Rhys34
- Date posted
- 3y ago
whatadooowhatadooo
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I suggest you don't use the term friend zone, ain't nothing worse than feeling like you had a genuine friend only to find they just wanted to f*ck you the whole time (from a girl's perspective lol) that term belittles the goodness of friendship as some how inferior. what you should say is that they've" looked at me as a friend when I wanted more" , you should state your intentions and interest in them early. If you don't state that you're interested in a romantic or sexual way and make it obvious that you'd love to get to know them and eventually date them, then being friends is a default for all people.
whatadooowhatadooo
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Not even more, but wanted something different.
IAWildFanIAWildFan
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Sounds just like me. Keep your head up and remember chicks don't like guys who are down on themselves. Besides there is more to life than girls but then again its natural so just do what you can do.
whatadooowhatadooo
- Date posted
- 3y ago
21 is still so young I promise you and its actually great you didn't get so romantically involved and go through all the trauma teenagers who engage in relationships go through, those traumas fuck up all their adult relationships. You will have a fresh start instead.
DrvmstickDrvmstick
- Date posted
- 3y ago
You need to get over your perceived need for a gf before you can have one. You can only be in a successful relationship if you see yourself as a whole valid person while single. Your current perception breeds codependency and that’s toxic. Also, you’re 21 there’s no rush. I didn’t have my first real relationship until I was 25. My gf was 27 and I’m her first as well. I used to have the same kind of attitude as you and I largely attribute my previous failures in the dating world on that. That and the fact that I’ve always dealt with ROCD, which I’m pleased to say I’m recovering from. Work on yourself, you’re worth no less as a single person. Also, I’d suggest you not use the term friendzone. Gives the vibe that you were only talking to someone for your own needs and that doesn’t come off well to many folks. Just a tip
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