Username: Shf.

Date posted: 40w ago

ROCD

hi ! i am so happy with my relationship and suddenly i have thoughts and fear of what if im cheating in the future? what if i really want to do that ? i know that my thoughts is against my value and belief but these thoughts is going crazy everyday and it makes me believe that i will do it and i want to do it 😭 but the fact is i know i never wish to do that and it never popped up in my mind before this , this just makes me feel so crazy and extremely anxious that i cant sleep, i will going to University this October and i fear what if i accidentally like someone else ? what if i do that on purpose? plus my feelings is keep telling me to do that and it kinda whisper to my heart and makes me want to do that, i know that i never wanted to cheat or like someone else but it makes me feel so real 😿 i keep thinking is that mean i am a terrible person or i really want to do that? i dont know why it’s kinda gives me the wrong feelings and informations to myself . Pls dont judge me when you read this and i hope someone could help me if this also what you feel or any tips to deal with this. Thank you

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Username: Girl101Girl101

Date posted: 39w ago

ofc! I understand. I hope you will Get help to! It really is for the best even though you might not think you have a problem! never doubt reaching out! So happy that you also have free healthcare❤️

Username: ladycytheraladycythera

Date posted: 40w ago

I’ve had those thoughts before. I don’t want to do it and I love my boyfriend but I do have a deep paranoia that one day I’ll wake up a little too different and ruin everything. You’re not a terrible person. As for accidentally liking someone else, as long as you don’t act upon it, it’s fairly natural to notice other people a little. People around you are always going to be attractive and interesting and there’s no point denying that. But you care enough about your partner to worry and care about not hurting them. If the feelings escalate, you can always distance yourself from the person distracting you. The “what-if’s” are really hard to get past sometimes but they’re just a thought and you can get through them :)

Username: Shf.Shf.

Date posted: 40w ago

@ladycythera thank you , do u have any tips to cure this?

Username: freiafreia

Date posted: 40w ago

I also have fears in that direction. I actually told my bf. He says, in my fears I always forget, that I am in charge. I am not slave of the world around, my emotions or situation. I can decide what I want to do. And that helped a little bit. I still have these fears but at the moment they lead less to a spiral

Username: Shf.Shf.

Date posted: 40w ago

@freia thank you , do u do anything to distract yourself?

Username: freiafreia

Date posted: 40w ago

@Shafiqa I guess I would not recommend anything to specifically distract you. That is like running away from the fear. In general I would say, do things that naturally catch your mind in a positive way. I do cleaning my flat and building and caring for nice looking landscapes in shrimp tanks. Maybe you like to immerse yourself in games, books sport and so on. I also talk to my bf about fears. But thats a small path. It can easily go into direction of reassurance seeking. But i try to just explain to him, what's on my mind to not be alone with it. I still try to tell him and myself: I know, thats probably just my mind. Nothing really dangerous

Username: Shf.Shf.

Date posted: 40w ago

@freia thank you ! i always get worried when my thoughts is coming from my heart and i think maybe that’s my true feelings that i want something against my belief. i get so confused and burnout

Username: WellerStorn98WellerStorn98

Date posted: 40w ago

Hey there! First off, it's super brave of you to share what you're going through, and I want you to know that you're not alone in feeling this way. These intrusive thoughts can be really tough, but they don't define you or your values. 🌟 I'm no OCD expert, especially with this theme, but I can share some resources that have helped me, if that's okay with you. The OCD stories podcast is a great place to hear from others who might've been in a similar boat and found ways to navigate these waters. Also, my NOCD therapist recommended this app called "unstuck OCD therapy tools." It's pretty neat because it offers AI-personalized guidance and exercises for when you're in the thick of it. It's been a game-changer for me, maybe it could be for you too. Hang in there! 🌈

Username: Shf.Shf.

Date posted: 40w ago

@WellerStorn98 thank u so much i will give a try on that 💪🏻 btw is the podcast on spotify?

Username: WellerStorn98WellerStorn98

Date posted: 40w ago

@Shf. - Yup! It's on Spotifyyy.

Username: Girl101Girl101

Date posted: 40w ago

Hey! I have the exact same thing so I feel your pain! I struggle with this so much as well. The fair that I will loose control or that I follow through with my thoughts is so so scary. I try to avoid places where I might find someone interesting or places like parties where people are flirting. What I would recommend is exposure!! It is so so so scary but I believe it will help you so much in the future. Try to go places where you are uncomfortable. I have so many scary thought just like this so do not hesitate with reaching out to me!❤️

Username: Shf.Shf.

Date posted: 40w ago

@Girl101 thank u so much ! i do think about exposure too but im scared that i might fail and it makes my thoughts worse . going to sleep is so hard for me , it’s like a flashback to every scary thoughts that i had before .

Username: Girl101Girl101

Date posted: 40w ago

@Shafiqa I understand that it is so scary and frustrating! I think that when you just do the exposure it will help. Ocd is this extreme fear and it is hurtful. I believe that this will be okay for you! The exposure really helps and you can begin with just small steps. Not a big thing but just something small and work your way up. The fear and giving in to the fear is what the ocd feeds on!

Username: Shf.Shf.

Date posted: 40w ago

@Girl101 may i know how do u start the exposure ? and how you deal with your thoughts during that ?

Username: Girl101Girl101

Date posted: 40w ago

I am going to a therapist so she helped me a lot. I recommend that but if that is not an option you can try your self. I understood what was my triggers before I started. For me it was this one boy at school. I told myself that I would go to school and see him but only for 1 hour at the beginning. Then I have increased the amount. My thoughts go crazy but I try to think that it will help me and I try to tell myself that the thougsh at intrusive!

Username: Shf.Shf.

Date posted: 40w ago

@Girl101 i never meet a psychiatrist at the moment , i dont want to self diagnose but i do have these symptoms that makes my life at worst . Im so confused to find help so i download this app to feel relief. May i know how do u start to meet psychiatrist? im so scared to tell my mom about this , im afraid that she might think im just emotional or something else . i also heard before that ocd is genetic but im not really sire about that , my mom’s sister have ocd and she is diagnosed with that. im scared that there’s a potential that i might have it. I started with religious ocd , and washing my feet and hands too much , then it goes to socd and rn fear of my relationship.

Username: Girl101Girl101

Date posted: 39w ago

@Shf. I also have an eating disorder so it started with that for me. I live in Norway so we have public and free health care Even when it comes to mental health. I recommend maybe contacting a therapist or psychiatrist on this app or maybe search to see if there is someone close. As your sister is diagnosed with it I do absolutely don’t think talking to your family both it is a problem!

Username: Shf.Shf.

Date posted: 39w ago

@Girl101 Thank you ! i would love to see a therapist. Btw i live in Malaysia and we also have a free health care here. I really hope to see a therapist soon, what i mean by my mom’s sister is actually my aunt (sorry for poor explanation 😂) she’s actually been through a lot and i guess my mom is afraid if i end up like her , she always tell me to just ignore the thoughts and always remember god. I do think she’s kinda afraid if i have the same mental health like my aunt cause she’s actually talk and help her a lot so i think she feels the pain. But i really hope that i could go to a therapist maybe by myself cause i dont want her to get worried. Thank you for replying to me ! 💪🏻

Username: Ella1212

Date posted: 2y ago

ROCD

Plz only respond with positive advice or thoughts. Last time I posted someone responded with a bad thought and it made everything worse. I have ROCD and I am absolutely terrified that I might cheat or doing something that’s cheating. Like everything is either bad or good. It’s all just black and white. I’ve never slept with anyone, given my number out, kissed anyone, texted anyone or secretly been seeing anyone. I freak out over things like making eye contacts with a guy and I notice he thinks I’m pretty (which feels good cuz I struggle with insecurities) and I make eye contact for too long, but the entire time I have no intentions of doing any with this guy and I’m very prepared to tell him I have a boyfriend if he comes over and telling him to leave. Anyways, that’s an example of the small things I tend to obsess over and just wondering if anyone worries about the same thing and any positive advice you could give before I go insane.

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Username: TT2022

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD? Cheating OCD?

Is it normal to find someone else attractive. When I get this thought or feeling.. whatever it is.. I feel as though I’m about to act on something. Or I guess my fear is that I WANT to act on something even though I know I don’t want to because I love my partner and family and I don’t want to jeopardize it. But I still get this urge when I find someone attractive and so my best idea is to avoid them. Does this happen to anyone else in a long term relationship/married? It makes me feel horrible and I hate having to confess this.

Username: BSVWYIRGN

Date posted: 1y ago

I’m scared of being a cheater

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year coming this May. I have never had feelings for someone like this and I genuinely see myself living the rest of my life with him. Talking to him comes effortlessly. He sees me for all that I am and works with me. My family has already begun developing a connection with him as well as I have with his family. I’ve never felt so at home until meeting him. Lately my ROCD symptoms have been playing on the narrative of him either finding a new girl that interests him and is somehow “better” than me OR me ruining our relationship because of potential cheating I have absolutely no actual interest in cheating because I know he’s my person and so am his. I know I’m going to marry him and I know that I want him to be the father of my kids. I want to see him grow and I want to build a foundation of unconditional love with him. So why do I shame myself? There’s this shop that him and I go to quite frequently, and the last time we went an employer that we typically see every-time we come began talking to me personally. We were all just talking about movies but my boyfriend mentioned that he felt like he was flirting with me. I begun feeling bad like I was doing something wrong. My mind started telling me that I liked having him “flirt” with me and that it made me feel desirable and confident in knowing that I was still considered attractive. I’m scared because now everytime we go the employee seems to be staring at me and when I went today he actually gave me something for free which led to me thinking I was playing into the flirting narrative and that this would lead to something worse (Though I still have no interest in doing so, just anxiety about that happening is the best way to put it) Has anyone else experienced something similar? Is there any advice that can be given? I don’t think anything’s going to happen, but what If I do like knowing someone likes me even if it’s not reciprocated? Does that make me a cheater? Or is that the product of unresolved self worth issues?

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