Someone please help. So ive been in my relationship for 6 years and now I don't have the love feelings that you have in the honeymoon phase, I just feel comfortable, safe, and normal around him. because of this, my mind thinks that something is wrong in my relationship and that I need to break up even though I heard that this is completely normal and healthy in a long term relationship. I want to know of any tips to help me cope with this or tips on how to get some feelings back. I feel like my medications and the pandemic have something to do with it as well cause we mainly just lay in bed all day together or go to the store when we see each other so maybe I gotten used to a routine and may be bored and need to spice things up. I just need some advice because I honestly have no idea if what I'm going through is supposed to happen in long term relationships cause this is the only relationship that I've been in. He's amazing and I always talk to him when I am happy, sad, or annoyed. He always tries to cheer me up and always says how he wants to marry me. I really don't want to lose an amazing guy and I feel bad that I'm doing something wrong. :(

I can relate to this. The pandemic has caused everyone to feel extra bored so do take that into account. I’ve been with my partner for over 2 years now and began experiencing this feeling of comfort and ease with the relationship and it scared me. It still sometimes scares me. I’ve had to really recognize that “love” is not one feeling. A long term relationship involves periods of time where you don’t feel “in love” or you may think about what it’d be like to be with someone else. This is all a part of it. This is why love is a choice. You have these thoughts and you get to decide whether or not you want to choose to stay. Throughout the past 6 months of struggling with rOCD, the beginning was horrible. Everytime my partner and I talked I felt anxious and scared. I was analyzing every little thing she did as well as questioning me if every interaction felt right. I definitely did not feel “in love”. However, I chose to live with that feeling not being there. I chose to continue to “love” her even when I felt empty. Why? Because I knew there wasn’t any thing she was doing that truly was making things bad. It was all this internal talk that was causing me to feel bad. I still struggle with it, but this past month I felt those “love” feelings again. They dwindled some. And I’m sure they will go away again. But to me that doesn’t mean that the relationship is wrong. If she was saying or doing something that made me go from a happy person to a sad person then yeah, I think there could be a problem there. But mostly when the “in love” feelings aren’t there, it doesn’t have to do with her. It has to do with my own problems that then get projected onto the relationship. Continue to seek support and knowledge on rOCD and anxiety in general. It really can brainwash you. Stay strong and know there is hope.

You aren't doing anything wrong. There's a video in Awaken Into Love about couples life in quarantine. And also lots of advises on long term relationship. I suggest you check that out

Sadly we cannot force feelings! We also have to expect that we may not always feel love or attraction every day! At the end of the day we choose to take loving actions because that is what we value and want! Feelings ebb and flow, plus the longer we want to feel a certain feeling the less likely we will. Same with the less we want to feel something, the more we will! Don’t force feelings or search for them, just accept them when it comes in! Feelings don’t last forever, remember that with the ones we don’t want!