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Iāve done a lot of horrible things too. Itās really difficult, and when I say horrible, I mean down right shameful. Iām ashamed of the person I used to be. I believe people can change, but youāre right, it never feels like it applies to me. I donāt know what youāve done in the past, but the fact you have remorse shows you have a conscience. Youāre not alone, weāre only human, I saw your bio and says youāre 19, I am too. Just try to remember we were children and teens who didnāt habe good impulse control, thatās what my therapist told me. I donāt ever try to excuse what Iāve done because I know what I did was wrong, but I simply just want to know if itās possible to move forward after all of it. So youāre not alone, have you been going to therapy? I found confessing to those closest to me helped, but confessing to everyone isnāt great though, but yeah, I hope you keep going, not one human is perfect, and we all do bad things, youāll get through this though! Sending loveš
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Thank you so much š is 19 years old.. still young or at this point I'm old enough to know better? I feel i still make mistakes linked to my past. Its frustrating. Thank you though again. Your words really helped š
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Honey, you're definitely not alone in this cause I'm going through the exact same thing as you. We are human beings and we are meant to make mistakes! Please be kind and gentle to yourself. š
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Thank you so much! Please also remember that for yourself as I know sometimes it's easy to forgive and understand others but hard to do the same for yourself. You deserve to forgive yourself no matter what you did or feel you still do . Thank you for being so kindš
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@šø You're welcome, dear. You're literally so kind Omg thank you so much, dear. I'll remember that and you too, remember that okay? ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø And yessss you're right it's easy to forgive and understand others but myself. But we have to realize that we're only human beings and we're not perfect. Same to you, you deserve yo forgive yourself no matter what you did or feel you still do. ā¤ļøā¤ļø Thank YOU for being so kindš
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Let me know if you wanna talk. I'm always here. š
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Thank you!! Same for you š
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I just wanna say I relate to this post so much and Iām also the same age! Iām in therapy for my issues and itās hard to disclose the real event stuff to my therapist but erp helps so much even if itās an actual bad thing. People make mistakes both small and large, you donāt deserve to obsess about it 24/7 and feel debilitating guilt and anxiety over it. Mine seems like the worst irredeemable thing ever and sometimes & I feel like it could legit mean something about me but thatās just ocd talking. after treatment Iāve had moments of clarity & realizations that it means nothing about or that itās not as bad as ocd makes it out to be . Show yourself more kindness, ocd loves attaching to stuff like this to use as āproofā if your anything like me itās probably the main thing fueling your obsession. I would definitely seek out an ocd specialist if you havenāt already, this subtype can be really debilitating. Hope this helps
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Thank you so much! I'm sorry to hear you also go through something similar to what I do. Back in 2020 my ocd really developed. It wasn't cause of something I did years ago but because of things I was doing then, even developing ocd ..i was still doing them. Maybe even things I regret this year too. But I take everyday as a learning experience and I try and grow from it. I will try and seek professional help because I feel I really need it at this point. I feel the exact way you described. The guilt, shame and anxiety really overwhelm me and make me feel I don't deserve another chance at life...I also always fear it means something about me..I do try and ignore all those feelings.. though sometimes it gets hard. It really is the main thing fueling my obsession. I will take your advice! Thank you again š
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You can change if you want to. A lot of people donāt. But you have the agency and personal responsibility to change, yes.
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I would really appreciate it so much if someone took the time to read this and help me. I donāt know what to do anymore. I havenāt posted here in awhile. I had my OCD managed pretty decently for a year or so on medication, but I had to stop taking it, and after around 3-4 months, the OCD has become unbearable again. It used to be much more surrounding existential themes, eating, and others, not really real event/false memory stuff. But now itās gotten really out of hand and I donāt know how to do it anymore. Itās surrounding a time of my life a long time ago. It was a dark time. I wasnāt myself and I was going through a lot of things, and I did a lot of things I regret. I self-destructed, embarrassed myself, and wasnāt good to the people around me. I was able to get my mind off of it for a long time, even though I would still think about it a good amount. I was able to be in the present, at least moreso than now. But now that Iām off medication, the guilt has become my obsession again. I canāt move on. I canāt do anything without thinking about all of these memories. Iām obsessed. Iāve started hating myself again, so much so that itās hard to do anything anymore or believe I deserve anything good. The people around me tell me it wasnāt even that bad, but to me it was. To me, I failed myself, lost myself, and failed everyone around me. I canāt stop thinking about every person I said something wrong to or every time I screwed up. Iāve now started to convince myself I did terrible things I canāt remember, and that my mind just canāt deal with it. And thatās why I feel so guilty. Thereās nothing to really support this though. But Iām starting to really convince myself thatās true. Iām trying not to listen to it, because Iāve convinced myself I have hit people with my car before and havenāt remembered when I absolutely didnāt and I know I never have. I drive back over and over to check thereās no one, even though I never heard any bang or felt myself anything. I can convince myself of some crazy false memories. So I know that I shouldnāt listen. But itās hard not to when I have this guilt gnawing at me constantly. I come to conclusions that this guilt must be because I did something terrible that I donāt remember, even though I already think the things I remember were bad enough. But I would know by now right? If I did something bad I donāt remember? I donāt feel like this all the time. But itās a lot of the time. But maybe that should be reassuring, that I only start obsessing like this when I think to. The past haunts me though. And I can never be in the present. Iāve started to resort to some unhealthy behaviors to distract myself or help me work towards something. I am starting to hate myself so much and feel like thereās no way Iāll ever be able to get out of this loop. I feel like I just canāt do this anymore. Maybe I need to go back on medication. But I donāt know. I donāt really want to. But will I ever fix this without it? Why do I feel SO guilty, all of the time? I do all these things for people because I feel indebted to them, because I feel undeserving of everything. I feel awful about myself. I donāt know what to do. Does anyone else deal with this?
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