- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
I've been with my partner for 7 years and didn't start having OCD till early last year. He handles it alright. He has gotten better at understanding what's going on when I am asking the same question often or seeking reassurance from him. So he tries to avoid giving me reassurance when I am in the throws of OCD. He is understanding and incredibly loving. I'm lucky. However, it is hard sometimes. A couple of months this year when things were bad were difficult for both of us, but I think it has brought us closer and more in tune with each other and our needs.
My husband and I have been together for nearly 10 years now. I told him very shortly after we started dating about my struggle with OCD. He has always been supportive but does sometimes need a reminder that it is something I struggle with. Communication is key. You have to communicate how you are feeling otherwise your frustrations and anxiety with yourself can be taken out on your significant other. It doesn’t have to be in depth but I will tell him if I’m having a bad anxiety day or moment and he knows when to give me my space, comfort, support, etc.
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Last night I was staying at my boyfriend’s house and couldn’t sleep. I felt like i desperately needed to go back to my parents and clean and organize my room. This has happened a few times before when I was staying at his place. Since then he’s been very upset with me. Does anyone else’s partner do this? Any advice? It’s been hard. He’s made me feel so shameful for having OCD. As if it’s not tough enough /:
Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
For those of you in relationships with ROCD, do your partners know of your diagnosis. I am new to treatment and new to this avenue of mental health. I am generally pretty open and honest with my partner about things but the dark side of my mind I keep hidden. I’m scared to tell him about this if I’m diagnosed. And I’m scared that if I’m diagnosed and something real does go south in the relationship then my diagnosis will be used against me.
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