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Coming from someone with hypersexuality and extreme and compulsive porn use these thoughts became very real to me. The reason why I developed HOCD is because I used to get off to homosexual porn and fantasies. At first I was trying to accept that I was bi but something wasn't right. Then I developed severe HOCD. I contacted a sex therapist and he told me try quiting porn. It wasn't easy but I did and since then i never ever felt attracted to homosexual porn or fantasy. My point is even if it makes you do it, its not always the case. There are people who can get turned on by anything that doesn't mean they indetify in reality as such. Fantasies are fantasies and reality is reality. Once you learn how to separate those two your HOCD can get better for sure. And groinals are very common. Everybody gets them but people without OCD don't get panicked over it. Don't worry too much. Hope you'll get through it.
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Ty this helps a lot! One of my themes is real event thoughts about taboo porn I watched when I was a teen and it really messes with me because I constantly question my identity and feel extreme guilt.
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@Isabella Exactly the same thing I have these days. Real Event OCD is the worst possible type because you can't simply dismiss it as something that never/will happened. I have the same thing about a past sexual fantasy and more specifically one and a half years ago that popped in my head while intercourse. At that time due to my excessive porn use and hypersexuality it seemed good but looking back to it I know there's no way i would like this in real life. I know its difficult but try to sperate the reality from the fantasy/porn. People like to get off to taboo/shocking fantasies and porn. That doesn't mean you would like to do it in real life. Many people get these type of fantasies over a time in their life but it is us with OCD who over analysing them.
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@Nick I struggle with the same thing so this sort of helps me too. I have real event OCD about lots of taboo things I've gotten off to when I was addicted to porn but I'm also sure I would act out none of those things. My compulsively porn use quickly transmissioned to whatever I could find the most shocking but I've been working on quitting and for the most part I have.
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@BigGip09 I relate so much to you bro. Like literally. I've been using porn since primary school every single day. The normal stuff would become really boring and then my tastes escalated to more taboo staff and shocking. The worst thing is once even while doing something (not intercourse) with my girlfriend in order for me to orgasm I had to think of extremely shocking and taboo staff which ruined me. However what I noticed is that if i stopped porn my natural desires would grow and the shocking and taboo staff would seem more and more disgusting. But unfortunately not the past haunts me and i have to live with the fact that I did get off to these type of stuff. Real Event OCD is by far the worst kind.
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@Nick now the past haunts me*
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@Nick Were prime examples of how porn can fuck up love and sex lives. Everyone has the same stories. The normal stuff is boring and they want something more and more crazy to get the same high. And still, people act like addictions don't exist and people act like this stuff can't help. The same thing happens with hook up culture. Sex is no longer a prize because you've done it so much or porn destroys the way your mind views sex, intimacy, and relationships. I've been a month off porn, 50 days, but the past still greatly bothers me. The taboo things I've watched, the things I've acted out on a young age, and the really fucked up shit I've seen and searched just to get the high off of a video. Those videos probably weren't even consentual and could have originated from dark websites and I don't even know it. You think all of it is fine until you realize how much damage this shit has on you. So much shit I regret in the past is because of porn honestly. The worries of being a pedo, deviant, pervert, or a sexual offender is all because of porn. None of these problems entered my life before porn or before being hooked on it. So I'm trying to recover from it the best that I can. I can't even enjoy sexual activities regularly because of how awful porn has made it for me. I can't do anything with it so I'm just not going to do anything at all. It's not going to be easy but it's still possible. What's even worse is that there's a stigma that this can't happen to women and only men, yet I know women like Isabella who have been haunted, traumatized, or scarred by pornography alone. Whether it'd be performers or viewers. It's just not a fair cycle but we're all trying to get away from it completely. I swear to God, this shit shouldn't be legal. It just shouldn't. If we had restrictions on shit like porn and virtual prostitution, the west would be seeing improvements.
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@BigGip09 Totally get it. Scientists are not convinced fully yet but I believe the reason for that is not many people will admit having a porn addiction. For me anything that you try to stop but you can't is an addition period. I tried stopping porn but my relapses have been so many. I wish I have never ever watched this monster called porn. It ruined my life and I feel like the "ghosts" of my last sexual fantasies and porn use will forever haunt me. I feel trapped in my own brain.
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@Nick I'm definitely not denying the fact that I'm addicted or have been while trying to stop. Controlling it is difficult and relapses do happen. But nowadays I can masturbate without the use of porn which does make me feel better but the post nut guilt is what I can't take so I don't do it. That's the worst part and I don't know how to work on that. I don't see what's the harm in admitting you have an addiction. It's admitting that you have a problem rather than trying to justify said problem. It's just more hurtful in the long run.
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@Nik07 Hey man. I am going through the exact same thing. I hope you’re still active on NOCD I really need someone to talk to!
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Absolutely! At the end of the day, groinals ARE arousal, but they are non-concordal, (I.e. they clash with actual desire and stem from OCD obsessions). A groinal response is a direct result of an OCD obsession, and it is not pleasant, nor is it wanted. It can become really anxiety provoking, because this is actual arousal (but non-concordal) it can lead to a possible desire to masturbate! That isn’t to say that you want x because of the groinal. This is probably reassurance, but I just feel like people need to know this!
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Ty I appreciate it! 🙏
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I know it’s uncomfortable I’m so confused again:/
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hi does anyone ever get a random grounal response then feel aroused but you don’t want to be like before i had the thought i was feeling a little aroused then i had a random thought and it had the ground response and i felt aroused i don’t understand.
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Everyone talks about the physical sensations that come with reacting to sexual content, even if it’s something you do not agree with (like bestiality, pedophilia, or incest). But what about the mental feeling, like when it feels like you liked the thought? I think I might have asked this before, but does anyone else relate? It stresses me out that I have a mental reaction to something of sexual content more than groinals. Anyone else?
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18+ Don’t view if under 18 People say ocd arousal isn’t actual arousal feeling but it’s groinal response but mine feels like actual arousal is this normal?
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