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Just Breathe ❤️
18d ago
  • "Pure" OCD

I am a very sensitive person and I have a hard time controlling my emotions which I’ve noticed my whole life but it’s seems to have gotten worse when I formed ocd. I was wondering what I could do to not be so sensitive or emotional all the time and if ocd could have something to do with it. I’m actually really tired of people telling me all the time “You’re overly emotional” or “you’re too sensitive”. Also was wondering if I were to have thicker skin would it be an advantage to helping with ocd and the things it makes me feel like anxiety or depression (which could maybe have something to do with it either). I’m not really asking for reassurance just kind of seeing if maybe anyone has gone through this too and if there’s anything I can do to work on it and get better 🙂

Darkmatter13
18d ago
I’m the same way. Always have been. There is nothing wrong with it at all. I’m covered from head to to toes in tattoos did a lot of time in prison. I made my mistakes in life but I always felt compassion and felt sorry for people. Even people who have done me wrong. I don’t know why I’m like this. I feel maybe for people like us especially me, I’ve seen the worst things in life and have had some really bad things happen to me. I’m not one to compare, trauma effects people differently. Don’t charge the person you are. Yes you will get walked on and used and screwed over. I do all the time and I continue to let it happen. Don’t ever ever change who you are. Emotions suck I hate them. It’s the way God made us. Cry don’t have thicker skin who cares what people say. If you ever need to talk please I will talk to you. Things will get easier. One day you will realize that all this crap and bad things that happened in life were worth it. And I would do everything the same if I were giving the opportunity to start my life over. Not sure how old you are but I was an 80’s. Baby I’ve been through a lot and I will help you get through what your going though. I don’t know everything but I’m a good listener
Just Breathe ❤️
18d ago
It’s rough. I have been through childhood trauma and now ocd which can be traumatic as well. I believe God made me this way for a reason. Maybe to be empathetic of others, i don’t know but I’m judged for it all the time, used, stepped on and it hurts because I have the biggest heart. I was born in 1999 I turn 23 in March. These past few years of my life have been hell but I do believe it has made me stronger and I’ve learned alot. It just hurts because I want more in life and I feel like I’m going through this because I deserve it. My past haunts me all the time because when I was younger I was dumb and made mistakes that I didn’t know I was making at the time but I do now realize it and I hate myself for not knowing back then otherwise it wouldn’t have even happened or be a problem. I was a stupid teenager. But anyways I’m growing and learning but I’m just so freaking sensitive and I feel like it’s more of a curse than a blessing. It’s frustrating to be honest. I really appreciate your help and thank you for understanding 🙂
Anonymous
17d ago
I think I know what you mean, I cry when someone is being nice to someone else, at commercials, songs, good weather, I just always feel like I have this enormous pool of emotion inside of me. Over the past years I actually started to find it really beautiful that I am this way, I feel everything deeply and that comes with some side effects like feeling hurt/upset easily. It’s a shame that people criticize you for this gift. It has happened to me too, luckily not too much, but recently I have really started to defend myself, because what emotions arise is really within no one‘s control and it’s sooo harmful to tell anyone how they should or shouldn’t be feeling. I have noticed though that I could learn something about soothing myself when feeling so much, I noticed self-compassion exercises are slowly starting to work. It looks a bit weird but I often hug myself even when I am out and about, or start stroking my own head and validate to myself that it is difficult to be feeling this way (don’t know yet if that’s reassurance though). I am pretty sure things would be easier if we didn’t feel so intensely but that’s not really our decision. I have noticed that when I experience less anxiety, then I don’t feel quite as fragile and emotional, but I don’t know which leads to which.
Just Breathe ❤️
17d ago
That makes a lot of sense. I just feel my emotions are too strong. If someone is mad at me or sometimes I’ll walk into work and I say hi to a coworker and they don’t sad hi back I get so upset or even angry because they didn’t say hi back. I think overthinking has a lot to do with it too because I tend to overthink a lot of situations and then it stresses me out which leads to me getting overwhelmed and I cry. A lot. Almost everyday I cry about something and it’s not for attention or anything I’m just really sensitive. But I really should practice self compassion because I do tend to hate on myself a lot and self loathing which leads to more frustration and stress because I hold myself to a high standard and when I don’t meet that standard I beat myself up for it
LydiaK
17d ago
Same! I can't even listen to music without getting emotional. I remember a time when i was yelled at by a teacher for doing some mistakes and despite my rational side screaming at me not to cry i couldn't hold back. I also get hurt by words easily and i realized that what made me care about my appearance so much was the bullying i endured for looking different at middle school and the complex i have with "intelligence" from the bullying during highschool by both teatchers and students. Add the constantly stressful environment at home and voila! An emotional mess was created.At least i know that it's not necessarily our experiences and rough ways we grew up that makes us, but our choices on how to be now. It's okay to be emotional as long us you are a good person that doesn't make others feel the way others made you feel in the past. Better emotional than cold hearted.
Just Breathe ❤️
17d ago
Omg I relate so much. I used to get yelled at a lot for the dumbest stuff and I would instantly start crying. I was bullied a little bit in school too and lived in a stressful household because my grandma and step dad hated each other and I was in the middle of it hearing both sides and it stressed me out because I loved them both. Also my mom was very strict and she takes our her stress on me with her attitude and then I get an attitude it causes more stress in the family and then I go in my room and cry thinking my family doesn’t love me and so on. Overthinking probably but it hurts a lot. I feel like I have a big heart and when it gets stepped on in the slightest by friends or even family, I get super emotional. I have been told it’s ok to feel more emotion than nothing at all but I get judged for it so I rather repress all of it instead which isn’t healthy either
LydiaK
17d ago
@Just Breathe ❤️ It's the people that constantly judge that should repress their judgmental nature, no you. Be yourself no matter what other say and you won't regret it. Trust me, the feeling of being your authentic self is the first step to a fulfilling life ❤️
Just Breathe ❤️
17d ago
@LydiaK Absolutely I agree