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That's the problem I'm facing right now. Both my parents don't really understand what ocd is and can't really appreciate what I'm going through. Ofcourse they're still being supportive but it would've been much better if the people I'm living with actually knew what ocd is or have had any past experiences with it to appreciate me more. I'm obviously not wishing ocd on anybody but that's the only way you really appreciate what someone else is going through is to go through it youself. I would've never knew what ocd really feels like and how painful it can be if I'd never had it myself.
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You’re never a burden for communicating your feelings and experiences to your partner. I did worry about it at first but told mine and he was so caring and compassionate. It helped him understand why I was so anxious all the time
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Thank you! In what ways does he support you? I’m just curious to see how I could have my husband support me without helping me or assuring me you know?
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@Kathyammari Maybe try explaining to him what reassurance looks like and the negative effects of it. My boyfriend supports me by listening to whatever I say without any judgements, which helps me a lot
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My therapist recommended that we read a book together “his needs, her needs” and though we don’t read it every night and I was super nervous to ask my husband to read it with me he said yes and it has been a really nice way to connect with him. We usually just read a page or two, so that could be a way to do exposure (being a burden) but that really isn’t being a burden to your partner. I am sure they will love to help you.
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Yes and I am so much better off now that I have a partner who understands and can help me fight :) It was very scary and daunting but the more people I tell, mum, sister etc the better I feel
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Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
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I am at a very difficult spot in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a history of cheating that for years we’ve been trying to work through. To me, it makes a lot of sense that my OCD has attached itself to this and for the last few years I’ve experienced intrusive sexual thoughts of others and relationship ocd. I have been open to him about the content of my thoughts and now, with a proper diagnosis of an anxiety disorder, I am able to reframe them and work through them with ERP so that my brain will *hopefully* get bored and stop sending them. But, things have not been easy. As a result of this and everything in our past, he has become anxious about all the scenarios where I could be having sexualized thoughts about other people. To him, if I am thinking something utterly different than what I am telling him or acting like to him, he can’t fully trust it. And of course, I can imagine how difficult it is to know your life partner is sexualizing others in her brain and to be able find a way to dismiss them as unthreatening, especially when past mistakes say otherwise. Is there anyone that has gone through this with a partner? And other than repeatedly explaining the egodystonic nature of my thoughts and providing reassurance, what are some things you did that helped them? Any advice helps! Thank you
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- 15w
Hi all, I would really appreciate some advice on how you told a loved one about having ocd, specifically a significant other. I’ve been with mine for over 5 years, and I just had a recent diagnosis of OCD. To be honest, with the subtype I have, it’s really crippling to deal with, and I have a major worry of my partner not understanding the subtype. I would love to get some advice on how to best approach it and how to provide understanding that I’m still the same person. Thanks!
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