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Asking ones around you for reassurance is actually a compulsion and feeds into the ocd making the false memories even stronger. The best thing to do is to actually embrace the uncertainty and tell ocd that they may have happened but you are willing to accept that and move on. ERP is an effective form of treatment for false memories, for instance, it may involve writing a script about your false memory and repeatedly listening to it. This allows your brain to get “bored” with the fear/ anxiety associated with the memory. It also retrains your brain to react different to the fear, instead of compulsively ruminating, etc. The acceptance of uncertainty helps me the most and ERP is helping as well. Medication has been helpful as well. Best wishes!
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- 6y
Hello my name is De'De im a 27 year old woman! With the world at my feet!! and i suffer with mostly false memory ocd! This includes cheating ocd! I have urges and sexual impulsive to cheat on my boyfriend! Even though i would never do such a thing! As we are madly In love! However my intrusive thoughts target what is close to me! And i get vivid memories that i have cheated on my partner with random strangers passing in street! I also have suffered from many forms of ocd in past which i have recovered from due to ERP medication treatment! And refusing compulsions!... I am currently in recovery! And i am on a waiting list for further treatment!... So yes i suffer with false memories and experience intrusive thoughts of a sexual aggressive nature! But i have managed to take those thoughts and take them to a place of peace and self exceptance of my thoughts! As i believe fully understanding our disorder allows us to move forward with our recovery... Stay strong ?☺️?
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- 6y
I used to have Harm OCD with false memories years ago. I was better for a while and then 6 months after being with my partner I developed ROCD with regards to believing that I cheated because of false memories. It's hell. Literal hell. Stay strong, and be prepared that through recovery things might get worse before they get better, but they will get better; they have to.
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- 6y
I struggle with this loads, but I don't really have a good coping mechanism yet :/
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How can I deal with False Memory OCD? I am struggling with ruminating thoughts, and trying to figure out false memories! How can I enjoy my day without figuring it out?
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Does anyone else’s false memory intrusive thoughts of what could have happened feel very, very real?
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So. I was in a traumatic relationship. for a long time. it was filled with gaslighting, manipulation, abuse, cheating ect. I would OBSESS over finding out where they were, what they were doing, who they were talking too. but I couldn’t leave. I tried so hard but I never could. they would call me names, physically hurt me, throw things, break things. because I would question them all the time. but I just couldn’t leave. no matter what I knew. they would manipulate me. I fell for their childhood trauma. it’s like I lost all logic. but I also feel like I have a pretty good memory with memories. not all the way, but remembering a lot of the traumatic things. especially now that I’m no longer with them. I keep remembering things that’s happened. even from my childhood. one time way before I even started dating this person, I had an intrusive thought about a friend of mine. that was with me. and I freaked out. I thought I had acted on the intrusive thought the next day. I asked my friend for confirmation but they said nothing happened. but the memories about it feel SO REAL. so VIVID. but they swore that nothing happened and they had no idea what I was talking about. I’ve struggled with intrusive thoughts for my whole life. so fast forward to now, that ‘false memory’ from my friend randomly popped up and I started obsessing about it, and my childhood ‘memories’ that have popped up. and then I was reading an article of someone doing something horrible, and then it sounded ‘familiar’ and so then I’ve created this whole memory of me doing something similar to the article involving my partner doing it also. the memory keeps adding new things and conversations around it. when it involves an actual real memory. but it’s like it’s been twisted from what I remembered before. I also suffer from bad anxiety. I’ve stalked pictures. my search history to figure out what I was doing that say when the real event happened. and I’ve found some things but I can’t look through my texts because I got a new phone. it has been hounding me for months. MONTHS. trying to figure out if this new ‘memory’ is real or not. if it’s been fabricated by an intrusive thought from reading the article and thinking ‘what if’ or if it actually happened and because I’m no longer in this relationship it’s a ‘repressed memory’ but the thing is I have horrible horrible anxiety and I don’t think I could have gone this long knowingly that that happened without remembering it until now. because I remember a lot of the horrible things that they did. this ‘memory’ is fuzzy, but it brings me horrible anxiety when I think of it, like I feel like it happened. but I also feel like it didn’t happen. because I know I would never do anything like that. but WHAT IF I DID, because I was manipulated. idk. is this a false memory. I really need help. because it’s been debilitating. that relationship was really traumatic. and I got manipulated into a lot of things. but I wouldn’t have just went forward knowing that that happened??? there’s no way I could have just forgotten it. because before when I would think about that night it was different, until now. but what if I just made myself forget what truly happened?? I’m a pretty self aware individual, but somehow that relationship really REALLY put me into a trance somehow where I allowed things that I have no idea how I would even allow because before I met that person I would have never allowed someone to cheat on my constantly or talk to me the way they did. or allow abuse. like I don’t understand it.
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