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- 3y
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- 3y
I’m sorry your having a rough time, But life is worth living! You’ll get through it and it may be tough but I’m sure there are many ways you can still have intimacy. Hang in there ! There’s always hope ❤️
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- 3y
Hey, it's okay to feel upset about that - it must have been a distressing realization, and if you want to feel sad for a while, that is completely alright. Jealously/envy is okay and normal, too. It's alright to feel the way you're feeling, but try not to lose hope - your life is still very much worth living. There are ways to experience intimacy that don't involve sex directly, and even those ways that do aren't necessarily closed off to you. There are treatments for chronic pain, and the doctors mentioned that the discomfort could become less with time. Perhaps it is a bit like OCD...different of course, but a bit similar...in the sense that it may never vanish completely, but with time and treatment, it could fade to a point where it is manageable and doesn't interfere with your decisions. Especially given all the advancements happening in medicine right now, treatments for pain could also become much more advanced and sophisticated with time; we could see some remarkable developments even just in the near future. No matter what happens, though, I am sure that there is a way forward. Don't give up on life.
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- 3y
Thank you. I hate the fact that out there some people can choose how to live their life; and some others can only adapt; and stay in pain. There are a lot of ways in intimacy yes, but I will never feel the right pleasure without suffer... i just want to be normal sometimes
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- 3y
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Although I can’t say I have the same physical problem, I can totally relate to the feeling of frustration and disappointment knowing that I may never have the amount of sex and intimacy that I desire, mainly due to the fact that my current partner doesn’t want it as much as I do, and have always struggled to find someone who can understand and fulfill my sexual needs. I too have always wanted a life full of intimacy as you say. I start to envy other couples who have a great sex life. So I can totally understand your feelings of envy and being so frustrated at not being able to experience that.
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- 20w
Never feels like I can fully put my mind to rest. The problem with OCD for me is once I'm over one worry there's another buried deep into my mind that I'm not fully over. The two events I'm not completely over is when I tried to help a 17 year old with POCD when I was 19 and the topics unfortunately were detailed and even then I explained to them I wasn't comfortable with talking to them. I guess I just had a hard time saying no to someone needing help but it eventually made me so uncomfortable that I stopped talking with them altogether at some point. Then the other thing is being so worried that I committed a crime because my elbow touched someone's behind when I didn't want that to happen at all. I didn't want to listen to my OCD by saying move my arm or something horrible is going to happen so I didn't and then something bad actually did happen. I thought it would just be a light touch while zipping a bag up but then it was worse than I ever wanted it to be and it was so awkward and I hated it. I feel like I just won't be able to get back to the way I was before OCD started all of this. Aside from that I've just had extreme health anxiety but am too afraid to reach out to a PCP even though I need to. Something deep down is telling me I should do this but I'm just so anxious and embarrassed about sharing things to them. I can't even enjoy the things I used to do because this is constantly just messing up my life. I'm hoping I get a start of positivity next time I see my therapist. This just sucks. Feels like others around me are doing so much better than I am and I'm just kind of stuck on these same problems and feeling absolute shame and guilt from the past over and over again. I'm just so sick of dealing with this every single day so I just use escape whenever I can. Even that doesn't really work. I just wish I could go back in time.
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- 17w
since february i have "POcd". Initial symptoms were thoughts, but then I did a testing compulsion during an intimate time, and I spiraled ever since. I struggle with addiction to smut. I'm cutting that out, but I feel as if it is too late. Ive never experienced this much mental, and emotional anguish in my life. On my time on this application I have given advice to others, and helped around, but I wonder if that even applies to me. Millions of times I wish I could turn back time and be more careful. I want to prevent many things, including what led me to spiral into OCD in the first place. I'm surely having an OCD episode. I have gotten a diagnosis, but I'm still not sure. I feel evil, cause unlike many here, I tested on my body sensations and it backfired (twice) I know I'm not supposed to figure out why that is the case, but now I have to live with it for the rest of my life even if its something I don't desire. This is disgusting for me, it is abhorrent. I could've never seen this coming. Day by day I've become more fearful of living with this, "OCD". I was a normal person before this, I knew what I was attracted to, I know my preferences, so why did this come about? This is singlehandedly the most painful thing that has happened to me and I have nobody but myself to blame. I am scared of death but I also would'nt mind sleeping for years on end. My parents and brother were understanding of my situation, but I failed them regardless. I don't want them to see me this way, nor do I want them to learn more of my predicament. I'm cooked. I know it, Fin, thats all folks. I'm only 20 and I already have other diagnosed mental illness so I recklessly brought upon myself another one. Its agonizing to live through, I wish this on nobody, not even my worst enemy. I can't even identify myself at this point. Its tearing me apart.
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- 12w
I’m so tired. I’m so tired. I’ve lost so much weight due to this mental illness. I sleep 18 hours a day to escape these thoughts. I grieve my old self so much. I miss crushing on men, I miss loving men, I miss dressing up nice and get compliments from men, I miss listening to music and daydream about my dream man. I miss wanting to get married and have my own kids with my dream husband. All of those things… I’ve desired them so much and I’ve daydreamed about them so much. My OCD is telling me that it’s all fake. I miss my old desire and love for men. I’m so tired of being alive. I’m so tired of seeing multiple posts where people who apparently suffered from SOOCD became their fears. I’m so tired. Cause y’all probably didn’t even have ocd in the first place idc. I will say it again, has it been someone with pocd or harm ocd and their obsessions/fears became true NONE of y’all would’ve had the same reaction. Stop normalizing soocd obsessions becoming true. It is someone’s worst nightmare. People are out here attempting because of it.
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