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If you love her you can choose her!I know the OCD feels really really real, but it is not you. If you love her, choose her.
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I want to choose her but how can I if this is nagging at me all the time. The worst part is it feels like it’s always been there but now it’s just getting stronger and stronger. Idk
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@BradOCD Have you shared your struggle with her at all? I was feeling exactly the same way, but I told my fiancé what I was going through and letting that wall down was really helpful. It’s also scary! But not going through it alone (while in a relationship) is such a big help.
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- 3y ago
I totally understand - that's really a horrible feeling but just try best as you can to sit with how uncomfortable it all feels. and remember - OCD is OCD, don't get bogged down in content - when I'm staring at a tap that I know is off and I'm trying to leave my house, the tap is not the problem, OCD is the problem. :) The thoughts are not the problem, OCD is. Tell it "maybe" and try your best to carry on with your day regardless of whatever nonsense OCD is shouting :)
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But I feel really convinced now like it’s just who I am now!?!?
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Can ocd really do this to someone
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Yes
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@ocdman How can you be so sure
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@BradOCD Because I literally experience false attraction the attraction that I think I’m experiencing literally changes right before my eyes when I calm down
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- 3y ago
OCD is all about doubt and it attacks the things we love and care about the most- that's how it keeps us in its grip! So it makes sense in OCDs awful way that OCD would attack your relationship as it's clearly so dear to you. I'm so sorry you're going through this - it's really really difficult I know but try not to wish the thoughts away so much, try to say "yeah, whatever, maybe" and although that feels impossible the more you say maybe over time the easier things will be. :)
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When i calm down it just feels like I’m okay with it all? Like it makes it more confusing?
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OCD can latch onto anything, even feeling calm "why do I feel calm now? Shouldn't I be anxious? What does this feeling of calm mean?!" This is OCD doing its thing once again. It's really tough but you've got this! ✨
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@Gnathalie Idk what to do! 😬every emotion I feel makes me feel bad
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I feel so sad, alone, scared and hopeless. Until two months ago there was not even the remote possibility of being anything other than heterosexual and now the idea that I could find out that I was lesbian or bisexual terrifies me to death. Everything was born from the fact that I didn't feel sexual desire towards my ex-boyfriend and I started to be afraid that it was because I was a lesbian... how can I be a lesbian or bisexual if everything was born from this? I would like to run away from myself and my head. I would really like to go back and go back to my life before. I can't take it anymore. I just want to live my life like before
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I’ll cut a long story short… SOCD/ HOCD was one of the first themes I got when I was a teenager. The first one was health but I didn’t know that was OCD at the time. Anyway, I have had SOCD for 11 years. Sometimes it leaves me alone and it feels like I’m my own self again! Don’t get me wrong it lingers but I manage. But… IT IS BACK!!! My head is telling me that I am a lesbian and that I need to just admit it. I hate it. I have a boyfriend who I love unconditionally and this has just sprung out of a dream I had -.- I don’t want to be a lesbian! The groinal responses have always been the worst. It started when I was around 16, I woke up one morning and my brain just said ‘you’re a lesbian’, as you can imagine I freaked out, panic attack and cried. Then, my brain starts looking into my childhood… well it’s had a field day. When I was around 9 my friend showed me girls kissing on YouTube and then I suppose I got addicted to it. I then used to play on Habbo and walk up to girls and say ‘kisses’ etc. my brain is now saying that this is evidence that I’m gay. I DONT WANT TO BE A LESBIAN!!! I have no issues with gay people, I just don’t want to be gay myself. Sometimes, when the thoughts come in I don’t seem to get anxious but I get groinals and that freaks me out! I just want peace. I hate this. I get so many different themes. Now it’s this one and I just want to crawl under my duvet, sleep until they’re gone but then I end up dreaming about it!!!
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I feel awful that I keep coming on here whenever I’m down bad but oh my gosh OCD is the most painful shit that I have EVER experienced in my life and I have a physical chronic illness…. I hate to say it but I hate living right now it’s too painful… im crying as I type to the point where my stomach is hurting, I have pretty severe ocd I do have generalized anxiety and idk if that is connected with ocd but because of that I have most of the subtypes REAL EVENT OCD,POCD,ZOCD,ROCD,SOCD HARM OCD, you name it and I got it!!! a lot of also why I have have those theme is trauma growing up and involving those things^ as of right now i’m 25 and a women with the most loving boyfriend in the entire world before my ocd hit me I NEVER questioned my love and care and attraction with the love of my life I always knew I was going to marry and be with this person the rest of my life! Now with ocd it confuses me soooo much and now I think I’m gay and didn’t realize or indenial and listen I get it “don’t look for reassurance!” “It’s not the thing ocd is attacking that is the problem ocd is the actual problem!” Here’s the thing with that if I’m in a relationship and I’m gay that would mean I would have to leave that said relationship and to say that “oh yeah that stuff happens and you’ll move on” is absolutely devastating to me this is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE and your telling me that iv been lying to myself this whole time or that I didn’t realize?!?!? And that sexuality can change (even though some say it can’t google says otherwise and some people have said it can’t idek anymore) and all this other BULLSHIT I can’t take it WHY?!?! why does this have to happen why can’t I just be with my love the rest of my life?!? and yes before anyone says anything I have been attracted to girls more so when I was younger watching lesbian porn liking the body’s and fantazing them sexually it stopped when I got older but I still don’t get disgusted with women who are pretty it just makes me uncomfortable because I’m with the love of my life and before I remember talking to my partner and discussing certain childhood things I experienced and we discussed that we both could be a little bi and for certain I’m (demi sexual so I don’t even really care about looks) and I truly didn’t care!! NOW I do care even with being bi because again I don’t like thinking about anyone else but my partner but I do also know my parents are homophobic and I do think about if I am gay they wouldn’t be okay with that and I also dont want to deal with that so now I sound like in indenial right?!???? I didn’t even care about labels before my ocd it just didn’t matter but now it’s effected my sex life and it’s hard for me to enjoy sex with being so confused I’m so confused I googled everything can you still have sexual fantasies with same gender but still be straight? Can you fantasize about same gender or imagine marrying them all of it !!! And non of that disgusts me it just makes me uncomfortable AGIAN only bc I just love the partner I’m with right now!!! I’m so fucking confused do I have to leave my partner and accept that I’m gay is that going to happen in the future if I get better with ocd and find out it’s been true all along?!???
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