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- 6y
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- 6y
Well sometimes intrusive thoughts happen so often like they are always there it gets confusing plus you could be doing mental checking such as “do I enjoy these thoughts?” Or what’s real and what’s not since ocd feels so real Your not alone though
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- 6y
I’ve wondered the exact same thing, and it’s just another way that our OCD tries to trick us.
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- 6y
I do mental checks constantly and I get urges to do terrible things and it makes the anxiety worse. I don’t know what to do when they happen. I try to tell myself “No, that’s terrible, stop thinking about that and relax”, but they eventually come back and are more persistent. I was struggling with HOCD for 6 months and now POCD has just started and I can’t stand to be around children even though I know I’m born to be a mother. These thoughts have genuinely ruined my life and all sense of happiness and I’m only in the early stages of this. I’m honestly terrified of myself.
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- 6y
I went through this as well it’s just another way for you to get sucked in don’t do it! Resist the urge to figure things out ❤️
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- 6y
I deal with HOCD and believe me, I’ve done the same thing so many times and attributed the desire to ‘check’ (a compulsion) to the desire to think the thoughts/want them. But that’s just the OCD (and the fact that people across themes have described the same feeling shows that it is). I think maybe when you tell yourself “no, that’s terrible, stop thinking about it...” it’s you resisting the thoughts. Instead, I find it helps to do a mini mindfulness/meditation, and sit in the thought and tell yourself “huh, maybe, but I’m going to keep doing what i’m doing and not worry about that thought”. Rather than giving the thought a negative reaction (“no, that’s terrible..”) or an overly positive one (“ya, I do like that”), giving it a neutral reaction tells your brain that the thought really does not matter, and that you are going to live by your values and by your own decisions, and not how your OCD tells you to live. Eventually the thoughts (or rather the anxiety and value that you give to them) will become fewer, and things will start to make sense again. I hope this helped a little bit!
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- 6y
That has helped a lot! This all has. Thank you all so much. I honestly don’t know where I’d be if it wasn’t for this app.
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- 25w
I need advice for intrusive thoughts. I used to feel like I could handle them. They weren’t nearly as bad as the things that related to my actual life. But now, I’m suffering. I haven’t had a sexual experience in over a year that didn’t involve constant intrusive thoughts. Most are somehow related to kids and I keep chasing off the thoughts but it’s so bad. I know you’re supposed to ignore them but I don’t know how I can just ignore that and continue what I’m doing. But they’re coming on stronger. I had one earlier I could not get rid of just as things finished so the thought came on strongly just before my orgasm hit and now I feel absolutely disgusting. I hated the thought and I know it’s not me and it was not enjoyable but it still feels like I was getting off to it. I feel sick. I’m so fucking tired of these thoughts. They’re in my every day life too and it’s all the time. I just want it to stop but ignoring it feels so wrong. What should I do?
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- 19w
I honestly can’t tell when thoughts are being affected by OCD. Sometimes I think I have what I think are normal “grey” thoughts, but then OCD adds so much weight to them and I spiral. I had this thought that I wished my boyfriend was more confident or independent. I felt so guilty for thinking it. I told him, and of course it hurt him. He told me it’s a normal thought to have, I just dwell on it too much. And that it’s the kind of thought most people keep to themselves. That’s the thing. I don’t know what’s okay to keep to myself and what isn’t. I think sometimes I say things out loud not just to relieve anxiety, but because I genuinely don’t know what’s okay to think or say. I do not know the line between a normal grey thought and something that’s “bad” to think. I don’t know how to tell if it’s something I should process privately or something I need to be ashamed of. I get this confusion with intrusive thoughts too, but those are easier to spot and evaluate. This is harder, because again, it is *my* thought. That makes it harder to sit with. Maybe the intrusive part is the voice that questions what kind of person I am for even thinking it. I don’t have the same telltale signs anymore. My physical anxiety isn’t there anymore, it’s all in my head and that makes it so much more confusing. But I don’t know. The line between honesty vs compulsion is so blurry. I just feel lost
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- 19w
Help! My OCD has caught onto this thought for awhile and I keep spinning on it. I know you are supposed to follow your values and what your actions suggest with OCD, but what if that is even blurry right know? For example my whole life I wanted to be with a man, and now my OCD is having major intrusive thoughts about women. How do you tell if those thoughts are wanted or not? I can’t figure out if I like the thoughts or not. I’m trying to live the life “I want” but what if I don’t know what that is?
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