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- 6y
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- 6y
Memories whether they’re true or not are still just thoughts. It’s extremely difficult to look at it that way, but it’s the fact. They’re just thoughts. And such must be treated the same as any other intrusive thought. Accept the uncertainty, and don’t do anything when they show up. Sit in the anxiety until it passes and move on. Eventually, your OCD will stop throwing them at you all the time if you stick with it. I’m dealing with this now, some days are fantastic, some are rough. But the better days are starting to be more than the bad days when it comes to it throwing false or true (who knows) memories at me. The important thing is that you can’t control your past, only your present. You’ll make it thought this.
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- 6y
I don't have false memory buy I have damn persistent obsessions. They're so persistent because I ran from them for so long so now I'm exposing myself saying it might happen or I want it to happen. It's tough at time but it takes the power and fear away, and funnily enough the more I expose myself the less I feel like a bad person because I'm not anxious and I'm starting to realise it's ridiculous
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- 6y
Yeah, I’ve noticed the more I expose myself to it but don’t react the better it is. But it really holds back my life and makes me feel horrible!
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- 6y
When you say sit with the anxiety, do you just mean observe it? I usually say something to it in my head, like “that’s an OCD thought” Or I have doubts about this ‘what if’ so it didn’t happen. If it’s true, I’ll deal with it. That takes the fear away for me mostly. I’ve only been working on this for the last 7 days, before that for a whole month I was giving in to compulsions, researching, asking for reassurance, melting down every day! Does it get better over time? I feel a world of a difference 7 days later though
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- 6y
Just let yourself feel it. I haven’t had a complete melt down in a little over a month. I’m pretty early in my recovery as well. I have good and bad days. But hopefully better days coming up. OCD will tell you that your methods to get better aren’t working. Don’t listen to that. Keep pushing.
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- 6y
Do yours make you feel like a terrible person? :/ I’ll keep strong
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- 6y
Absolutely everyday it haunts me. But I tell myself it’s because of OCD. And keep fighting. What other choice do we have? We will beat this and look back and laugh at it all!
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- 24w
Hi, I’ve had ocd since I was 12 but the hardest theme I’ve ever encountered was false memory ocd and POCD. I’m convinced I’ve molested children and people and it disgusts me to my very core. Is there anyone else going through this? I really need to talk to people who are going through the same thing as me and can share their story because I feel so along in this false memory cycle because it feels like a real memory and I feel like I’m tricking everyone around me into thinking it’s false. Please help
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- 23w
Hey all, I've been okay for a while, but today I'm having a hard time with my sexually-themed false memory thoughts and the compulsion to try and "figure it out". While I've learned enough over time that "figuring it out" doesn't work, I'm just feeling extra overwhelmed today. Stuff that happened over 7 years ago is really getting to me, I'm in this limbo state just sitting here with it all but... ...anyone have any general tips for false-memory OCD?
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- 22w
False memory OCD is such a pest. It’s really hard to deal with the feelings of certainty and anxiety, trying to discern if things are false memories or real memories, what if they’re real memories, what if my OCD is right, what if because my OCD was right about one thing it’s also right about this thing, what if it knows something I don’t or haven’t realized yet, what if the real memory it’s taking from is actually false and the false memory is true. And it’s worse because the theme and false memory is so high stakes and it’s terrifying to consider what if it’s actually true and the consequences, but that only feeds the OCD, and it doesn’t help that I keep mentally prodding at it to see if the feelings of certainty are still there. It makes the false memories seem so real, and it’s like it wants me to admit the false memory actually happened when I don’t know that it did, and I’ll never know. I try to sit with the uncertainty but my OCD makes this feel so real and it creates so much certainty that this did happen that it’s so hard to keep telling myself that I don’t know, that this could be a real memory or it might not be and I’ll never know, and to remember that this came up a few days ago and I was pretty sure it was a false memory and I was handling it. Like remembering the false memory made it an actual memory. I have no idea if any of this makes any sense - it’s getting so meta lol. Reading all of this, it’s no wonder it’s so hard to sit with the uncertainty about if it’s a real memory or false. It’s been on my mind over the last week, too, which probably doesn’t help things, because the deeper I try to delve into it, the more complicated it becomes, and trying to point out that logically, it doesn’t make any sense, doesn’t help because my OCD comes up with scenarios and what-ifs and ways that this could have happened. It’s really tough to sit with when my OCD is so convinced this is true and it wants me to be convinced, too. I could really use some support, validation, encouragement, anything. If you made it this far, thanks for reading - please take care of yourselves. ❤️🤗
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