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- 3y ago
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- 3y ago
I’m sorry your having a rough time, But life is worth living! You’ll get through it and it may be tough but I’m sure there are many ways you can still have intimacy. Hang in there ! There’s always hope ❤️
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- 3y ago
Hey, it's okay to feel upset about that - it must have been a distressing realization, and if you want to feel sad for a while, that is completely alright. Jealously/envy is okay and normal, too. It's alright to feel the way you're feeling, but try not to lose hope - your life is still very much worth living. There are ways to experience intimacy that don't involve sex directly, and even those ways that do aren't necessarily closed off to you. There are treatments for chronic pain, and the doctors mentioned that the discomfort could become less with time. Perhaps it is a bit like OCD...different of course, but a bit similar...in the sense that it may never vanish completely, but with time and treatment, it could fade to a point where it is manageable and doesn't interfere with your decisions. Especially given all the advancements happening in medicine right now, treatments for pain could also become much more advanced and sophisticated with time; we could see some remarkable developments even just in the near future. No matter what happens, though, I am sure that there is a way forward. Don't give up on life.
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- 3y ago
Thank you. I hate the fact that out there some people can choose how to live their life; and some others can only adapt; and stay in pain. There are a lot of ways in intimacy yes, but I will never feel the right pleasure without suffer... i just want to be normal sometimes
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- 3y ago
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Although I can’t say I have the same physical problem, I can totally relate to the feeling of frustration and disappointment knowing that I may never have the amount of sex and intimacy that I desire, mainly due to the fact that my current partner doesn’t want it as much as I do, and have always struggled to find someone who can understand and fulfill my sexual needs. I too have always wanted a life full of intimacy as you say. I start to envy other couples who have a great sex life. So I can totally understand your feelings of envy and being so frustrated at not being able to experience that.
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- 9w ago
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