Anxiousashley
- Date posted
- 7y
MusicNinjaMusicNinja
- Date posted
- 7y
I have ‘subtype 2 ROCD’ , where my OCD thinks my partner might be cheating on me. But recently I’m starting to get a little bit of the traditional ROCD where I’m wondering if my partner is right for me. Argh!!!!!! Can anyone help me head this off at the pass!?!?!
OutgoingocdOutgoingocd
- Date posted
- 7y
Oh gosh. I get that too sometimes. Especially as our relationship becomes more serious. I guess I cope by reminding myself that I was horrified at the losers out there before him, that all the things I question about him are the same qualities I love about him (ie: stubbornness = strong headed and passionate) but also that every OTHER guy out there who might be seemingly ‘better’ for me has their own skeletons and imperfections. We’re not perfect but work on our shit together... Grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it.
MusicNinjaMusicNinja
- Date posted
- 7y
Wow!!! Brilliant. Thank you !
OutgoingocdOutgoingocd
- Date posted
- 7y
Sure thing! Do you journal musicninja? Although I don’t do it like I should, I sometimes make sure to journal when I’m in a good place, because it’s a nice to reference when I’m in a bad one. Next time you’re on a high with your partner, write down why you love them and love being with them... you can reread it when you’re struggling w doubt later. Also, have you guys taken the 5lovelanguages.com test? My love language is Words of Affirmation (surprise surprise ocd) so I reread old cards when I’m in a bad place too... his words of affirmation help me feel better about us as a couple when I reread it
TabbykittycatTabbykittycat
- Date posted
- 7y
With mine, I used to write out the thoughts and then repeat them over and over. Here are you some thoughts you could try: “Maybe my partner isn’t right for me.” “I cannot be certain about this relationship.” “I cannot control my partner’s feelings or actions.” “This relationship may end.” Sorry if those were hard for you to read! Try to pick the easiest ones and start small, it will get easier I promise
TabbykittycatTabbykittycat
- Date posted
- 7y
@Anxiousashley no, funnily enough. He was just a bit of a jerk ?
AnxiousashleyAnxiousashley
- Date posted
- 7y
@Tabbykittycat do u still struggle with Rocd? It is hard to read those because I prefer to think of the good times
TabbykittycatTabbykittycat
- Date posted
- 7y
@Anxiousashley not currently as my boyfriend and I recently broke up. Im trying to prep myself so that I’ll be ready when it inevitably happens in the next relationship
AnxiousashleyAnxiousashley
- Date posted
- 7y
@Tabbykittycat did you end the relationship because of ROCD?
AnxiousashleyAnxiousashley
- Date posted
- 7y
@Tabbykittycat well that’s certainly a good reason lol ?
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