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- 3y
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- 3y
I’m the same way. Always have been. There is nothing wrong with it at all. I’m covered from head to to toes in tattoos did a lot of time in prison. I made my mistakes in life but I always felt compassion and felt sorry for people. Even people who have done me wrong. I don’t know why I’m like this. I feel maybe for people like us especially me, I’ve seen the worst things in life and have had some really bad things happen to me. I’m not one to compare, trauma effects people differently. Don’t charge the person you are. Yes you will get walked on and used and screwed over. I do all the time and I continue to let it happen. Don’t ever ever change who you are. Emotions suck I hate them. It’s the way God made us. Cry don’t have thicker skin who cares what people say. If you ever need to talk please I will talk to you. Things will get easier. One day you will realize that all this crap and bad things that happened in life were worth it. And I would do everything the same if I were giving the opportunity to start my life over. Not sure how old you are but I was an 80’s. Baby I’ve been through a lot and I will help you get through what your going though. I don’t know everything but I’m a good listener
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- 3y
It’s rough. I have been through childhood trauma and now ocd which can be traumatic as well. I believe God made me this way for a reason. Maybe to be empathetic of others, i don’t know but I’m judged for it all the time, used, stepped on and it hurts because I have the biggest heart. I was born in 1999 I turn 23 in March. These past few years of my life have been hell but I do believe it has made me stronger and I’ve learned alot. It just hurts because I want more in life and I feel like I’m going through this because I deserve it. My past haunts me all the time because when I was younger I was dumb and made mistakes that I didn’t know I was making at the time but I do now realize it and I hate myself for not knowing back then otherwise it wouldn’t have even happened or be a problem. I was a stupid teenager. But anyways I’m growing and learning but I’m just so freaking sensitive and I feel like it’s more of a curse than a blessing. It’s frustrating to be honest. I really appreciate your help and thank you for understanding 🙂
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- 3y
I think I know what you mean, I cry when someone is being nice to someone else, at commercials, songs, good weather, I just always feel like I have this enormous pool of emotion inside of me. Over the past years I actually started to find it really beautiful that I am this way, I feel everything deeply and that comes with some side effects like feeling hurt/upset easily. It’s a shame that people criticize you for this gift. It has happened to me too, luckily not too much, but recently I have really started to defend myself, because what emotions arise is really within no one‘s control and it’s sooo harmful to tell anyone how they should or shouldn’t be feeling. I have noticed though that I could learn something about soothing myself when feeling so much, I noticed self-compassion exercises are slowly starting to work. It looks a bit weird but I often hug myself even when I am out and about, or start stroking my own head and validate to myself that it is difficult to be feeling this way (don’t know yet if that’s reassurance though). I am pretty sure things would be easier if we didn’t feel so intensely but that’s not really our decision. I have noticed that when I experience less anxiety, then I don’t feel quite as fragile and emotional, but I don’t know which leads to which.
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- 3y
That makes a lot of sense. I just feel my emotions are too strong. If someone is mad at me or sometimes I’ll walk into work and I say hi to a coworker and they don’t sad hi back I get so upset or even angry because they didn’t say hi back. I think overthinking has a lot to do with it too because I tend to overthink a lot of situations and then it stresses me out which leads to me getting overwhelmed and I cry. A lot. Almost everyday I cry about something and it’s not for attention or anything I’m just really sensitive. But I really should practice self compassion because I do tend to hate on myself a lot and self loathing which leads to more frustration and stress because I hold myself to a high standard and when I don’t meet that standard I beat myself up for it
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- 3y
Same! I can't even listen to music without getting emotional. I remember a time when i was yelled at by a teacher for doing some mistakes and despite my rational side screaming at me not to cry i couldn't hold back. I also get hurt by words easily and i realized that what made me care about my appearance so much was the bullying i endured for looking different at middle school and the complex i have with "intelligence" from the bullying during highschool by both teatchers and students. Add the constantly stressful environment at home and voila! An emotional mess was created.At least i know that it's not necessarily our experiences and rough ways we grew up that makes us, but our choices on how to be now. It's okay to be emotional as long us you are a good person that doesn't make others feel the way others made you feel in the past. Better emotional than cold hearted.
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- 3y
Omg I relate so much. I used to get yelled at a lot for the dumbest stuff and I would instantly start crying. I was bullied a little bit in school too and lived in a stressful household because my grandma and step dad hated each other and I was in the middle of it hearing both sides and it stressed me out because I loved them both. Also my mom was very strict and she takes our her stress on me with her attitude and then I get an attitude it causes more stress in the family and then I go in my room and cry thinking my family doesn’t love me and so on. Overthinking probably but it hurts a lot. I feel like I have a big heart and when it gets stepped on in the slightest by friends or even family, I get super emotional. I have been told it’s ok to feel more emotion than nothing at all but I get judged for it so I rather repress all of it instead which isn’t healthy either
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- 3y
@Just Breathe ❤️ It's the people that constantly judge that should repress their judgmental nature, no you. Be yourself no matter what other say and you won't regret it. Trust me, the feeling of being your authentic self is the first step to a fulfilling life ❤️
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- 3y
@LydiaK Absolutely I agree
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- 17w
First off - I’m sorry, I post here a lot. My thoughts are going to be scattered because I have the adhd/ocd/executive dysfunction wombo combo. Im so embarrassed I am THIS neurodivergent. I swear my brain couldn’t pick one struggle and settle with it. I’m not making these diagnoses quirky personality traits by any means, in fact, in this post im venting about how exhausting and embarassed I am living with a brain like this on the daily. I need to hear someone’s advice please. I love hearing everyone’s advice on posts because it’s so useful, and brings me back down to reality. Everyone on here gives advice so tastefully in a way where it doesn’t feed into the self reassurance compulsion, but it’s also been thorough and constructive enough where it’s reminded me to ground myself in a healthy way. I love seeing others helping others, it soothes me. This community has been so kind, and I’m so happy I found it. I wish I could ask more, but I have so many questions I think it’d drive everyone here crazy lol. I am doing erp therapy now, and it’s been teaching me so many amazing techniques. I’ve been making progress. However, I sometimes have my moments of vunerablity. I’ve been experiencing this especially now more than ever because I am going through a breakup. He did it through text after nearly 9 months together. I’d do anything for him and love him through anything, and he broke my heart when I least expected it. I’d make his bed for him multiple times, but I haven’t done that for myself in years. I’d sit with him for hours to watch and do anything he likes, but he’d never do the same and I’d never do the same for me. I’m also at fault because I was too scared to speak up so I let a lot of disrespect slide. Why did my ocd do that? Why does ocd make me people please even when I don’t want to? Why does OCD make me care so much about things that will never effect me (like wanting validation from a random person on the street and hoping they’ll think I’m pretty enough to look at), but then when it comes to my future or positive wellbeing (like focusing on college/doing well in classes/personal hygiene/health), forces me to not care/neglect myself and those needs? I don’t understand it. Ocd makes me think everything’s a setup or a trap. I can never believe that I am fine right where I want to be. Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I even think this much? I care and feel so deeply but it becomes unhealthy so fast because ocd makes me fixate and I stay there for a while. For some reason I let this breakup define my self worth. I let it topple into the ocd fear that I will never make it in life - that I won’t be successful, I’ll never get the career I want, the love I want, or the life I want. My OCD’s version of “logic” isn’t even logical. Yes, I understand how the breakup means feelings of low self worth which will then topple into feeling bad about other things. But why has my brain been wired to think this way? Why does it seem so easy for everyone else to function normally with life but not me? Honestly this is the first time in my life where I’m dedicated to focusing on myself and learning more about myself instead of others in my life and it’s a very odd and bizarre feeling. I’m excited of course, but I’m also scared. My ocd makes me ruminate like “what if I will never make the most of this life I’ve been given”, “what if I truly have no worth and the most I will ever be in other people’s lives is a background character”, “why do I care if I’m a background character or not? I should feel guilty and ignorant for assuming everyone will automatically like me”, “are people lying to me when they call me pretty, smart or kind?”, “I need to look and sound perfect in both pictures, videos and in real life. I will never be satisfied for accepting who I am now”, and a bunch of other annoying questions. But sometimes it’s like I just can’t take the reality for what it is but at the same time, but I also acknowledge that I know this is ocd talking. This is so, so difficult. Do I make any sense with what I’m saying? Can anyone help?
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- 17w
My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
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- 16w
I think my ocd started with me being oversensitive like the fear and thoughts a lot of them have started with that I really hope I have control on emotions and triumph over ocd!!!
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