OCD can be controlled
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Sad
I'm just sad that I've never been in a relationship and no one seems to like me this way.
Erin PErin P
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I was that way until my mid-20s. But now (married 27 yes) I look back and realize there were people who had a crush on me but I discounted them and did not feel lovable (I chased people who do didn’t want me). I did therapy for my childhood stuff and ended up happily married. Now I’m doing ERP therapy since my OCD was triggered. My point is it can happen for you too. Focus on what you need to do to deal with things that may hold you back from feeling lovable / noticing when people are interested in you in this way.
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I'm happy for you <3 About noticing other people's crushes on me, I have this weird thing when I can't decide if someone is having a crush or is just being nice. Like, "Are they having crush? No, no way, they are just helping me out of basic decency (cause I'm a little bit disabled ), stop being so vain" So I never know :(
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@Erin P have you read the book "Attached"? It helped me understand so much about my behavioral patterns in relationships and the psychology behind those patterns. I realize now I have an anxious attachment style and after Attached I'm now reading Anxious Hearts to help me grow to having a more secure attachment style.
DutchgirlDutchgirl
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I feel the same. I feel unlovable.
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Please accept my support, sis 😔
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@OCD can be controlled, I'm sorry you're feeling this way. That has to be really painful. Before thinking of anyone else, can you think of aspects of yourself that you love, like and/or appreciate? In order to accept someone not choosing me or not accepting unsafe people who did choose me, I realized I had to choose me first. When I did that, discernment of safe people became more apparent and rejection/distance still hurt but it proved nothing about my self worth. I'm not sure if this helps but I feel we have to choose ourselves first before concerning ourselves with being chosen.
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I actually have improved during the course of last year – I used to hate myself, but I'm attending therapy and treatment and now I can list several things I like about myself and even about my body. I guess I still have ups and downs, I still feel like I'm always the one who pursues company from other people. Even if once in a long while someone asks me to hang out I feel like it isn't genuine. Idk, maybe I'm being overdramatic. Thanks for answering :)
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NoraKate_6
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Never been in a relationship but having rocd
I’ve never had a serious boyfriend before, and I’ve never experienced loving someone so much I want them to be with me and be the “right person”. My entire life is surrounded by people who are in love and have those movie like relationships. My sibling, cousins and best friends. I’m absolutely done with the “right person this and right person that” talk because I don’t know if I will ever get my “right person”. At this point they are band aiding my issues with the bs of “you’ll find when you aren’t look” (fine I’ll just have walk around blind folded ig?) My ROCD is in weird ways. I don’t have a partner. My cycle goes like this, I have to look a certain way and act desirable so I can attract a boyfriend and heal all my trauma so I can be present and perfect! Then I realize none of that actually works and I spiral. Thinking I’m gonna be alone forever and no one will actually love me because there is something wrong with me. I was always the “chronically single” one in the friend group and they cannot comprehend me doing romantic things. I feel so lost, I don’t know how to calm myself down. I get triggered by couples and my family. Because they have something I don’t. I can’t explain how it even triggers me, I just feel this rage.
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