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- 6y
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- 6y
Memories whether they’re true or not are still just thoughts. It’s extremely difficult to look at it that way, but it’s the fact. They’re just thoughts. And such must be treated the same as any other intrusive thought. Accept the uncertainty, and don’t do anything when they show up. Sit in the anxiety until it passes and move on. Eventually, your OCD will stop throwing them at you all the time if you stick with it. I’m dealing with this now, some days are fantastic, some are rough. But the better days are starting to be more than the bad days when it comes to it throwing false or true (who knows) memories at me. The important thing is that you can’t control your past, only your present. You’ll make it thought this.
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- 6y
I don't have false memory buy I have damn persistent obsessions. They're so persistent because I ran from them for so long so now I'm exposing myself saying it might happen or I want it to happen. It's tough at time but it takes the power and fear away, and funnily enough the more I expose myself the less I feel like a bad person because I'm not anxious and I'm starting to realise it's ridiculous
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- 6y
Yeah, I’ve noticed the more I expose myself to it but don’t react the better it is. But it really holds back my life and makes me feel horrible!
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- 6y
When you say sit with the anxiety, do you just mean observe it? I usually say something to it in my head, like “that’s an OCD thought” Or I have doubts about this ‘what if’ so it didn’t happen. If it’s true, I’ll deal with it. That takes the fear away for me mostly. I’ve only been working on this for the last 7 days, before that for a whole month I was giving in to compulsions, researching, asking for reassurance, melting down every day! Does it get better over time? I feel a world of a difference 7 days later though
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Just let yourself feel it. I haven’t had a complete melt down in a little over a month. I’m pretty early in my recovery as well. I have good and bad days. But hopefully better days coming up. OCD will tell you that your methods to get better aren’t working. Don’t listen to that. Keep pushing.
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- 6y
Do yours make you feel like a terrible person? :/ I’ll keep strong
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- 6y
Absolutely everyday it haunts me. But I tell myself it’s because of OCD. And keep fighting. What other choice do we have? We will beat this and look back and laugh at it all!
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- 22w
People who went from a really bad time with OCD to a better time now. Is it really possible? What was your theme? Did you take medication?
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- 22w
So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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- 19w
im going to be vague here, but basically i did something in the past that i regret and it became a huge point of my OCD but i have talked to my therapist and i have mostly moved past it. i watched a video by an OCD youtuber that really put it into perspective. anyway, i have been with minimal worry for a few days, but now im having worries related to i think false memory? basically it’s like “oh but what if i said/ did this and just forgot that means i harmed this person im a bad person”. to me it sounds like textbook OCD but im just wondering if anyone else has experienced false memory / real event at the same time. i have a really horrible memory which is making it even more stressful. any responses are appreciated!
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