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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Username
- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i saw that too:( all i have to say is you will live a happy life! just because you have ocd does not mean you won’t have a good future/life. if you want to get married and have kids do it!! you are deserving of so much and deserve love and more! it might be tricky with ocd but at one point in your life you will be calm with your ocd! my advice is to go to therapy if you aren’t in it already and do erp. it will help you sooo much and therapy is so good for you! i’m wishing you the best. you got this:)
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- Anonymous Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I’ve been meaning to start therapy. My only concern is that I’ll be pushed into telling the therapist the nature of my thoughts and that’s the part that scares me. My brains telling me if I tell a therapist my thoughts they’ll say that I’m an exception to ocd and they’re true (which is pretty irrational I know) so I was wondering does yours push you into saying what your thoughts consist of? Or should I be able to get away with not saying what they’re about until I get comfortable?
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Anonymous it took me a bit to talk about my ocd themes and i know it can be very scary but with an ocd specialist they know about pretty much every intrusive thought they’ve heard it all. start by talking about a little bit of your thoughts maybe not the extreme ones and work your way up to talking about it more! take your time and do whatever makes you comfortable!
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- Anonymous Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@sb12367 Thank you so much you’ve helped a lot!
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- stop.stop.
- Date posted
- 3y ago
There’s a lot of stigma with dating people with mental illnesses and just being with people that have some sort of disability or dysfunction in general. I remember telling my advisor that I feel like a burden to anyone who would roommate with me which is why I didn’t want one. My advisor is blind and she has felt the same way. She told me that even though it’s common to feel like a burden, you’re not. Anyone who loves and cares about you will stick with you. No one is easy to be with period. We all have something that can make it difficult at times. That’s okay. I feel like there’s always that concern that having unaddressed issues or trauma will impact someone in your life and it can. My mom has unaddressed trauma and mental health issues. She is emotionally abusive towards me and struggles to parent. I think maybe that’s what they were referring to. Not that people with OCD or even severe OCD can’t be with people, but people who have completely unaddressed problems that are out of control can negatively impact how they interact with people. If you’re starting therapy or at least have some self awareness about it and are conscious about what you do as a partner, I think you’re okay. OCD shouldn’t stop anyone from doing anything.
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- NicaNica
- Date posted
- 3y ago
To a certain extent, I’d say they’re right. Any mental illness out of control affects those around you. It’s a hard truth, but it is what it is.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i think anyone can get married and do whatever they want. i don’t think people should be sharing any negative stuff like this. yes you are right it might make it hard sometimes but like i said if someone truly loves you and wants to be with you they will work it out and be a team and if it doesn’t work it doesn’t. it doesn’t hurt to try to fall in love. anyone can do it i feel theres a stigma around people with mental illness shouldn’t get married when really they can do whatever they want that’s their business and they will make it work
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- NicaNica
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@sb12367 You can do whatever you want, but you also have to think about the people around you. Life isn’t all about you, it’s about others as well. Healing is up to you, and it’s great to have a spouse that supports you. But after a certain point, it’s on you to fix yourself and realize if you’re being toxic, there’s a chance you’ll be broken up with.
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- m2
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- 3y ago
Does anyone have any advice for someone with contamination OCD that is living with a partner without OCD? (Especially given that that partner intentionally or unintentionally sometimes /often says things that make me feel worse/down). I could really use any advice anyone has right now. Things are starting to feel hopeless and I don’t know whether it makes sense to continue with the relationship or if that’s just a temporary feeling in light of what I’m going through. I just feel so alone and misunderstood.
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- Date posted
- 1y ago
Ocd around the thought of getting married
This is just kind of a rant but any encouragement would be so much appreciated, thank you ❤️ I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is incredible, kind, funny, smart, hardworking, so so loving-just an extremely good person. In 2021 I developed or at least recognized my OCD. I’ve been diagnosed with OCD, anxiety and depression, definitely quite the list. Each of these conditions mingle with each other and make life very difficult at times. At the beginning it centered around me being a bad person but slowly grew to be relationship OCD. I have fears that I don’t really love him, I’m not actually attracted to him, I’m going to cheat on him, he doesn’t make me happy or that he would be better without me and is a better person than me. Lately I have this fear that one day not to far away he will prepose to me and I won’t be excited. Or that he will feel more for me then I do for him, or that I will have to fake my excitement. I have this vision of myself feeling nothing when he asks me and having to fake it. It’s just such a sickening thought to imagine not feeling the intense joy I always knew I would feel if he proposed to me. It’s so strange because before I had bad OCD I used to dream of that day, I would ask if he thought he might prepose to me one day and if his answer wasn’t certain enough I would feel very sad. It’s terrible because I’ll get depressed and feel nothing positive for any aspect of the world-including my relationship, but OCD will take that and twist it into me not feeling anything positive for him. Which will in turn make me feel more depressed. You ever just want to hide and pause the world for a little while so you can catch your breath? It feels like the weeks go by so slowly but still suddenly I’m nearly grown up.
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- stoprunning
- Date posted
- 34w ago
Dating and confessing vs actual venting
Hello. I've been struggling with OCD for a very long time and about 6 years ago I got divorced after being married for a very long time and I often feel like I am very alone because I don't have anyone to talk to about this like I used to be able to talk to my ex-husband about it. I always feel very lonely now and find it particularly hard whatever my anxiety gets very high and sometimes you just really crave a hug from the right person. I've wondered if I used that as a compulsion in my marriage to know that everything would be okay. But I also know that that's just part of having a partner is that sometimes you just need that and I don't have that anymore. I am 43 and I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone but sometimes I'm scared that if I do find someone else I will latch on to them and use them to seek reassurance that everything will be okay. I hate being alone how do you all navigate dating and telling someone about your OCD and themes?
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