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Lately i have been struggling with the idea of my S/O carrying on a relationship somewhere else. I have been throw a ton of failed and hopeless relationships and i always know the signs when people wish to move on or move into a different direction. Lately i have been struggling to remove my trauma away from his natural responses. EXAMPLE: Him saying that he is working a double. In his brain it’s just him working a double but in my brain a MILLION different equations are running. I have been discussing these feelings with him in the best possible way a human can but it just seems to not be clicking. I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing. Whenever i feel something out of array and i ask him if this is how he feels and he gets frustrated with me for even mentioning or constantly bringing it up. I know that it hurts to constantly be accused and be constantly asked the same question but i don’t know what else to do. He keeps saying that he wants me to open up but when i do it just seems to make him frustrated. Last night he even said that he thinks i need to speak with someone or we have to work on this because its becoming to much on his mental health. How do i handle this? Im trying to remove these thoughts and feelings and i am trying to bring the most positivity that i can but I’m finally starting to put a uanessacry weight that is causing him to struggle as well. I never wanted to do this with him. I have never had planned too. But here i am self sabotaging and traumatizing the world with my issues. I have a therapy session (first one ever) at 7 today. He doesn’t know about it……….

LorelaiFlae

Date posted: 1y ago

I remember my therapist telling me that getting constant reassurance fed into my ocd, and I needed to learn to overcome some of these things on my own. I struggle a lot with the same things you mentioned. What really helped me was getting this "therapist cbt anxiety" journal thing. I would write down what I was anxious about, and then why it logically didn't really make sense. And it helped calm me down. Maybe that would help you self soothe in-between sessions. :)

Morningstar66

Date posted: 1y ago

@LorelaiFlae I appreciate that so much I love writing and I’ve been trying to use that as another coping skills but sometimes I get lost into my own words and allow those emotions to take over my words without thinking about what I’m supposed to be writing about so I’m trying to work on it. I’m trying to work on everything really

nomoocd

Date posted: 1y ago

I would say attend the therapy without telling him so you have the mental freedom to speak with the therapist openly, and be honest. Remember though that ocd can also be inducing the debilitating thoughts that you will uncontrollably mess up all your relationships. You won’t. Every situation is completely new and different, and him being honest about how it makes him feel without threatening you or the relationship is a GOOD SIGN. It’s a difficult thing to explain but ultimately it’s hard on both of you so meet him halfway and see if he can get there too. (Also maybe tell him about the appointment the same day but after you’ve had time to process it)

Morningstar66

Date posted: 1y ago

@rjj I really appreciate this. I struggle with depicting good and positive signs amongst the hard ones i think i might wait to tell him about it until after but i think he should know. I just am trying to do the best for the sake of our relationship.

nomoocd

Date posted: 1y ago

@Morningstar66 He will see that, from the OP it seems he cares for you, and I’d like to reassure you that based on how well you can write and articulate the situation you’re a very smart individual. Some of the most comfort you’ll get won’t come from trusting your partner so much as trusting yourself. Trust yourself that you’re smart enough not to miss the signs you need to see, and trust yourself that if you do miss a sign it won’t be the end of the world because you’ll know how to move on with your life. This will slowly help to stop looking for signs in every little action and just be present. Proud of you for trying, and people who don’t care for their relationship wouldn’t be trying. You are good.

Sammie2303

Date posted: 24w ago

Help

Hello everyone! I’m new to this app and I am just looking for some help or any advice. I am 20 years old and female. I constantly think about the past and what has happened to me and my boyfriend. (Mostly about him and his ex and if he liked her more). No matter how hard I try these thoughts just flood my mind and nothing that I do helps me avoid them. I have always had issues with constant thoughts about the past and things that are stressing me out, and they just don’t go away. I thought that the thoughts about my boyfriend’s ex would fade but i’ve been with him for 2 years now and they are still constant everyday. I feel like I have to know what she’s up to and check her social media daily, if not multiple times in a day. I also check my ex’s social media daily. I don’t want to do this but I feel like I have to, and If I try not to it just makes me feel anxious. My ex was verbally and physically abusive, I was 15-17 and we were together for those two years. I have gone to PTSD therapy and I still have thoughts over and over about what happened and I wonder if it was even real. Or if I’m even remembering what happened correctly. I have constant thoughts about him and what happened between us. I also have issues such as kind of twitching when i’m really stressed out or something isn’t “right” to me. I constantly have to clean and put things in their place. I have a routine that I do everyday, such as showering in a certain order, doing my skincare in a certain order, and doing things at work in a certain order. Is this normal? And how do I help these thoughts go away… Because they have gotten so bad that it distracts me all day and is interfering with having a future with my boyfriend.

Dennasw

Date posted: 8w ago

My first day

Hi I kept seeing this app on repeat on TikTok over and over and I thought I give it a shot. I have never been diagnosed with OCD but I know that I have it. I’m a young adult and I found out the first time I had OCD was watching lelelons truth video? I was 14 at the time She had to resist sitting back down in a chair after her having sat down she started having a mental break down when she was told to resist. That’s when I knew. It started with myself going up and down a staircase twice buckling unbuckling my seat belt everytime I’m in the car ect I have always been super anti social but trying my best I can socialize but my mind wants to make it sexual with family and friends ughhhh I hate it because that’s not me when I graduated thoughts of hurting my loved ones corrupted my mind I broke down outside of church one time asking if this was really me or not i question if I’m a good enough friend or person in this world to begin with thinking everyone is judging me so so close how can I make this situation better did I do something wrong I struggle with depression as well not to bad but it’s there I come from a loving family but broken as well i believe in god and my OCD makes me go often he’s not real that stuff isn’t real no one is there to save you the list goes on. Anyway I struggle a lot and I really hope that this will help me because I feel extremely hopeless. Lucky for me I do have the ability to seek therapy and I am excited. The only person I ever tell my thoughts to is God no other human has heard so I’m really really hoping this helps me out if your reading this thank you it means a lot because this is my first time ever admitting all this it’s a lot to take in I know and I hope you are ok and that you have a great night and know that we got this

Mariabae

Date posted: 8w ago

i feel bad for posting (includes 18+) pls read

my bf knows abt my googling and talking with chat bgt but does not know about this app, he is at my house and now im alone bc he is at the bathroom and he told me to not google and things but im confused idk what i feel i want to feel good and happy, i was good amd happy today, but now i have a lot of thoughts, my libido is low and i found it hard to kiss and do sexual things. Im scared i will br like this forever amd that i will never want to have sex (i am a virgin) , i will be 18 soon and i hate that i am like this. Im so scared i will never want to do this. i want to, but i always feel strange and my thoughts attack me making me feel so bad. i hate myself for posting here bc it is a compulsion and i feel like a liar, he loves me so much :(

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