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I haven’t been in this position yet but always thought about how I’d do it if I did. I always thought I’d ask them to research into pure o ocd and it’s themes and for them to try and explain to me their understandings of it, maybe then have a sit down conversation about ocd in general, to make sure they fully understood it all, and understand that the themes aren’t the issue, and then once he understood that I would then tell him about my theme? :)
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I understand how scary it must be with these more taboo themes, I myself have HOCD and I’ve never told anyone
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@MelodyMoo This is great advice. Thank you so much :)
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@Anonymous No worries!
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It really depends on the relationship you have with your boyfriend. I started having hocd within one year of the relationship. I like to think I have a really strong bond with him, and we have a very open and honest relationship. So i told him. It was a really difficult conversation at the time but he understands I have immense anxiety. I can tell you my hocd/rocd got a lot worse, and yet he is still in the picture.
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And we arw abour to hit 2 years of being together
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Congratulations on almost hitting two years!! My boyfriend and I have a very honest relationship, and he has been amazing with my general anxieties. He also suffers from anxiety and I don’t want to make my ocd his problem. I know it will be difficult, so that is why I’ve been avoiding it
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@Anonymous I know it may seem that you feel like you are putting a burden on your relationship but your boyfriend is in your life because he loves you and is here for you and I’m sure you would want your boyfriend to tell you something he was stressing about.
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maybe be alone together and talk about it?
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Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
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I am at a very difficult spot in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a history of cheating that for years we’ve been trying to work through. To me, it makes a lot of sense that my OCD has attached itself to this and for the last few years I’ve experienced intrusive sexual thoughts of others and relationship ocd. I have been open to him about the content of my thoughts and now, with a proper diagnosis of an anxiety disorder, I am able to reframe them and work through them with ERP so that my brain will *hopefully* get bored and stop sending them. But, things have not been easy. As a result of this and everything in our past, he has become anxious about all the scenarios where I could be having sexualized thoughts about other people. To him, if I am thinking something utterly different than what I am telling him or acting like to him, he can’t fully trust it. And of course, I can imagine how difficult it is to know your life partner is sexualizing others in her brain and to be able find a way to dismiss them as unthreatening, especially when past mistakes say otherwise. Is there anyone that has gone through this with a partner? And other than repeatedly explaining the egodystonic nature of my thoughts and providing reassurance, what are some things you did that helped them? Any advice helps! Thank you
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I can’t help but feel so anxious because of guilt. I feel guilty about not sharing everything about my OCD to my partner, but because I understand that confession itself is a compulsion and would not help anyone. I feel so anxious too that if all my fears come true and she finds out, then it would be so devastating for everyone especially her. Does anyone feel the same thing? How could I change my perspective on this?
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