- Username
- alittleapple
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I am going to tell you a story that I have never shared with anyone. So I was bullied in elementary school. But it got really bad in junior high. I was bullied from the time I walked in the door until I left for the day and it wasn't just one person. There were numerous people. At one point, someone started a rumor about me and the entire school was talking about me behind my back. But when I started high school, it had pretty much stopped. I was in Girl Scouts for 12 years. The summer after my junior year, my troop took a two week trip to the Pacific Northwest. We spent a couple nights in Salt Lake City, then we went to Oregon, Washington state, and then Glacier National Park in Montana on the way back. We took Amtrak from Chicago to Salt Lake then rented a coach for part of the trip and then took a different Amtrak route back home. We went to the Space Needle and Pike's Marketplace. While in Seattle, we had 4 girls to a room. 3 of them I requested to room with. But the fourth girl was kind of a loner and nerdy. I didn't like her. Probably because she reminded me too much of myself. At Pike's Market, I had been in a joke shop. I bought some soap candy that looked like real candy. The three of us decided to gang up on the other girl. I came up with the idea to melt the soap candy in some lemonade with hot water and then cool it down. She also said she had never seen an R rated movie. So we found one with nudity and a lot of blood and made her watch it. She asked if we could watch something else. But we said we wanted to watch it. We made her watch the entire thing. This happened in 1994 and I cam still see her face. She looked like she was about to cry. I have no idea why I did that. Thats not who I am. It wasn't just a matter of not putting a stop to it. I actively participated. I have lived with the guilt of that night. I wish I could tell her I am sorry. But I can't. I eventually realized that I just have to let it go. We all do things that are cruel and hurtful to others. Sometimes its accidental and sometimes its intentional. If a close friend told you a story like yours or mine, how would you respond? Would you tell them they are a horrible person who doesn't deserve to live? I doubt it. Treat yourself the same way. Easier said than done, I know. But let it go. Torturing yourself won't do anyone any good, trust me. If she tells you that you hurt her feelings or something. Apologize. Don't make excuses. Just say "I was wrong doing what I did. I'm sorry" if she doesn't bring it up, then let it go and forgive yourself.
Thank you so much 😭I’m crying. Thank you so much for sharing, I know it must have been so difficult. I’m so proud of you for coming so far and now helping me as well. I don’t know why I am so unforgiving of myself. Thank you so much💗
@alittleapple I completely understand. I am incredibly hard on myself too. I would never dream of talking to another person the way I talk yo myself. But I'm glad my story helped you. That is a story even my closest friends don't know. My mom was on that trip too. Thank goodness she never found out. She would have been so disappointed in me if she knew. That is not how I was raised. But it feels good to talk about it.
Call a hotline if you want to do it and you are blowing it way out of proportion. When i was 16 in sophomore year i used to think being pretty was everything . So id talk about how much i hated fat people amd people on my 600 lb life and laughed at them. A fat girl always watched me and i did it anyway. I can relate with the suicide obsessions. As a senior i understand my mistakes and wouldnt do that
Thank you 💗
Please don't give up. Things will definitely get better. Please don't end your life and please don't hurt yourself. You're just a human being, please be kind to yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Please call the Suicide prevention hotline: 1-800-273-8255 Or text the suicide prevention textline: 741741 I promise you, things will definitely get better. 💙 Please don't give up.
Thank you Anna 💗
@alittleapple You're so welcome, dear. Don't let OCD win. Don't give any value to OCD. 💕
@itsAnna I will try💗
@alittleapple Good. Try your best not to let OCD win.💜 You're not alone in this. We're in this together. You'll get through this, my sister💜.
I think I might be becoming a bad and miserable person because of my past. Recently a lot of people are being exposed for manipulating a child or person, and I started to think back if I ever did such thing. I think I did as a kid, but Idk. When I was a kid, sexting or virtual sex was a thing ( there was no nudes or anything very explicit, it wasn’t that far. Kid would just pretend to do the sex thing). It was very common ( it might have not been for you, but I would see this in video games) for some reason, and I was kind of into it but weirded out by it. I’m glad kids nowadays don’t do that anymore, but when I was a kid I gave it somewhat a try. It’s weird to explain, but this is what happened. I was about 12-14 years old, I don’t remember what age, but all I remembered is that it was the start of me going through puberty. I played this game called “second life.” It was a virtual social game, where you meet up and hangout with people virtually. It’s like vr chat, but not vr. Anyways, a girl invited me to her virtual house. I quickly accepted it invitation because...you know... I was a kid and my mind was like “oh my god, I finally have a online gf” I entered her virtual house, and we were playing truth or dare, then got bored. (I’m sorry this is we’re it gets weird) she asked “now what?” And then I asked if she wanted to go to the bedroom. She said sure. My heart was beefing fast and I was aroused because I felt like I had a gf ( when I say gf, I don’t really mean gf, it was a think kids would say when they hung out with a girl) and I never did this before I think, I hope it was the first and only. (This is very weird ik) This is we’re things got sexual. Once we got there, you know....think you know we’re it was headed. I asked if she has a emote dance that can re-enacts the doggie style. She said yeah, and we did the disgusting thing. I don’t think we said much of anything sexual because weird kids and we’re scared to type anything sexual. I might be wrong I don’t remember much of the conversations. All I remember was that we just had our avatars do the actions and just watched. 30s of that weird disgusting thing, and my arousal then climaxed. I freaked out when I climaxed. I started to realized this was a weird and disgusting thing. I was mostly scared of the climax because I felt like it was unnatural. I was scared of what just happened, and so I quickly told the girl to stop. She stopped, and I idk if she asked why or anything. I was too weirded out and just said “I have to go. Bye” she said ok. And I left. I deleted everything. I deleted the game and swore to never touch that game ever again because I thought it was evil. I think I also delete other social games that had similarities to that game. I never wanted to ever interact with a person online because that experience felt very disgusting and regrettable. Years later, I a 16 year old, find out about YouTuber manipulating underage fans. And I see my little cousins talk about their online bfs and gfs. I remember the disgusting situation that I took part when I was a kid. The I started to get scared. What if that “gf” was way younger than me? What if I manipulated her and I caused irreversible physiological damage? The whole interaction from when I was invited to the end of the interaction lasted only like 5-10 mins, I might be wrong though. I feel very horrible and miserable. I have no idea who the other person is that was the first and last time I ever interacted with them. I think I might have asked for their age, and it was my age, but I don’t remember. Maybe they were my age, and so that’s why we continued to be “bf and gf” during the interaction (not really big and gf, it a thing kids used to say) I feel bad for the other person. It felt like we both liked each other, but the possibility of the unknown age gap scares me. I feel like I did no damage to the person because it ended very quickly, but the possibility that I did still whispers to me. I’ve been starting to hate myself recently because of this. Maybe I deserve it, I have no idea. I don’t know how to look at that situation. I could make the argument that we were just two dumb kids who did something stupid or It could be seen as me manipulating and hurt someone. I don’t know what to think of it or how to feel. I now am starting to believe my existence should not be allowed to continue. I feel like I am not allowed to be happy at all. My family invites me to do fun stuff and hangout with them, but I reject their offers because I feel like I should just rot in my bed. I never felt very miserable and it hurts, but I feel like I deserve to be hurt. I might not deserve anything good I get in my life for what I might have done to the person. This might be the first time I ever spoke about this. I need some guidance in my life. What are your thoughts about all of this? Have you ever been in a similar situation? How should I feel about the situation? Am the evil person who hurt someone or were we both just dumb kids? Anything will help me. I’m going to tell this to my therapist m, but I feel like she might not help me. I feel likes it a “you screwed up your life” type of situation. Anyways I hope you have a great day wether you hate me or not. Thank you if you have read this far?
I don’t know if I have anxiety or OCD but I’m sick of feeling so stressed and so guilty all the time. Like that’s all I feel these days. There was a girl that killed a biker by my school and 1 I was worried that I did it and forgot. 2 I was so stressed about thinking of her side and how she felt that I was sick the rest of the day. I don’t know how to control this either it sucks.
I need some peace of mind or advice. I don’t know if it is my ocd but I feel immense guilt over everything & anything. I was friends with a girl who was pregnant and I cared about her and thought we were good friends. I haven’t know her long but she asked me to be her baby’s godmother. I ended up after a while telling her I couldn’t cuz I’m not well mentally/emotionally right now & then i tried to reach out she read & ignored my text. Then today she got in an awful car accident & her boyfriend posted the pics in our work group chat. I immediately assumed the worst and thought it was fake. It is isn’t and she lost the baby. I feel like such an awful human being for assuming something so awful. I feel such guilt cuz now the manager was wanting me to go to hospital with them & I feel like I don’t deserve to. I think it more upset me cuz the accident pics were awful and last year I lost my brother in a car accident. Please give me peace of mind I feel awful and don’t know how to get rid of the guilt of how awful I am.
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