- Username
- KathyA
- Date posted
- 3y ago
That's the problem I'm facing right now. Both my parents don't really understand what ocd is and can't really appreciate what I'm going through. Ofcourse they're still being supportive but it would've been much better if the people I'm living with actually knew what ocd is or have had any past experiences with it to appreciate me more. I'm obviously not wishing ocd on anybody but that's the only way you really appreciate what someone else is going through is to go through it youself. I would've never knew what ocd really feels like and how painful it can be if I'd never had it myself.
You’re never a burden for communicating your feelings and experiences to your partner. I did worry about it at first but told mine and he was so caring and compassionate. It helped him understand why I was so anxious all the time
Thank you! In what ways does he support you? I’m just curious to see how I could have my husband support me without helping me or assuring me you know?
@Kathyammari Maybe try explaining to him what reassurance looks like and the negative effects of it. My boyfriend supports me by listening to whatever I say without any judgements, which helps me a lot
My therapist recommended that we read a book together “his needs, her needs” and though we don’t read it every night and I was super nervous to ask my husband to read it with me he said yes and it has been a really nice way to connect with him. We usually just read a page or two, so that could be a way to do exposure (being a burden) but that really isn’t being a burden to your partner. I am sure they will love to help you.
Yes and I am so much better off now that I have a partner who understands and can help me fight :) It was very scary and daunting but the more people I tell, mum, sister etc the better I feel
I’ve just downloaded the app because I’ve had a very bad break down in front of my best friends because of a trigger regarding a social obsession that I have a lot of trouble with. And I regret that this isn’t the first time but it’s been a little over 6 months since the last one in front of them. This break down has caused a lot strain between us, and they feel as if I’ve unfairly blamed them for something even though I’ve tried to explain that I understand my emotional reaction was not rational given the situation, and that I don’t in fact blame them for anything and that I feel horrible for the situation itself and not being able to be normal during it rather than them. I think it’s difficult for anyone without OCD to understand how this feels so I can’t blame them for being upset with me. My question to anyone who doesn’t mind sharing is, if anyone has had a lot of strain caused on the relationships with your loved ones, were you able to repair it? And if so could you please give me tips on how you managed to explain your situation to them?
Does anyone have any advice for sharing their obsessions with their significant other? I struggle with relationship and sexuality OCD. My boyfriend knows I have OCD, but we have never discussed it in detail. I think he is trying to respect my boundaries and I am terrified he won’t understand my obsessions and/or will take them personally. As a result I feel like I am hiding this horrible secret, and it is causing me so much anxiety. I want to talk to him about it, but I don’t know how to bring it up in a way that won’t hurt him.
I'm currently on a break with my new partner of 3 months because I haven't been able to make them understand what my relapse has been like. What has the conversation around OCD been like for you and your partner? Do you give them resources? How much do you tell? Do you tell about triggers as they happen?
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