just saw that one of the internalized homophobia symptoms are obsessive thinking and compulsive behavior. LIKE WTF? ISNT THIS OCD? so u are telling me my hocd is internalized homophobia??? oh gosh

This is the real comment here ^

Thank you for saying this, i really needed it. It made me feel a lot better, which is rare nowadays:)

Good point!

Exactly its kinda of bias when they say that its internalized homophobia it is made up.

Internalized homophobia is real but its not like OCD. Its more trying to tone down your gayness because people will judge you or worrying that you are bad because of it. Just because it triggers you doesn't mean its not real but just because its real doesn't mean you are experiencing it.

@207 Internalized homophobia is very real and it’s something lots of people deal with, regardless of sexual orientation. Even a straight person could have it

@PinkLotus Straight people can have internalized homophobia?

@PinkLotus Its just homophobia if you are straight.

@207 Now im scared that’s me oh lordy🙃

@hate_ocd.123 Use it as an exposure. Don't do your compulsions and let the anxiety flow away.

@207 I think that it can totally be used as a term in a more general sense. Just like how some people say they aren’t racist but they feel uneasy around people that look different. Internalized homophobia would make total sense if it wasn’t used to say everyone with it is gay. There are some people that feel uncomfortable around gay people without any outside or physical reasons besides them being gay. Still they don’t say their homophobic because to be fair they aren’t holding any hatred towards them but still. That’s why internalized homophobia for what it’s talked about as doesn’t make sense to me it sounds like manipulation on the same level as conversion therapy take that as you will.

@NihonWarrior516 The definition of internalized homophobia is: The gay person's direction of negative social attitudes towards the self. (Meyer & Dean, 1998, p.161)

@207 Well I didn’t say any definition. I’m just commenting with the lack of grey areas that cause confusion among people with OCD in general. How are people supposed to accept uncertainty with the lack of shades of grey? If anything there is a lack of definition that makes sense, with illnesses there are some that share the exact same symptoms but how do they identify them? There is a ground work, at what rate do they symptoms occur, is it caused by a bacteria or is it a virus, or is it a mutation? With mental health it’s similar but it’s more set in stone. It can be difficult to diagnose someone because it truly depends on what they share. It’s common for sociopaths and psychopaths to fly under the radar because they never tell the whole truth. Even then you can diagnose mental illnesses through physical tells, you can tell if someone is a compulsive liar through tells (only if they make it obvious). But every single case of a certain mental illness shares damn near identical symptoms, mannerisms, and effects. Internalized homophobia may be a real thing but it’s mislead, just like OCD is. People thought OCD was something that made people clean a lot so people would say they had OCD for just that reason. In contrast internalized homophobia is something that carries nothing but a clear answer to why you were feeling a certain way, it’s an explanation not a mental illness. But people throw the word out there to everyone, making a list of symptoms that change accordingly and can also be basically everything someone with SO OCD experiences and stuff that your average person may experience. It’s a broad term and that means it loses credibility in the long run since its not being told like it’s something you have it’s being told as an answer to a problem. I’m just saying there are a lot of people who maliciously throw around that term, to the point that it loses credibility and becomes somewhat of a form of manipulation.

@NihonWarrior516 I don't understand a word of this, but you do you.