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Wow! Beautiful! Great mom, great son. 👍👏😊

Hello. Congratulations! 👋 I am sorry, but your answer put a smile on my face after a long while. I don't mean to make fun of your problems. Please do not see it that way. But something about not confessing makes me want to laugh. It sounds sweet although I know it is not funny for you at all. Could you sort of satisfy my curiosity and tell me what things do you normally confess? Thanks for making me smile, even if I know it is not nice to you. But I do appreciate it. Big hug.

@NODA No worries! I suffer from ROCD, so any time I feel an attraction or have a thought about someone other than my partner, I feel really guilty and anxious, and worry that I’ve betrayed him in some way. My ex was emotionally abusive, and equated thoughts to cheating, so that is really ingrained in my brain. Co-diagnosis with CPTSD from my ex.

@LittleBird Oh, dear! That must be soooo hard! Wow! The urge to confess. Doesn't sound funny anymore. I am sorry about the emotional abuse. I had it in life from almost everyone but my husband. Even he did it to an extent when he hated me because of my ocd before he understood what ocd is. Do you feel like that only with people in your life, "real people", or do you feel like you need to confess even if you watch a movie and find an actor attractive or sexy? How does your now partner feel about your urge to confess? Is that sth ok for him or does he get upset when you tell him you found someone else attractive? There is a beautiful song by Reba McEntire - Have you ever cheated on me? If you can, listen to it. She points out the difference between real cheating and just a thought. Real cheating would break his heart, but having a passing thought about someone else means nothing, it's just what people do. As long as they don't act on it, it means you are faithful and you love your partner. You choose not to cheat on him, not to act upon your thoughts. I am sure, even if the thought turned into opportunity, you would choose your partner. You are a nice, faithful person. And extremely honest. More than your partner wants to know or wants you to be, I am sure. 😉😊 Nice to know you. Believe me, you don't cheat. You worry about your thoughts. A person who cheats, puts themselves first and doesn't care much about honesty and their partner's feelings. You are great. Now just tell your OCD that I said so! 😁. If it has any questions, let ME set it straight. 😁🤣. Are you feeling at least a bit better? I sure hope so. 🤗❤️

@NODA That made me tear up a little 🥲 thank you for replying so kindly. My current partner (fiancé!) is honestly wonderful. Every time I’ve confessed he’s reassured me that I’m okay. Now, I’m trying to get him to use more non-engagement responses to help me break the confession cycle. He knows how I feel about him and that I’d never actually betray him, and knows it’s also totally normal to find other people attractive - you just choose to stay committed to your person. He’s also super confident in how pretty he is, so that helps too, haha. But he’s been super patient with me and tries his best to understand my OCD even though it’s nothing he’s personally experienced. I’ve done a pretty good job educating him and explaining how my brain works to help him understand because I really don’t want him to take anything I say personally. I really only feel the urge to confess when it’s real people - coworkers, friends, his friends, people at the gym, etc. Celebrity crushes have always been totally fine.

@LittleBird I am so happy you are getting such a nice man for a husband. And he knows he is getting a great woman. You are doing everything right. You 2 are a team and you will beat ocd together. What more can a person with ocd ask for, than for a partner who cares enough to listen, understand, support and do what is necessary to help. Life is great. I don't know if you realise it, but I think you have won a future husband lottery. So did he with you. You care so much about him, that you worry that even your unwanted thoughts might hurt him. Isn't that something. Big hug to both of you. 😘🤗❤️

@NODA Thank you 🥹❤️

@Anonymous78 My diagnosis made me feel so seen and happier!