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- faith🤍<3
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- 2y ago
question?!
for couples who have been together for a good amount of time is it normal to not always feel “ in love” all the time ? that it comes and goes ?
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- NicaNica
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- 2y ago
A relationship isn’t wholly about love all day every day. It’s about commitment and working on your relationship.
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- ocd haterocd hater
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- 2y ago
I also challenge you to rewire the way you view what “in love” means! Is your idea of “in love” what movies/books/tv shows/those around you/etc told you it is? I say this because that’s how I viewed love for a long time. It got me stressed all the time thinking “why don’t I feel that burning passion ALL the time?” Well that’s because long term, committed relationships aren’t always like that! They require work and commitment and are not one size fits all. I know I am “in love” with my partner when we hold hands in the grocery store, or when I make him lunch and bring it to him at work, or when I just feel like giving him a hug after a long day. It doesn’t always need to be this big romanticized thing :) I hope this helped, again I want to emphasize this is my experience with relationship anxiety & doesn’t reflect every relationship, everyone is different :)
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- mostdope42mostdope42
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- 2y ago
i think that love is a choice and a commitment! it’s about choosing to trust that the love is still there even when you’re mad at your partner or you’re just having a chill night in, not talking much! in any relationship, regardless of the nature, there are going to be “dull” moments. but as @ocdhater said, the movies and media have taught us that it isn’t okay or they aren’t the one if there ever is those dull points. when really, sometimes we just run out of things to say or we get mad at them, just as we would with a friend or sibling or relative. you’re doing way better than you think ❤️❤️❤️
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- k.mc_128k.mc_128
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- 2y ago
are you meaning you think you don’t love them ?
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- faith🤍<3faith🤍<3
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- 2y ago
no. i know that i love them but at this moment im not feeling “ in love “ if that makes sense
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- faith🤍<3faith🤍<3
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- 2y ago
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- ocd haterocd hater
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- 2y ago
For me, something I’ve learned is that relationships are very fluid. There are high points and there are low points. It’s the same with emotions. There are moments of high emotion and moments of low emotion. This could be for a whole bunch of different, personal reasons, like stress, hormonal changes, depression, anxiety, life is busy, you name it. That doesn’t mean love isn’t still there! I recommend the Anxious Love Coach podcast! She discusses these things in it :)
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- Cats in the darkCats in the ...
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- 2y ago
You're seeking reassurance. Its not going to help you in the long-term believe me
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