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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
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- OCDismyMiddleNameOCDismyMiddl...
- Date posted
- 3y ago
The more you focus on this energy, the more real it will feel. Once you remove that immense pressure, you will see reality. I speak from experience because I clearly remember being in your shoes with ROCD. Every little part of my husband I judged and critiqued as though I had a microscope and he was a specimen. Things felt "off," I felt as though I truly did not love him anymore. It felt particularly real whenever the anxiety subsided. You are never alone in this. A good ERP tool is to profess your love for her even if it feels as though you're in denial. Continue to do things with her and be in the moment. The truth is that love is not a fairytale. Love takes a lot of work and it takes so much time and understanding. It takes a lot of commitment and patience and so many miscommunications/tiffs/off days. Sometimes, you are going to dislike your partner. Sometimes you will be annoyed of them. That is called reality, but OCD makes you fear that it means that you do not love someone. Even if you left her, the question is, would the OCD leave too? More than likely, it would resurface no matter who you were with because it isn't the person you love; rather, it is an obsessive disorder that can consume you. You are so strong and you will get through this :) you're never alone!
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Well what also scares me is that like when she cries or anything it seems like i dont care or get annoyed which botheres me a lot..
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- queen of ruminatingqueen of rum...
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I struggle with exactly this worry / feeling with my boyfriend. It’s super hard but I try to let my love for him, which I KNOW is there, override my OCD thoughts & worries, although it’s definitely easier said than done.
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- whatadooowhatadooo
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Do you ruminate on this all day? Does it hit u out the blue all at once and deeply disturb you? Are you focusing on little things she does and it drifting u in to the is this right for me?? Are you doing anything to "check" if the love is there? These are good questions to look at to see if the theme of rocd is affecting you . Talk to a therapist, doesn't have to be a ocd one, it'll help your relationship alot hands down
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Whenever she does cry about something and usually it's about my OCD and how I tend to feel about her, i get annoyed and irritated. Right when it starts annoying me or anything like that I start to think "why am I getting so irritated? Shouldn't I be trying to comfort her?"
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- whatadooowhatadooo
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Sometimes oversharing our ocd can lead to damaging loved ones because they can't understand what we feel. Leads to a rabbit hole of assumptions that are very wrong. If I was you I wouldn't share the ocd induced doubts with your partner anymore(dont say that ur not doing so) Rather just share you're working on it if it's brought up and that you're glad she's around . End of story.
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- Samuel.deJong
- Date posted
- 3y ago
How do I tell if I’m in denial or if I may have rocd? It’s been getting really hard lately I’ve been getting a lot of thoughts about my girlfriend, but then I have little moments where all the thoughts and feelings just stop and I know I love her. I don’t understand what’s happening to me. If I didn’t really love her I wouldn’t want to keep going right? And I’m not scared to break up with her, I just don’t want to be without her I love her. I don’t get it.
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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Hello everyone, I really need help or advice (advice that isn't triggering please). My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half and I struggle alot with ROCD. I get scared that I don't love her anymore or I'm just in denial. Alot of the time it feels like the feelings aren't there and I I even get uncomfortable at times whenever she tries to kiss me or anything. On the other hand whenever I imagine myself getting better and the feelings coming back and having a future together it seems like it's what I want. Sometimes, it's like I have urges to break up and get scared I'm better off like that, now I don't know what to do but I do know that I want to just get better and stay with her. I just want to know if anyone here feels like this or maybe gets these urges and gets uncomfortable with there partner. Again, please no triggering comments. I would really appreciate it.
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- Chlo_alexis
- Date posted
- 2y ago
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Hey guys I have rocd and I need advise or some words of encouragement When it comes to the feelings of oh I dont love my boyfriend even when I say I do it feels like im lying to myself and it makes me discouraged but I am too numb to fight it Its like my body doesn't want to accept I do Moments when I think oh I want to do something with my boyfriend my brain and feelings shut it down like oh its just going to turn into a routine or nothing he does will make you into him It just makes me depressed and numb because I love my boyfriend a lot, I could not imagine leaving him when I know all I want is him Sometimes my head tells me oh you are too young to have rocd (im 19) or there's always the grass greener on the other Side why settle But I love long term relationships and I want it with him, I chose to date him because it was something about him that was just different and I instantly connected with him We also been together for almost a year (anniversary on August 25) and sometimes my head tells me oh if you guys were together longer its rocd since a lot of people that are on the app I've seen had their relationship for years With anyone dealing with this and go through these episodes in recovery what is it that you do that helps you go forward with your partner and not feeling like giving up
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