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Ugh, I’m so sorry. I deal with HOCD but I dealt with TOCD or GOCD also. It was debilitating. Mine came along with a bunch of urges, and the best I can say is the same advice we have for all themes. Sit with the anxiety and the uncertainty no matter how real and uncomfortable it feels. Anything else, trying to prove or disprove it will only feed the OCD and make it worse. Accepting the presence of the thoughts is not the same as accepting the content of the thoughts
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I just feel like I don't even know who I am anymore, I never questioned mu gender before and it feels like I'm losing myself its so scary
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It will feel like this for a while, but remember that you're still the same person that you were before :) if you're in therapy, be sure to tell them that you're suffering with a new subtype trying to squeeze itself in. I think a lot of us who have suffered with HOCD also have bouts of trans OCD. It is just another illusion to make you question it. Keep practicing ERP and sit with the uncertainty!
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Thank you! I'll tell my therapist about it
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Its the same process! ERP, sitting with the anxiety, and doing your best to accept uncertainty.
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Thank you so much for the support, I was starting to forget I'm not alone kn this
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I've been really overwhelmed with thoughts of detransitioning even though I don't want to like thinking I'm not a boy. It's been making my anxiety go up like crazy but I've never had this problem this much before, and I've always felt so proud of who I was and stuff but I don't know why this is coming up all of a sudden and I'm scared. I don't want to detransition but these thoughts won't go away. I often have feminine interests and have been trying to get into a better mindset and I feel like those things are making me feel more feminine and I don't want to feel that way.
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- 20w
This obsession is new, but feels so much more grounded and it’s so anxiety inducing. Since the ocd started I’ve lost my sense of self and confidence. I got soocd and it slowly turned into be doubting my identity on whether I want to identify or dress masculine or feminine. I don’t feel good in the clothes I would typically wear out before I’m constantly overanalyzing how I’m feeling , it makes me really anxious and like I’m preforming. So then I started doubting if I would rather dress masculine and it’s extremely anxiety inducing and idk if it’s the ocd now but it feels like that’s how I want to dress.. that’s not what I associated with at all before the ocd but now it feels like that’s what would make me feel fully confident and loose in the world, does anyone else experience this??
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I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?
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