I have the signed diagnosis with recommended therapy. But how would I get someone to speak to it. I don’t want to lose my children.
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- 4y ago
Have faith in God .
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- 4y ago
I don't understand a lot about divorces in the law aspect, but I imagine that the doctor who diagnosed you could prove that the script is just a part of therapy. As long as he is an actual doctor with license and all that, whoever decides about who gets the custody of your kids can't use the script as an evidence.
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I’m going through a really bad flare up. I developed ocd many years ago when I had my first child. Postpartum ocd. I suffer from harm and pocd. At first I had mostly mental and some physical compulsions but the physical faded away pretty early on and i’ve just done mental compulsions since. My ocd was in remission for alot of years and if the ocd would pop up now and again, I was easily able to shrug it off and not engage. A few years ago I went through a stressful time in my life and the ocd came back to stay. At first it was bad but then it got better and has been pretty mild until now. It’s been really bad this week and the physical compulsions are even back. I never thought it would ever get this bad again. My ocd is making me doubt who I am and how I feel. I know it’s all ocd and not real or true but the ocd makes it feel so real that I can’t easily dismiss or disprove it. The more I try to disprove it the more real the ocd makes it feel. I’m really struggling and don’t know how to get back on track. I don’t have access to a therapist because there are no ocd specialists near me and my insurance doesn’t cover online therapy. That’s why i’m reaching out here. Has anyone been through a rough relapse? How can I get through and past this??
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- 21w ago
Since I developed ocd as postpartum my ocd has mostly always targeted my kids. It started as harm and then switched to pocd. Both are equally very painful. For years I was mostly able to keep my ocd at bay but when it comes back it’s so bad. I have a son and a daughter and my ocd switches back and forth from kid to kid with horrible intrusive thoughts and now even intrusive ocd dreams. With each thought I get past and start to feel relief another one pops right up. The thoughts feel so real and true even though I know it’s just the ocd and not how I think or feel, the ocd always makes me doubt myself and question everything I think or do. I know other moms/dads go through this too. Please anyone who has or is going through this please tell me how you deal with this. 😪
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- 13w ago
Hi everyone, I’m Cayla. I’m a mom that’s lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughts—What if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldn’t be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I don’t have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault—and that she wasn’t alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughter’s OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isn’t talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them below—I’d love to share what I’ve learned. I’ll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
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