BradOCD
- Date posted
- 3y
LSea2021LSea2021
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- 3y
If you love her you can choose her!I know the OCD feels really really real, but it is not you. If you love her, choose her.
BradOCDBradOCD
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- 3y
I want to choose her but how can I if this is nagging at me all the time. The worst part is it feels like it’s always been there but now it’s just getting stronger and stronger. Idk
LSea2021LSea2021
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- 3y
@BradOCD Have you shared your struggle with her at all? I was feeling exactly the same way, but I told my fiancé what I was going through and letting that wall down was really helpful. It’s also scary! But not going through it alone (while in a relationship) is such a big help.
GnathalieGnathalie
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
I totally understand - that's really a horrible feeling but just try best as you can to sit with how uncomfortable it all feels. and remember - OCD is OCD, don't get bogged down in content - when I'm staring at a tap that I know is off and I'm trying to leave my house, the tap is not the problem, OCD is the problem. :) The thoughts are not the problem, OCD is. Tell it "maybe" and try your best to carry on with your day regardless of whatever nonsense OCD is shouting :)
BradOCDBradOCD
- Date posted
- 3y
But I feel really convinced now like it’s just who I am now!?!?
BradOCDBradOCD
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- 3y
Can ocd really do this to someone
ocdmanocdman
- Date posted
- 3y
Yes
BradOCDBradOCD
- Date posted
- 3y
@ocdman How can you be so sure
ocdmanocdman
- Date posted
- 3y
@BradOCD Because I literally experience false attraction the attraction that I think I’m experiencing literally changes right before my eyes when I calm down
GnathalieGnathalie
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
OCD is all about doubt and it attacks the things we love and care about the most- that's how it keeps us in its grip! So it makes sense in OCDs awful way that OCD would attack your relationship as it's clearly so dear to you. I'm so sorry you're going through this - it's really really difficult I know but try not to wish the thoughts away so much, try to say "yeah, whatever, maybe" and although that feels impossible the more you say maybe over time the easier things will be. :)
BradOCDBradOCD
- Date posted
- 3y
When i calm down it just feels like I’m okay with it all? Like it makes it more confusing?
GnathalieGnathalie
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
OCD can latch onto anything, even feeling calm "why do I feel calm now? Shouldn't I be anxious? What does this feeling of calm mean?!" This is OCD doing its thing once again. It's really tough but you've got this! ✨
BradOCDBradOCD
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- 3y
@Gnathalie Idk what to do! 😬every emotion I feel makes me feel bad
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- Date posted
- 23w
I'm so convinced it's just denial
I feel sick to my stomach, a few days ago I knew I was straight and could picture my life with my bf again. The anxiety has really lessend and Im more depressed now. I'm 100% convinced I am lesbian even tho I have never had sexual attraction to women, found them pretty but never wanted to be with them. My mind is only picturing me being with women now and it feels like a pit in my stomach. I don't feel emotion now, I'm also on my period. I don't want to be lesbian. I want to be with my boyfriend and have the life I pictured with him. My memory is so dissorted right now. I don't think there's anything wrong with being lesbian, it's just not for me and now that makes me feel like I'm homophobic.
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Mariabae
- Date posted
- 22w
i feel so bad
I feel so lost. My boyfriend tries so hard to help me, but nothing seems to work. Every time he reassures me, my mind finds another doubt. He asks me, “So you’ve been questioning if you love me for almost 2 years?” and instead of feeling comforted, my mind jumps to “Maybe I just can’t accept that I don’t love him.” I keep telling him every thought that comes to my mind, hoping for relief, but it never lasts. I feel anxious, disconnected, and stuck in this endless cycle. He tells me that if I truly didn’t love him, I wouldn’t care so much about these thoughts. But still, my brain won’t stop questioning everything. I don’t understand why I feel this way. Why does it feel like I’m forcing something? Why do I feel like I can’t just know how I feel? I want to feel okay. I want to be present with him without analyzing every moment. But no matter what I do, my mind keeps telling me “What if you don’t love him?” I feel like I’m stuck between wanting clarity and being terrified of what that clarity might mean. It feels so real, and I hate it. I don’t know what to do.
anonymous1348
- Date posted
- 16w
soocd
just crying cause i feel like im never going to recover and just have to be lesbian, even tho i love my boyfriend so much. thoughts don’t even give me anxiety anymore idk what to do, im just so done, feel like it’s all real and that i want it(when i dont). any tips or anything, idk how to keep going
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