I dont want other people to find me attractive i dont care for that but my brain always thinks IT it without me willingly bringing it up? I feel like i have to tell my boyfriend that i get these thoughts - i would never act on it but it feels wrong to think that i want people to like Me and find me attractive What do i do am i a disgusting person
I have the same issue, and I believe it stems from past traumas in my life, and the fear of not being liked or likeable and attractive. It does not make you a disgusting person in any way. Treat it like any other intrusive thought. Using sarcasm for me often helps. Take care 🙏🏻
@SpookyKiwi Thanks for this- i just feel so guilty and like my biyfriend doesn’t deserve me and i feel like i have to confess but i know that would hurt him :(
@Anonymous Yeah I know the feeling, and the need to tell them. But its best not to because you may be seeking reassurance. Just think of "maybe, maybe not" statements regarding the thoughts/feelings you get and sit with the anxiety or negative feelings. I know its super tough but you got this! Stay strong ❤️
@SpookyKiwi I will try not to! I feel so guilty for having these thought though- thank you for the advice i really appreciate it
I don't even know if I should put this here, but I have the greatest girlfriend in the whole world, and I love her very much, but my thoughts keep saying I'm going to hurt her, so I can hurt God and idk what to do, I feel so disgusted and idk what to do, and the worst part is why does some part of me just not even care idk what to do anymore, it's almost like I'm turning into this horrible person and idk what to do, I'm really not sure what to do. I have really been able to be happy I just feel like I don't deserve it and I want to care about people and God and I want to be a good person, but a part of me shuts off my caring nature and idk what to do, I'm really freaking out because it's like IDC and idk what to do I just feel so nasty and scared because why don't I feel like I care. Why does it feel like it's something I wanna do idk, what to do I'm really freaking worried. Also I don't want OCD but a part of me says I need it or I like these thoughts and idk what to do, as im writing this i just feel like laughing and idk what to do, i really judt want jesus to hug me and say everything will be alright, i am such a monster....
i feel so bad for posting here, idk what i wamt i have so many thoughts abt the feelings i have for my bf im scared my thughts are true or that they will be true and i feel bad for feeling amd thinking this way i such a bad girlfriend, i am scared that i like other people just because i look at them or talk to them normally and i feel like a liar what cam i do to stop feeling like this i am scared
I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
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