Please advice needed from Christian’s

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. It is good to ask ourselves why we want to marry someone. I know I'm not ready for a relationship because I have some things I need to change in my life. I'm not confident in who I am yet. Myles Monroe is a Christian speaker and he talks about reasons u should get married on YouTube. There are other Christians who I've listened to talk about the same topic. Marriage is a big commitment and it's not something u should rush into. Does your boyfriend have some of the same interests as you? Is he working? Does he support you in whatever you want to pursue in your life, for example a career, going to school, doing whatever u feel God has called u to do? Have u figured out what God has called u to do? I'll message more soon. I need to go now.

I will pray for u that God will give direction and wisdom regarding this. A good thing to do is to tak

Talk to a pastor about it or a counselor.

Me and my partner aren’t married and my partner doesn’t want to get married because he believes that it’s just a piece of paper. Yes it shows commitment. But you don’t need a piece of paper to show you’re committed. Just something he’s never wanted to do, that’s not saying one day he won’t change his mind but I won’t force that. My grandparents who are heavily Christian have called our relationship a marriage because tho it isn’t on paper , our commitment to each other shines through. He is Christian and so am I, but we both still have a lot of maturing to do as we both still enjoy going out for drinks with friends , other things god may not necessarily approve of or like… so we both have to develop our relationship with God. I remember 3 years ago or so when I first met him, we did sleep together the first night but the next day (after saying he was not looking for anything serious yet) he had asked me how I would feel about long distance (when he was meant to move away), we stayed up that whole night almost talking about all of our common interests and like minded traits. We do have differences but also are like minded in some ways. I felt a connection with him as soon as I met him and when I first talked to him for a few weeks-month before we met I just knew he was different than any other guy. One thing led to another and we moved in very quick, just the way it worked out. Then about a year after found out we were having a baby - that was a really hard road because my bf never wanted kids and didn’t know wether he could stay with me (he was never untruthful about his feelings towards the situation) and there were reasons he never wanted kids. Anyway, flash forward to us being together 3 years later and we have a beautiful almost 2 year old, have a whole lot of memories and have been through hell and back in our relationship (alot of our issues came from mistakes we had made, insecurities and also ocd confession compulsions) we have broken up many times before and gotten back together, it’s like we can’t stay away, neither of us feel complete without each-other, we aren’t a half but together we feel whole , if that makes sense. He does support me as I do with him, even when we have struggled with eachother before. Think every relationship there are struggles and issues that come up at times. We have both done things that negatively have impacted our relationship but are trying to better it and learn from mistakes. He works yes and I don’t at this point because of ocd and I have an almost 2 year old. All I’m saying is though God cannot speak to me in the way I actually hear it, I feel that if God really didn’t think we were right for eachother, when I prayed for him to come back when we had broken up (and I really thought he wouldn’t) I prayed and prayed continuously and he eventually came back…. I don’t know if that was coincidence or not but I feel that God did that work to keep us together. god knows though we make and have made mistakes, he knows our heart, he knows our love for eachother, he knows us better than we know ourself, so I really think we are just meant to be, it’s OCD causing me to doubt not me actually doubting. Which is frustrating, because I’ve always been a firm believer that he is my soulmate and person I’m meant to be with, in the past when I’ve thought I “loved” people I knew that wasn’t true love because feelings were not reciprocated, or I was groomed by an older man etc. This genuinely feels different, my love for my partner could never die even if he passed away I would continue to love him forever and eternity one day… my partner has even said “I don’t know if soulmates exist or not , but I know you’re mine” and I feel the exact same. So surely the love we both have for eachother is enough for God to see that we are in love and meant to be together. Idk if that makes sense

hey, i'm really sorry you're going through this. your bond with your bf and the love you share, especially with your daughter, sounds incredibly deep and genuine. it's tough when ocd latches onto something so close to your heart. 💔 i've been in your shoes with ocd throwing my values and relationships into question. the free AI tool "unstuck" ([www.keepunstuck.com/try](http://www.keepunstuck.com/try)) that my ocd therapist recommended was a game-changer. it'll be especially helpful for you because it offers personalized, step-by-step support like an OCD therapist, targeting those distressing "what if" thoughts without giving into reassurance. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3