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I have
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Told my girlfriend*
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I'm super open with my boyfriend as ROCD is definitely the main type I suffer with currently and I think if you can do that it should help you, but be aware that you don't want to make him your therapist :p I have to remind myself that my bf is only human and I cant always just vent to him about my doubts about us as its full on. I think you should try to speak with him purely because OCD is stressful enough without the constant stress of having to keep a part of yourself hidden. Sending love xx
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I understand that totally! Thank you! I just know he would blame himself and feel insecure in our relationship because he would think my doubt have to stem from SOMEwhere and I want to avoid causing him any pain or insecurity because I can't be like "sometimes I question if I love you" or like "my brain tells me to break up with you sometimes" ya know?? But I also don't wanna hide one of my biggest struggles. I appreciate your response though and I wish you the best!
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I totally get it! My bf is helpful because he is very logical etc but even he gets ground down by it sometimes. Its such a nasty type of ocd but I'm sure everyone thinks their own type is the nastiest so! I've spent the last few weeks being so so distressed by these thoughts and have my first nocd session next week, but just reminding myself its ocd takes the fear away a little. Also explain to him that it affects the things that are most important to you, and if you got these thoughts and weren't bothered by them, then it wouldn't be ocd. Its super hard though, just one day at a time xx
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I’m scared to tell my boyfriend. I’m not sure he will understand
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