Ocd in appearance

Hello, I was with my now ex girlfriend for 5 years, she is also south Asian and since the beginning of our relationship she struggled with feeling like she wasn’t attractive because she is south Asian even though is very beautiful and I’d always found her attractive, she’d send subreddits with people talking about how they didn’t find south Asian women attractive to validate her feelings of insecurity but all those people saying south Asian women are less attractive are absolutely coming from a place of pure racism, when you hear something over and over again you start to internalize it and it feels true, I think that’s something a lot of women go through, the voice in your head telling you nobody thinks you’re hot isn’t your own voice, it’s the voice of stupid people on the internet who are cruel, do your best to ignore those thoughts and try to have fun as much as you can

Sorry if that’s a bit too much information! I just feel sad that this is something you have to deal with because it sound so similar to my exes experience

I had an ex in Toronto who was half Asian/ Italian and she was beautiful but just accepted that she never would be. Beauty is subjective. Not everyone has to find you attractive. Some people think I'm ugly, some find me attractive. If you like how you look then that's fine right? Plenty of people out there who will think the same. I don't think you're narcissistic for thinking this at all. Just be aware that reassurance seeking is ultimately bad for ocd so don't fall too deep down that rabbit hole as it trains our brains into new compulsions. Also, yeh the apps can be buggy af. Bumble is a pain for me 🤣

Just to add something, my friend who is very pretty doesn't think she is and was going to do OF to seek male validation. She has now been used and harassed by a number of guys and always came to me for support when that happened. Be careful OK?

Hi it’s the same Indian American girl again. Just be yourself, love yourself and others, and stay true to who you are. Every girl is unique and you are no different. Some guy out there will appreciate the young lady that you are, inside and out. If you are working with a therapist I suggest you should talk to them about this. People post pretty nasty stuff on social media sometimes. I have seen racist comments on YouTube towards African Americans in the past. Here’s the Dr. Seuss quote I think you should follow: ““Be who you are and say what you feel because the ones who mind don't matter, and the ones who matter don't mind.” Okay, careful what you say sometimes because people can retaliate, but what I mean is be you because that is be-youtiful. Much love my fellow desi chick! If you want to connect I would love to…Have a lovely day❤️💕🌞🌷

Hi we’re you still interested in connecting?

Hi I’m a South Asian young woman myself. I would advise you to not look up these types of things on Reddit/Quora. You never know, maybe those people are just racist. And I don’t mean to boast or anything but I have actually heard of a guy at my mom’s work who after seeing my graduation picture said “Indian girls are always so beautiful” (I don’t know if you’re Indian but that’s still South Asian) and others who have said they found my eyes pretty and mentioned I was Indian. People have also posted on Quora that they think Indian women are beautiful! One guy said Bollywood actresses “always look so smokin’ hot”. I have had many customers at my work call me pretty or beautiful. I have struggled with feeling ugly at times (not to do with the issue you brought up) and those comments helped my confidence. By the way, none of those people were Indian/South Asian. People are just making up stereotypes. Don’t believe them. They are NOT TRUE. Look at Priyanka Chopra. A White guy married her (a Hollywood celebrity!) A White guy married Preity Zinta as well as Aashka Goradia. I have seen people that my family know that have a daughter who is married to a Hispanic guy. Prashanti Musapet on “Yes to the Dress” married a White guy. Let the losers who write this stuff go to the place opposite of heaven. Tell them to GO TO U KNOW WHAT. I have personally seen people post posts about whether they think Indian guys are handsome. Some people said yes. Well, they are, and so are ALL PEOPLE. Tell those morons to STOP THE HATE. All women are beautiful, let’s not say one race is less desirable than another. We are all human. I would suggest you don’t ruminate and don’t waste your precious time looking at this garbage. I don’t support beauty pageants but there have been multiple Miss Worlds/Miss Universes from India. Miss America in 2013 was Indian-American Nina Davuluri. And yes, there’s someone for everyone, including YOU. Don’t stop dreaming. People also have stereotypes that Indian don’t wear deodorant. Well, these people need to open their eyes. In some cultures, people are not bothered by body odor. They may see deodorant as not being a necessity. And guess what? Some Indians do wear it, including people in my own family! The stereotypes people will churn out. It is disgusting. Peace out, from your fellow desi girl 😍❤️💕Much love!

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