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- 6y
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with watching porn, as long as it doesnt lead to you creating unrealistic expectations for your wife. My boyfriend watches porn and it does not offend me at all. I know how you feel though. Last week, I confessed every little detail of my wild past to my boyfriend. Lets just say oversharing is not your friend, and what you do with your own privacy is only your business
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Thank you for writing this. I struggle with similar things. Idk if you are religious, but a big part of many religions involves confessing to the lord in prayer. Try doing that and maybe that will help you feel better. But that may be a form of checking so maybe not. Just an idea. You got this
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Ye, well OCD has a flavor of morallity + harm OCD. So it can be like fear iay cause have to a loved one by not being careful enough or by thinking that I'm a bad person. And when harm OCD comes in we get this agressive impulses. From my experience I believe that with harm obssesion you get agresdions and it causes us to think in black and white . So we get hooked on small things but maybe we need to look behind the scenes
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- 6y
i struggle with the same thing. i have an obsession of accidentally hurting someone’s trust in me. you’ve got this. just remember that your wife obviously trusts you and that you love her so much.
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- 20w
I have false memory real event ocd, I’ve been married 13 years and I used to constantly bring up past mistakes from when we were dating and it RUINED our marriage, but I got medication and therapy and things got better untill a few weeks ago where everything crumbled. I have a memory that is 13 years ago of me being intimate with my husband (than boyfriend) while being intimate I have a memory of sending a text to a male who obviously liked me but I didi not while my husband was under the covers . And I keep thinking over and over how disgusting and inappropriate it was to do that especially doing it in the middle of being intimate 😞. I have confessed this to my husband last year and he didint believe me saying it’s probably a made up memory and would are not a slut and wouldn’t do that. Now i have guilt all over again for weeks and it’s taking such a toll on me it’s all I think about and try to remember every detail I’ve thought about it so much I don’t even know if it’s 100 percent true. But I can vividly see it when I close my eyes. How do I get over this guilt without confessing? Confessing would absolutely destroy my husband.
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- 17w
When I was single, I watched a lot of porn, specifically lesbian porn even though I’m straight. When I got into my current relationship I dwindled down and eventually stopped watching porn of any kind, around six or so months ago. I had a flare up recently that has caused me to question every part of myself including my sexuality and my identity, my relationship, and other things that are important and valued to me, and porn keeps popping up in all of these things. I feel like my porn usage was me cheating on my boyfriend, especially in the early parts of our relationship. I broke down to him last month about it and he said it was okay, that he forgives me, but I’m still hung up on it because I can’t shake the feeling that I’ve wronged him and that I’m a terrible person and that I need to leave him because of this. This is so excruciatingly painful. I don’t want to keep confessing over and over and over again, but I don’t want to be a dirty lying cheater, which I feel like I am.
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I was watching porn years ago and i have intrusive associative thoughts. Ocd says the person in the videi resembles my relative or my wifes. I had this intrysive thoughts and then ocd says since it reminded me of her relatives what if i was arousing over them. Im nit attracted to them and its ego dystonic. Ocd says if i dud thats betrayal to my spouse. Ive confessed about this so many times and did last night. Then this morning ocd says i didbt confess last night when i did ir kt wasnt good enough or thus detail means i couldve or i need to confess this detail. I was doing fibe this year snd this intrusive memiry and what if just hit me yesterday and ive been ruminating abd feeling guikt and unworthy of my spouse. Please help
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