OCD can be controlled
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Sad
I'm just sad that I've never been in a relationship and no one seems to like me this way.
Erin PErin P
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I was that way until my mid-20s. But now (married 27 yes) I look back and realize there were people who had a crush on me but I discounted them and did not feel lovable (I chased people who do didn’t want me). I did therapy for my childhood stuff and ended up happily married. Now I’m doing ERP therapy since my OCD was triggered. My point is it can happen for you too. Focus on what you need to do to deal with things that may hold you back from feeling lovable / noticing when people are interested in you in this way.
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I'm happy for you <3 About noticing other people's crushes on me, I have this weird thing when I can't decide if someone is having a crush or is just being nice. Like, "Are they having crush? No, no way, they are just helping me out of basic decency (cause I'm a little bit disabled ), stop being so vain" So I never know :(
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@Erin P have you read the book "Attached"? It helped me understand so much about my behavioral patterns in relationships and the psychology behind those patterns. I realize now I have an anxious attachment style and after Attached I'm now reading Anxious Hearts to help me grow to having a more secure attachment style.
DutchgirlDutchgirl
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I feel the same. I feel unlovable.
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Please accept my support, sis 😔
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@OCD can be controlled, I'm sorry you're feeling this way. That has to be really painful. Before thinking of anyone else, can you think of aspects of yourself that you love, like and/or appreciate? In order to accept someone not choosing me or not accepting unsafe people who did choose me, I realized I had to choose me first. When I did that, discernment of safe people became more apparent and rejection/distance still hurt but it proved nothing about my self worth. I'm not sure if this helps but I feel we have to choose ourselves first before concerning ourselves with being chosen.
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I actually have improved during the course of last year – I used to hate myself, but I'm attending therapy and treatment and now I can list several things I like about myself and even about my body. I guess I still have ups and downs, I still feel like I'm always the one who pursues company from other people. Even if once in a long while someone asks me to hang out I feel like it isn't genuine. Idk, maybe I'm being overdramatic. Thanks for answering :)
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