- Username
- JohnS
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Don’t worry, she must have a pos lawyer who is telling her these things. It won’t be used against you. Just make sure you get a lawyer is who versed in OCD
I’m so sorry you’re going through this ! That’s just such shit that this is being used against you. I honestly think as long as you have your doctors to back you up that shouldn’t even be allowed to be used against you. I wish you the best of luck
I’m sorry that I unfortunately have no legal advice, but it’s really unkind for her to attack a part of you that is an illness. I hope everyone involved in the decision making can see that.
I'm so sorry that you are through this, it's not fair with you!
Yeah it feels like the people I confided in are now trying to leverage and utilize it against me out of dishonesty
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. It sounds extremely unfair and hurtful for her to use your imagination script writing to build a case against you. I obviously am not a legal professional, but I recommend getting a really good lawyer who understands mental health law and like others say, check with your therapists on here to see if you can give consent to release your records to a judge, as it will hopefully show that you have POCD and imagination script writing is part of your treatment plan.
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this, and that this kind of stuff is happening to people with common mental illnesses :( I don’t know any of the legal aspects surrounding this issue, but I strongly recommend having a competent lawyer and mental health professionals who are knowledageable about OCD to back you up. It is so unfair and stigmatizing that this is being used against you, and I wish you the best with whole issue! If you’re comfortable sharing, I’m sure when it’s all over many of us would be very interested to hear what happens!
Thanks everyone, I will let everyone know. I have the signed diagnosis from the therapist and the notion that erp is the most common practice. But I never went through therapy fully because my wife and her family said that “I would be sinning” and Satan would have a grip on me. I’ve been on medication since November and my world changed completely. The medication was discouraged in the past as well from my wife and her family. Again, I work full time, took care of my children, have a good career and been able to live a full life with this. So the fact that she is using it and twisting it to a lie makes me sick. If it’s certified therapy, wouldn’t she be lying?
This is torture I can't even imagine what you must gone through . Yes she is lying . ERP is a form of therapy which is verified and please get a therapist to testify on your behalf. Take your medication if that is what helps you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Hi again, I’m so glad to hear you have professionals on your side and also that you are finally able to access medication and treatment! I think that if everyone involved follows science and logic everything will be fine. I strongly believe that what she’s saying is not valid, especially against the word of professionals. We support you on this app, and I hope that will give you some hope as well :)
That is really sad , your wife should not use your mental illness against you
I really thought it’d be okay because it’s a diagnosed condition but seems to be a bigger up hill battle
Oh yes I understand , you have my empathy. It's a battle alright. It's not an easy one. Be patient and kind to yourself please.
Yeah it’s just as if she’s using the ocd fear and making it real in another way
This is an opportunity for you as well to not perform compulsions
Yeah I’m just trying to find a way to get a credible therapist to testify for me. I have the signed diagnosis with recommended therapy. But how would I get someone to speak to it. I don’t want to lose my children.
Have faith in God .
I don't understand a lot about divorces in the law aspect, but I imagine that the doctor who diagnosed you could prove that the script is just a part of therapy. As long as he is an actual doctor with license and all that, whoever decides about who gets the custody of your kids can't use the script as an evidence.
(quick disclaimer that this is very hard for me to talk about and I’m thankful for any input you ladies could offer.) I’m a first time mom and loving it. However, I noticed my OCD spiking near the end of my pregnancy and it has only intensified since then. It manifests itself in sooo many different ways, at this point it’s getting impossible to manage. I bounced between therapist as a teenager but once I was living alone with my fiancé, I immediately developed a habit of “blacking/blanking out” at the time of my therapy sessions. I tried to reschedule but the same thing would always happen somehow. No pretty way to say it, we’re poor. Lower middle class.. if even. And as I was getting the courage to inquire about a state healthcare-covered therapist, I got a letter saying I was no longer eligible for insurance. I don’t know what to do. My OCD is truly putting my relationship to the test. My fiancé really has no clue how my mind works anymore, he can’t understand my logic (or lack of) and gets frustrated quickly. I’m scared it’ll eventually affect my daughter. Going to my family for help would be a mistake (been there, deeply regret that) and I’m against prescription drugs for many reasons. Does anybody else have OCD? How do you keep it from controlling your life?
I feel like I am going insane. My ocd has never been this bad before. I’m waking up every morning with extreme dehabilitating anxiety. I am gagging and using the restroom all of the time. My pocd has reached an all time high. I work in a law firm and read a very disturbing case involving child abuse and child pornography. Ever since my world has been twisted upside down. I feel like the line is so thin. Like anyone can cross it in a split second and their world can be flipped upside down in an instant. I have a daughter of my own and that night after having read that story at work, my intrusive thoughts and feelings were at an all time high. I was changing her diaper and had intrusive thoughts which I knew was going to, givin the triggering and emotionally draining day I had. I quickly pushed them out of my head and then what happened next is some what of a blur because I have spent the last five days ruminating it over and over and over again in my head. I was trying to get her to lay down in her crib and she kept standing up. I was gonna lay her down in a way that required me to maneuver her with one hand and that one hand would be in between her legs, over her clothes and her diaper. I see people carry and handle their babies like this all of the time but I always avoid it. This time I didn’t. I fought the compulsion to move my hand. Because it is in fact, not a sexual thing at all. But in my mind I had it made out to be. I remember moving her super quickly in that fashion and immediately feeling guilt like I did it in a malicious sexual way. Even though the movement itself is not sexual at all, because it has been in my mind forever as a sexual place I’ve always avoided it. I was attempting to fight the compulsion and now as a result because I didn’t move my hand, I feel like I have done something horrible. I feel so guilty. All because of a quick 5 second movement. I keep imagining me without my daughter, going to jail, her not having me, my family disowning me. I can’t handle the immense amount of emotional distress I am feeling because of this event. I keep feeling like I could’ve moved her in a different way, why did I have to move Her in the way that required my hand to be between her legs? Was it me trying to somehow act out on the intrusive thoughts I had previously? I am so torn apart by this. I would never ever intentionally hurt my baby. Ever. My biggest fear is her being abused. In an attempt to stand up to my ocd and desexualize that specific action, it has launched me into the worst ocd episode of my life.
So I saw my NOCD therapist for 9 months and we made SO much progress. Just loved her to pieces. She really helped me out and taught me so much, I miss her terribly. I started with my new therapist and we’ve met twice. My OCD is focused on my insecurity of being married and not wanting to have kids. I told my new therapist today that if I got divorced, I don’t think my OCD would be so latched onto it (since I wouldn’t be married or engaging in sex etc.) Anyway, after I said that she said she wasn’t sure it was OCD because OCD isn’t usually dependent on a circumstance. Does anyone get where I’m coming from? Just kinda confused now.
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