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- 5y ago
- Date posted
- 5y ago
You have to be strong! People don’t understand that with ocd it affects us more. We absorb more pain and hurt and when you’re a nice and kind person it’s hard to understand how someone can be so insensitive. Don’t let it flare up or ramp up your ocd, it’s not productive. Take a step back and make yourself a stronger better person everyday. You deserve it.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
U are strong ? and brave you are also a beautiful girl on the inside and outside ❤️ never forget that you matter to this world
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- 5y ago
Thank you so much for your reply. Thing is this person has mental health issues herself but will never recognise she has. I believe she is a narcissist. I fell out with her years ago as she pretended she had cancer. I couldn't cope with her lies and deceit. Then when almost my mum she came back into my life and basically used me. Ever since she came back into my life she has slagged me off to her friend (who has actually now cut all ties with her) and this lady has become a dear friend of mine now. She twisted something and lied to us both but we kept in contact. She is jealous of me and what I have and even after two months is saying nasty things to my new friend who is ignoring her. I basically told her children that she was in hospital and she went absolutely crazy at me. Her daughter then confided in some very personal things to me that her mother had done to her when she was growing up and she basically agreed with me and that I should cut all ties with her mother. I have now. When I was going through a bad time with my ocd this year she did help me and told my friend she was worried about me. But now my ocd has latched onto to ... What if she tells a dear friend of mine whom I have known for over 40years that I had an intrusive thought about his daughter (who loves me dearly). I know it sounds crazy and daft and doesn't really matter as her grandparents were the ones to help me through my ocd and knew every thought I had! It us just my OCD fearing the worst and has managed to latch onto something that is so dear to me! Sounds crazy I know! At first I didnt worry as she hastily said that everyone laughs at me and calls me loopy louise which I found comforting actually as I laugh about it all too! But my mind has now conjured up this daft one! I am going to ask my counsellor if we can do some erp concerning this worry! Thank you so very much for your input. I know I am a very kind and caring person but unfortunately this horrible parasite has knocked my confidence. Xx
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I’ve noticed how a lot of people with OCD have this core fear of being judged (including myself) and that just adds so much more fuel to our anxieties. One thing I’ve read in regards to dealing with this is having to accept the fact that we can’t control what others think of us. It sucks, especially when we try our damnedest to please everyone so no one hates or dislikes us but it only causes more pain unfortunately. I’ve slowly had to accept this fact and accept the possibilities that not everyone is going to think kindly of me or understand me. That person who said whatever they said about you shouldn’t be much of a concern. I know that’s a lot easier said than done and it’s a lot harder when you’re filled with anxiety. Work on taking care of yourself and let those people think whatever they want to think. They’re not worth your time if they think of you that way.
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- 24w ago
The other day I made a post about being kind and supportive and not being judgmental when commenting on other people’s posts because someone made a comment on my post insinuating that I don’t have ocd and i’m actually just a bad person. At first it didn’t really bother me because I know i’m not a bad person but now my ocd is latching onto their comment and it’s making me feel horrible. My post that they commented on was about how whenever I think things to myself like how my pre teen daughter is blessed to have slim legs and not chubby thighs like mine and she’s growing up into a nice shape or my teen son has a nice shape jawline and neck and it’s good that he’s slim but he’s too slim or how all of my adult kids are so handsome/beautiful my ocd turns my random normal mom thoughts into something inappropriate. I know I don’t think of or look at my kids or any kids or young person in an inappropriate way. My ocd says I do and I was seeking support. That persons comment was so damaging for me. I tried to think maybe they have never had dark disturbing intrusive thoughts with their ocd themes and maybe they just don’t understand or maybe they have never had pocd theme or maybe they are not a parent but even if all of that were true, their comment was still so judgmental and damaging. I am struggling even more now because my ocd is latching onto that persons comment and making me feel like a horrible person. Has anyone else had this happen? How did you get through it?
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- 23w ago
I’ve said and done so many hurtful things growing up, especially in elementary and middle school. I was very passive aggressive and mean for a majority of my life, and I’ve hurt peoples feelings. I’m no longer like that now, but every single thing I’ve ever done wrong replays in my head constantly, from the moment I wake up to the second I go to sleep. I know I deserve to feel the chronic guilt and shame, so I feel even more guilty pitying myself. It’s eating me alive, I’m so scared. I know people must hate me, and they have every right to. feel like I don’t deserve to have moments of happiness because I’ve taken that ability away from someone before. I’m not diagnosed, but this has been going on for years and I’m scared to talk to anyone about it because I fear they would look at me differently knowing I’ve hurt someone’s feelings. I feel like a monster. It’s ruining my life and I don’t know what to do.
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- 10w ago
So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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