- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I’ve also got the excessive checking OCD for the exact same reasons. I started taking meds in May after fighting it for so long and I’m glad I did. I find the anxiety around my compulsions (checking) have lessened significantly. Also I have learned to try to incorporate mindfulness when checking. In other words be 100% in the moment and confident in your checking. “I am locking the door, I am turning the key and listening to it lock, I am taking the key out, etc”. You get the idea. Be 100% in the present which is difficult for us who are always worrying about what “might” happen if we didn’t check it that hundredth time. Hope that helps. :)
Thanks! I tried meds but didn’t like the side effects. If things get worse I might try them again. I do some self talk while I do the process but maybe I’ll try to be mindful like you are doing. Thanks again.
Hi and welcome! What has your therapist said about it? If coping methods actually keep us from getting better, have you considered setting a limit to the checking, and just leaving the house after you’ve hit that limit regardless of how you feel? Then, once you feel comfortable, reduce that limit even lower? Our seeking comfort might feel good, but it’s also okay to feel discomfort, and in sitting with that discomfort, we can realize that we have locked the door, we have turned off the stove, put dog has enough water for the day, we have washed our hands enough, and we’re okay!
Hi, thanks for the reply. meditation was one suggestion. Another was setting a time limit and leaving no matter what. I am a teacher and I was doing well with that before the school year started. Last week, I tired the timer and things got worse. I am going to try to drive better this week with it.
Replace “dog” with “cat” and I could have written that. It’s been a long process of waves of OCD since I was a kid but now that I’m an adult and live on my own, the checking can get bad. However, we recently upped the dose on my meds and it does seem to be helping a little.
Thanks for the responses! I actually was doing some ERP before I went back to work. It helped some but without normal stressors like work I was doing better. Now that I’m back, There is an uptick the time and challenge it takes to get out. That being said today was a better day.
I do the same thing and one of the things I do to help myself is pay attention when I am checking and say to myself as I check I trust myself in my head and then leave.
And, as one of the rules of the community states, this is not a suggestion to do this without you and your therapist agreeing on it! Good luck!
It’s tough to leave, because that’s the whole point of the compulsions: they really do make you feel better right there and then once you complete the ritual, but they’re only keeping the obsession around. A therapist I saw did mention that, with ERP, it will get worse, because you’re literally exposing yourself to the triggers that cause the obsessive thoughts you’re trying to get rid of, but it’s the only way, aside from medication. What would your therapist think about you trying when you have a vacation so that you have time to focus on it without it getting in the way of work? No matter what, you’re not alone in this, we’re all on the same path and I’m by no means an expert on compulsion avoidance!
So my harm ocd is really bad. I have a mix between hit and run ocd and being hyperaware of everything so I don’t hurt anyone or so they don’t accuse me of something. I can’t even enjoy vacation anymore. As of recently, my harm ocd is related to using the public bathroom. Everytime I leave an area or pass someone, I usually look behind me to make sure all is ok. Same with driving. Well lately when I use the public bathroom, I get anxious if another person doesn’t come out after me (they’re in another stall) and I can’t check that they are ok. I know this sounds really irrational but I wonder if it’s because with everything else, I can check but with this situation it doesn’t feel complete because I can’t really check unless I wait til they’re done and come out. Also if I don’t check, my thoughts have been running wild, like what if they were hurt in there and I just walked out? Etc. I also get scared like what if I hurt someone and didn’t realize it? I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel so tired and upset over this, can anyone relate or offer any advice?
Hello! I'm new here and new to OCD. My therapist suggested I might have OCD due to my tendency to ruminate endlessly on doubts and fears. These thoughts are indeed intrusive and I can't seem to stop them. The thing I'm kind of stuck on is that I can't see where the compulsions come in. Unless the thoughts themselves are compulsions. Can anyone relate to this?
I have contamination OCD that causes me to excessively wash my hands/clean items with disinfectant wipes. I know I just need to start with small exposures but how do I do that without spiraling? I tried a while back by just touching the outside of my dishwasher and not washing my hands after and it led to me being unable to even exist in my house. I basically lived on my couch for three weeks as it was the only 'safe' space that I had not touched with my dirty hands. I had to take a week off work to clean my house to make it somewhat liveable. I still haven't got round to cleaning everything though so things like my kitchen are still no-go zones that I don't enter. I just don't know how to start ERP without it making everything worse. Any advice would be appreciated. I am not seeing a therapist at the moment due to financial constraints.
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