Real event guilt
When i was younger in my twenties especially i did some things i really feel guilty of.. I have false memories of things but some things i think happened and they go against my values... I cant stop feeling guilty and thinking im a bad person.. I wish i could turn back time but i cant... I ruminate all the time and i get trigered by a Million things...
It’s completely normal to look back at the past and think ab things. But I can promise you that you don’t have anything to feel ashamed about as far as being a bad person. I have the same thoughts about myself too sometimes and it affects my mood and relationship with my bf here and there where I just feel like a shitty person and it makes me feel guilty as well. But that’s why the past is the past. As we get older, we change a lot more than we think. If you were still you back then you would be doing the same things which you aren’t. Just remember that actions always speak louder than words and thoughts, and just try to keep reality checking the situation. I know I don’t know you, but I know you aren’t a bad person!
Awww thank youuu so much my friend.. I trully appreciate it and you helped me a lot.. It really means a lot to me... You are absolutely amazing...
@Sparkle2022 Ofcccc friend🫶🏻I’m happy to help I need to take my own advice anyways, so it was nice typing it all out haha. You’re amazing too :) if you ever want my # or anything like that pls lmk bc It would honestly be so nice to have friends I can relate to as far as ocd since I don’t have any friends who do have ocd.
@relatablethoughts Thank you so much... I will my friend and what ever you want to talk about im here for you too ❤️😊
@Sparkle2022 Thank you sm🤍do you want my number?
@relatablethoughts I can give u my social if that’s easier haha
@relatablethoughts Have you got facebook?
@Sparkle2022 Yea I do :) what’s urs let me add you!
@Sparkle2022 If not I understand
It honestly feels like I wrote this post. This is exactly what I’m going through! Thinking about things that I did in the past and not being able to move forward. Mine were also mostly in my early/mid twenties. And the weird thing was they were kept at bay for so long in my mind then one day I just started feeling insanely guilty. And idk why. They are things I’m not proud of, but I also feel as if they are my only focus and I haven’t been able to live my life. This is something I will really be working on in ERP. All I can tell you is you’re not a bad person, and I’m not a bad person. We made some mistakes. I sure as hell know I wouldn’t make the same ones again. And I know I’ll probably make different mistakes in the future, what we need to learn is self grace and to not let the bully in our head rule us!!!!!! Let me know if you need anything.🩷
Thank youuu so much my friend... I totally understand... Same here... Suddenly i started to feel guilty and shame after so Many years... ERP helps a lot.. I trully appreciate it same here if you need anything im here... OCD sucks but we can handle it and know ocd is a bully... Thanks again my friend ❤️😊
@Sparkle2022 You’re so welcome! We can do this. I’m glad you feel like ERP has helped. I’m just starting my ERP journey so I’m hopeful!
@Makingachange24 ERP helped me get over one of my bigest fears so im sure it will help with my other fears too.. I was suprise but ERP really helped... Exactly We can do this my friend...
@Sparkle2022 That seems so promising!!!
hey, i totally get where you're coming from. feeling trapped by past actions and those relentless thoughts can be incredibly tough, especially when it feels like they're against who you truly are. it's rough, but you're not alone in this. 🌟 have you heard about "unstuck"? it's an ai therapy tool for ocd - check it out at unstuckmyocd.com. it's been a game-changer for me this past month and might offer you some relief too. another member here recommended it, and i just wish i'd found it sooner!
Awww thank youuu so much my friend.. Ill check it out... Thank you so much ❤️ I trully appreciate it
@Sparkle2022 - of course! we're all in this together. and, i also just want to extend help.
Unfortunally I cant write my name here... If you want tell me yours unless you cant too hahaha
@Sparkle2022 yeaaa that’s why it’s a bit awkward😭😭do you have snap I’m assuming you don’t but Facebook exposes my full name I could always just delete it afterwards In the comments but still
I totally understand Unfortunally I dont have snap.. But if you ever need to talk you can reply here my friend and Ill see it 😊❤️
Does anyone else suffer from ‘Real life events’ OCD? I constantly worry about things I did as a teenager (from ages 15-19) I wasn’t a very nice person and think I was quite a toxic girlfriend in my first relationship. I’m always terrified that people are going to find out and that I’m going to lose my job or something awful. I also think that a lot of people would be so shocked if they knew some of the things that I’d done, and that they would think so much less of me. I feel a constant need to confess or apologise, and wish more than anything that I could erase that whole chapter of my life. Previously in counselling, we looked at ‘black and white thinking’, and I managed to rationalise that everyone makes mistakes and nothing I did was that bad, but I have this horrible feeling that one day this will all catch up with me. Is this just genuine guilt and remorse or is this a symptom of OCD? Thanks in advance.
I have Real event ocd about things I did as a kid at 12/13. It’s killing me because it really happened but I feel like a different person now completely. my actions disgust me and it makes me feel like i don’t deserve to be alive. I constantly have flashbacks about the events and it sends me into a state of panic, I feel as if my younger self has traumatized my older self. i’m so scared that things I did make this true, i really am a bad person, even though i’m an adult now and would never never ever do that again. I’m so scared. All I want is to be a good person but I keep remembering gross things I did and now I feel like the biggest fraud to friends and family and everything good in my life.
Can real event ocd, or ocd in general make you feel bad for something you did that was actually wrong? I keep thinking about things I’ve done in the past that are defiantly wrong and shitty things. But I’ve never really thought of them before. I knew they were terrible things, and I’ve not gone back since. Maybe 10+ years ago (when I was 19-21). I thought real event ocd was your brain taking things that are trivial and twisting them to make you seem bad. In these cases I’ve grown as a person l, I’m really not proud of myself and hope to never go back to that place. Is this ocd, or am I suddenly just feeling remorse for being a terrible person? I just feel the need to confess to my wife again, even though she knows most of it.
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