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- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
You have to be strong! People don’t understand that with ocd it affects us more. We absorb more pain and hurt and when you’re a nice and kind person it’s hard to understand how someone can be so insensitive. Don’t let it flare up or ramp up your ocd, it’s not productive. Take a step back and make yourself a stronger better person everyday. You deserve it.
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- 6y
U are strong ? and brave you are also a beautiful girl on the inside and outside ❤️ never forget that you matter to this world
- Date posted
- 6y
Thank you so much for your reply. Thing is this person has mental health issues herself but will never recognise she has. I believe she is a narcissist. I fell out with her years ago as she pretended she had cancer. I couldn't cope with her lies and deceit. Then when almost my mum she came back into my life and basically used me. Ever since she came back into my life she has slagged me off to her friend (who has actually now cut all ties with her) and this lady has become a dear friend of mine now. She twisted something and lied to us both but we kept in contact. She is jealous of me and what I have and even after two months is saying nasty things to my new friend who is ignoring her. I basically told her children that she was in hospital and she went absolutely crazy at me. Her daughter then confided in some very personal things to me that her mother had done to her when she was growing up and she basically agreed with me and that I should cut all ties with her mother. I have now. When I was going through a bad time with my ocd this year she did help me and told my friend she was worried about me. But now my ocd has latched onto to ... What if she tells a dear friend of mine whom I have known for over 40years that I had an intrusive thought about his daughter (who loves me dearly). I know it sounds crazy and daft and doesn't really matter as her grandparents were the ones to help me through my ocd and knew every thought I had! It us just my OCD fearing the worst and has managed to latch onto something that is so dear to me! Sounds crazy I know! At first I didnt worry as she hastily said that everyone laughs at me and calls me loopy louise which I found comforting actually as I laugh about it all too! But my mind has now conjured up this daft one! I am going to ask my counsellor if we can do some erp concerning this worry! Thank you so very much for your input. I know I am a very kind and caring person but unfortunately this horrible parasite has knocked my confidence. Xx
- Date posted
- 6y
I’ve noticed how a lot of people with OCD have this core fear of being judged (including myself) and that just adds so much more fuel to our anxieties. One thing I’ve read in regards to dealing with this is having to accept the fact that we can’t control what others think of us. It sucks, especially when we try our damnedest to please everyone so no one hates or dislikes us but it only causes more pain unfortunately. I’ve slowly had to accept this fact and accept the possibilities that not everyone is going to think kindly of me or understand me. That person who said whatever they said about you shouldn’t be much of a concern. I know that’s a lot easier said than done and it’s a lot harder when you’re filled with anxiety. Work on taking care of yourself and let those people think whatever they want to think. They’re not worth your time if they think of you that way.
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- 22w
Hey everyone, I’m going through something that really shook me up and triggered my OCD. Today I was talking to my mom about how people in our family have been talking badly about my cousin, who’s 17 and pregnant. I haven’t told my cousin anything about what they’re saying, because I don’t want to add any stress to her. I’ve honestly tried to protect her from all the drama. But then my mom told me to be careful about what I say to her, because she’s really worried my cousin could have a miscarriage from stress. She said if that happened and I had told my cousin anything, it would be my fault. I think my mom meant it out of concern, like she just wants to protect my cousin—but the way she said it came off as really harsh and it hurt me. Especially because I’ve never said anything to my cousin and I would never want to cause her any stress. Now my OCD is grabbing onto that fear. Even though I haven’t done anything wrong, it’s making me feel like, “What if something happens to the baby and it somehow ends up being your fault?” Logically, I know that doesn’t make sense. But the guilt and anxiety feel so real, and it’s hard to shake.
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- 19w
I’ve posted this under a comment before, but if anyone has the time to read it and maybe share their experience or tips with me, I would really appreciate it. This is just kind of the reason why Idk if I only have OCD or if I should get checked for BPD aswell as emotional dependency is (as far as I know) not a common symptom of OCD and neither are excessive changes in emotions/moods. I think the worst part my situation is that one of my biggest and most damaging if not destructive obsessions I developed earlier this year was this constant fear that my friend would lie to me about meeting up with a boy she liked (we are both girls and queer, she didn’t know that about me until recently, but I’ve known that she is and we both sort of crushed on each other). Not just lie, but do it behind my back, keep it a secret, and then maybe even end our friendship without saying anything. And the thing is... that basically happened. Two weeks ago she started acting strange one day out of nowhere, and then I found out (through another friend) that he was coming over to her place. We had already talked about this before, I had cried in front of her and confessed how much it hurt me. I know doing that probably wasn’t the healthiest thing, but my emotions completely overwhelmed me in that moment. And even though nothing physical happened between them, it still felt like a betrayal. I’m not saying it was cheating, obviously not, we’re not in a relationship and it is unfair of me to try and tell her who or not to date, but it still hurts. Especially as weeks ago, we already had a detailed conversation about this. She told me she didn’t actually like him that much, and that if they were going to meet again, she’d be honest with me about it. But instead of being honest that day, she said nothing. Worse, she suddenly stopped talking to me, which made me think I had done something wrong so I completely lost my mind. She knows I’m emotionally dependent on her to some extent, so when she goes cold or distant, I spiral. And that day, I saw them talking and going quiet as I walked by, and then she literally turned to walk into a different direction. I don’t know why but it just crushed me. I thought she was mad at me, and I just felt like I was being shut out and lied to. And as I’ve mentioned, later that day, after eight hours of crying, another friend told me what really happened. She even drove me to her place so we could talk. We did talk, but since then, we haven’t had any contact. And it’s driving me absolutely insane. She told me it would be “people-pleasing” if she didn’t try to date him. And I know she’s kind of right, but she still lied to me. She didn’t care if that meant that she would throw away our friendship, or at least she treated it like it was worth less than a potential (!) relationship with a guy who, as far as I know, didn’t even respond when she told him she had feelings for him. It’s honestly devastating. I feel betrayed, discarded, and totally lost and I know I can’t even logically be mad at her as the reason she didn’t tell me is obvious and as a good friend I should just be happy for her, but my emotional side is so much stronger than my logic.
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- Date posted
- 11w
the past month ive been ruminating about a time last year where i hurt a friend by unintentionally bringing up a traumatic memory when i was really drunk, enough that i didnt remember it, so i went 6 months without apologizing until i was worried when they werent talking to me anymore. so they told me when i finally tried to talk to them. i apologized and they told me we were ok now, and still want me in their life, but now they stopped talking to me again and its been 3 weeks, and im terrified that i did something again, especially since they stopped talking to me when i made a mistake before, and wont tell me outright. the event triggered horrible horrible guilt over what i did, mostly guilt About the guilt i was feeling, because its not a normal amount of guilt for a regular person, and eventually my compulsions for confessing and ruminating reached a high point. and when they stopped talking to me again they got even worse . they are aware i suffer from ocd and anxiety to an extent (we've been friends since we were teenagers) so its hard for me to believe they wouldn't do this unless i did something wrong again, especially due to the events of my past mistake. lately ive been wondering, 'have they found out my abnormal reaction to what happened ?' 'did a friend who knows about it tell them?' ive been avoiding asking them if i did something wrong again, because i dont want to make it a habit since i can fall very deeply into that hole of asking for reassurance and i feel even regular reassurance, without the ocd, im the last person who deserves that right now. im scared they somehow found out about my compulsions (which isnt entirely irrational) and i feel the need to apologize to them again. ive been having panic attacks about this. i feel like no matter what i do i cant fix our friendship, and its going to end badly. i feel like a terrible friend, and im too mentally ill to have friendships. i don't know what to do.
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