i’m going to have a panic attack (i beg that u read) i became very close with this guy i met on omeagle a he definitely told me he was 17 and i told him i was 15 (which i am) and forward a few months he is the guy i go to for mental health support because he has been through the same. and i told him about my first bf when i got him. but then this guy started to get a bit too interested and he asked for nudes. i said no. but then considered what if my bf wants them ?? i want to know that he would like what he saw. so i asked him ( the omeagle guy ) if he would tell me honestly if my bf would like it. it wasn’t a nude it was litterally a bikini top. that’s all. and i’m not gifted so nothing was showing. he told me my bf would love it etc etc. and i was happy. but the omeagle guy got more interested and because i felt like i liked it i kept using it as proof that i’m not gay. and me thinking he was 17 i kind of let it happen as banter while continuously reminding him that we are just friends and i have a bf and he said yes he understands. today he told me he’s 18. making him an adult and me a minor. and he’s telling me i told him i’m 16 when i’ve had 15 in my bio for ages and i told him i’m 15. i’m scared i’m going to be arrested or that he still has that pic of me but he’s screen recorded his camera roll to make me feel assured that he doesn’t have it. i’m reallly panicking what do i do

I also second this, I hadn't seen until I posted. I think we forget how different 15 and 18 years old is, when I think about myself at both ages my maturity levels were vastly different so it is concerning when 18 year old guys are okay with talking to 15 year old girls online. I'd also hate to think you're being taken advantage of assuming he knows you have OCD, so knows you might be a little vulnerable.

also. he told me that he did tell me he was 18 but i don’t remember. now i’m saying to myself but what if i did see that but forgot. am i in the wrong

@immagiveup35 No, that’s classic gaslighting. He’s lying to try and get out of trouble.

@backtogiality but even if he did tell me at i still in the wrong for going ahead with it. i’m carrying a lot of guilt rn

@immagiveup35 No. Like you said, it wasn’t even a nude and even if it was he was manipulating you. You’re not to blame here.

This is a great response! The part about cropping your face out is a great idea, because there’s no way for them to prove it’s you in the picture. I didn’t actually read the bottom line of your post and agree with Tanaya. There’s no way you’d be arrested, but I’d be cautious about talking to certain people online. If they lie about their age once, they’re likely to do it again.

@backtogiality Yes, from what I know of the law here in the UK a minor can't get arrested for sending "suggestive" pictures to an adult and the police need to be alerted firstly for this to even be an issue but I get her anxiety around this man that seems untrustworthy having pictures of her in his phone.

@Tanaya thank you so much both of you i’m from the UK too. and he did ask me for the pictures. but i’ll admit our msgs weren’t exactly PG but i assumed it was banter like i have with my friends. i’ve never sent a naked picture to anyone i was wearing a bra/bikini thing. i am still scared tho. i regret it deeply and i blocked him. i’m so so so so scared i’m going to be arrested. i’m convinced every police car is for me

@immagiveup35 I know that paranoia, but everything is going to be okay. You’ve done nothing wrong and it’ll all work out.

@backtogiality i feel like a bad person waiting to be arrested

@immagiveup35 Resist that thought. You’re the victim in this situation - the only crimes that have been committed are by him. I’ve also been a victim of a predator before and know how that guilt feels, but none of this is your fault. Everything he has done he has done knowingly and that is on him. It’ll get better, I promise.

@backtogiality thank you. i will admit my messages weren’t exactly ‘PG’ or whatever and therefore i feel like the bad one. sorry for bothering you i’m just really panicky rn

@immagiveup35 You’re not bothering me in the slightest! I can promise you you will NOT be arrested. He’s the only one to have done something legally wrong.

@backtogiality thank you. that is what i needed to hear;)

@backtogiality can i ask. the paranoia is really bad. how do i calm myself down. i keep blaming myself

i have blocked him thank you for your help i really appreciate it

thank you so much. this is what i needed to hear. can i just ask. will i be arrested?

@immagiveup35 No not to my knowledge. Have the police been alerted or are you just worried they might be? The most they'd do is tell you not to share pictures online for your own safety but they cant arrest you as you've not committed a crime 😊

@Tanaya i’m scared they will. i will never send a picture again but i am still scared that i’ve done something illegal

@immagiveup35 You will be fine, I'm aware that I'm giving you lots of reassurance which isn't good for OCD sufferers. You just have to allow this feeling to pass I know it's hard but eventually you wont be bothered much by it anymore. Might I ask is this one your OCD themes worrying that your a bad person or is it just general anxiety around the situation?

@Tanaya i’m not sure. ever since i was about 9 i’ve had this thing where i have to make sure i don’t get arrested. i don’t know what it is but i’ve had many ‘your gonna be arrested’ scares

@immagiveup35 Oh okay, that makes more sense now. If you've never been arrested then the chances of that happening now are very unlikely, let's put it this way theres people that have committed serious crimes and they've never been arrested. The police also arent that good at their job most times anyway. The way I see it is OCD uses this as one of your fears and it makes you hyper aware of not wanting to get arrested but you haven't committed a crime so that's not going to happen but my advice so you can try to overcome this fear a little is to say to OCD maybe I will get arrested or maybe I wont, I dont actually care. The less you try to reason with it the more control you will have. I've never been arrested before but I know it's not as bad as it is in the movies aslong as you comply with the police, I'm only saying this just to ease your anxiety around being arrested. It does also depend on what kind of police officer you're dealing with. Whilst I know this might be giving into OCD a little, it might be helpful to research on what you can and cant get arrested for going by your age group, just to help these anxious moments you have about it.

@Tanaya thank you so much. i really appreciate your response

@immagiveup35 You're welcome, we're all here to help however we can