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I haven’t been in this position yet but always thought about how I’d do it if I did. I always thought I’d ask them to research into pure o ocd and it’s themes and for them to try and explain to me their understandings of it, maybe then have a sit down conversation about ocd in general, to make sure they fully understood it all, and understand that the themes aren’t the issue, and then once he understood that I would then tell him about my theme? :)
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I understand how scary it must be with these more taboo themes, I myself have HOCD and I’ve never told anyone
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@MelodyMoo This is great advice. Thank you so much :)
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@Anonymous No worries!
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It really depends on the relationship you have with your boyfriend. I started having hocd within one year of the relationship. I like to think I have a really strong bond with him, and we have a very open and honest relationship. So i told him. It was a really difficult conversation at the time but he understands I have immense anxiety. I can tell you my hocd/rocd got a lot worse, and yet he is still in the picture.
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And we arw abour to hit 2 years of being together
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Congratulations on almost hitting two years!! My boyfriend and I have a very honest relationship, and he has been amazing with my general anxieties. He also suffers from anxiety and I don’t want to make my ocd his problem. I know it will be difficult, so that is why I’ve been avoiding it
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@Anonymous I know it may seem that you feel like you are putting a burden on your relationship but your boyfriend is in your life because he loves you and is here for you and I’m sure you would want your boyfriend to tell you something he was stressing about.
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maybe be alone together and talk about it?
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Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
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For those of you in relationships with ROCD, do your partners know of your diagnosis. I am new to treatment and new to this avenue of mental health. I am generally pretty open and honest with my partner about things but the dark side of my mind I keep hidden. I’m scared to tell him about this if I’m diagnosed. And I’m scared that if I’m diagnosed and something real does go south in the relationship then my diagnosis will be used against me.
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Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
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