Hi! So I’ve suffered from POCD. My wife and I are getting a divorce and she is trying to use some of my imaginal script writing to make a case for full custody of our children. I have two diagnoses from here and they all know I have OCD. To the point that even Dr McGrath spoke with everyone. Does anyone have any advice on this? I love my kids and am looking for joint custody but I feel she is trying to use my OCD against me. I find no reason for this, I hold a 6 figure job and provided for my whole family through my OCD.

Don’t worry, she must have a pos lawyer who is telling her these things. It won’t be used against you. Just make sure you get a lawyer is who versed in OCD

I’m so sorry you’re going through this ! That’s just such shit that this is being used against you. I honestly think as long as you have your doctors to back you up that shouldn’t even be allowed to be used against you. I wish you the best of luck

I’m sorry that I unfortunately have no legal advice, but it’s really unkind for her to attack a part of you that is an illness. I hope everyone involved in the decision making can see that.

I'm so sorry that you are through this, it's not fair with you!

Yeah it feels like the people I confided in are now trying to leverage and utilize it against me out of dishonesty

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. It sounds extremely unfair and hurtful for her to use your imagination script writing to build a case against you. I obviously am not a legal professional, but I recommend getting a really good lawyer who understands mental health law and like others say, check with your therapists on here to see if you can give consent to release your records to a judge, as it will hopefully show that you have POCD and imagination script writing is part of your treatment plan.

I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this, and that this kind of stuff is happening to people with common mental illnesses :( I don’t know any of the legal aspects surrounding this issue, but I strongly recommend having a competent lawyer and mental health professionals who are knowledageable about OCD to back you up. It is so unfair and stigmatizing that this is being used against you, and I wish you the best with whole issue! If you’re comfortable sharing, I’m sure when it’s all over many of us would be very interested to hear what happens!

Thanks everyone, I will let everyone know. I have the signed diagnosis from the therapist and the notion that erp is the most common practice. But I never went through therapy fully because my wife and her family said that “I would be sinning” and Satan would have a grip on me. I’ve been on medication since November and my world changed completely. The medication was discouraged in the past as well from my wife and her family. Again, I work full time, took care of my children, have a good career and been able to live a full life with this. So the fact that she is using it and twisting it to a lie makes me sick. If it’s certified therapy, wouldn’t she be lying?

That is really sad , your wife should not use your mental illness against you

I really thought it’d be okay because it’s a diagnosed condition but seems to be a bigger up hill battle

Yeah it’s just as if she’s using the ocd fear and making it real in another way

Yeah I’m just trying to find a way to get a credible therapist to testify for me. I have the signed diagnosis with recommended therapy. But how would I get someone to speak to it. I don’t want to lose my children.

I don't understand a lot about divorces in the law aspect, but I imagine that the doctor who diagnosed you could prove that the script is just a part of therapy. As long as he is an actual doctor with license and all that, whoever decides about who gets the custody of your kids can't use the script as an evidence.