- Username
- sillygoose1012
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I have
Told my girlfriend*
I'm super open with my boyfriend as ROCD is definitely the main type I suffer with currently and I think if you can do that it should help you, but be aware that you don't want to make him your therapist :p I have to remind myself that my bf is only human and I cant always just vent to him about my doubts about us as its full on. I think you should try to speak with him purely because OCD is stressful enough without the constant stress of having to keep a part of yourself hidden. Sending love xx
I understand that totally! Thank you! I just know he would blame himself and feel insecure in our relationship because he would think my doubt have to stem from SOMEwhere and I want to avoid causing him any pain or insecurity because I can't be like "sometimes I question if I love you" or like "my brain tells me to break up with you sometimes" ya know?? But I also don't wanna hide one of my biggest struggles. I appreciate your response though and I wish you the best!
I totally get it! My bf is helpful because he is very logical etc but even he gets ground down by it sometimes. Its such a nasty type of ocd but I'm sure everyone thinks their own type is the nastiest so! I've spent the last few weeks being so so distressed by these thoughts and have my first nocd session next week, but just reminding myself its ocd takes the fear away a little. Also explain to him that it affects the things that are most important to you, and if you got these thoughts and weren't bothered by them, then it wouldn't be ocd. Its super hard though, just one day at a time xx
I’m scared to tell my boyfriend. I’m not sure he will understand
Does anyone have any advice for sharing their obsessions with their significant other? I struggle with relationship and sexuality OCD. My boyfriend knows I have OCD, but we have never discussed it in detail. I think he is trying to respect my boundaries and I am terrified he won’t understand my obsessions and/or will take them personally. As a result I feel like I am hiding this horrible secret, and it is causing me so much anxiety. I want to talk to him about it, but I don’t know how to bring it up in a way that won’t hurt him.
For those struggling with with ROCD do you let your partner in on what’s going through your mind? My boyfriend is my go to person to talk to about anything going on my life and really the only one who understands ocd but I feel it can be hurtful for him if I share intrusive thoughts about our relationship.
I'm currently struggling if I should tell her (she knows that I have mental health issues but nothing exactly). On the one hand I think she's really supportive and understanding, on the other hand I'm not sure if it would just be a compulsions (confessing - which I used to do a lot) and I don't want that she feels insecure.
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