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kto24
8d ago
  • Relationship OCD

I find quite often I will imagine future conversations with my partner - often these conversations are in relation to something bad, e.g. imagining my responses to her breaking up with me. In this case, I think I see that's some form of rumination; I'm trying to control the fear and uncertainty that I might get broken up with by imagining it to control it. But I also spend time imagining good scenarios and imagining our conversations and what I would say in them. Is this still rumination? Something else? It's trickier to be aware of it, in a way, because it feels like a positive thing. And yet I can still waste hours of time doing it.

azaleas
7d ago
I often try to think of ways we could be happier. The more we try to feel a certain emotion (ie love) the more it can evade us. I don’t have an answer for your question but hours of time could indicate rumination.