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- Spirit130
- Date posted
- 21w ago
I don’t know
I don’t even know if I love my own boyfriend anymore because of my OCD, I want it all to stop…
I don’t even know if I love my own boyfriend anymore because of my OCD, I want it all to stop…
Your brain is only feeding you the same thoughts that you fear. If you weren’t afraid, it wouldn’t feed it to you. It is trying to protect you because it believes there is a problem. But as you know there is not a problem. Don’t reason with the thoughts. Ignorance is the only thing you can do. They will go away naturally.
you only feel you do not love your boyfriend because your ocd is telling you that you do not. your ocd does not define you and you are the one who knows if you love him or not. loving someone is complex and there will be barriers that keep you from believing that you love someone or something. if you know you love him, you do. keep telling yourself that your ocd is trying to trick you and is trying to take happiness away from you. sometimes thoughts will just come and we have to find things to distract us like music or going into nature.
I’ve been feeling the exact same lately. I haven’t been saying I love you back to him one minute I love him next im getting these thoughts and getting confused
@ambermayx SAME that’s how I’ve been feeling!
@Spirit130 It’s exhausting to constantly be fighting it like I keep thinking do I need to break up with him Is this the right relationship I just don’t know
I’ve been going through extreme distress because of my urges and intrusive thoughts that surround my boyfriend. He’s amazing and I love him so much but i have such a strong urge to breakup with him. This urge gets to the point that I have had multiple panic attacks where I am crying, shaking and throwing up. I have talked to him about it but I dont want to keep hurting him. I really want these thoughts to stop, so I can continue normally with my boyfriend and feel connected again. Any ideas?
I feel like I am constantly questioning every word and action of my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop. It is driving us both insane. It has gotten to the point where I am picking apart the smallest things and making him explain them if he does not word it a certain way. How do i stop? :(
someone please reach out im really not doing okay and this is the closest i think ive come to making the decision that ny relationship needs to end but i cant do it. it's gotten so bad that even being around my boyfriend doesn't calm me down or make me feel better out these feelings, it just makes me feel like they're more real. im not confident that I'm just dealing with ocd at all. I'm so worried that my relationship is beyond repair and that I've fallen out of love because of resentment from problems we have. I don't know what love feels like how do I even know and yeah I know lo e isn't a feeling it's a choice but it's so hard to make choices let alone the correct ones when I'm doubting every aspect of our lives and relationship. I don't want to prolong the inevitable and make us both more miserable until we decide to finally end it but I don't want to end it if things can get better and I will feel normal again and in love. not guilty every time I say I love you because then I have the thought that I shouldn't say it because I don't know anymore. How do I talk to him about this. I bring it up but then I gloss it over with a reason that is more understandable and true but less painfu then "I don't know if im falling out of love or even what love feels like and I don't even know myself anymore so I don't know how I feel" and then we kinda comfort eachother until we get too sleepy to stay awake. I know OCD messes with your brain and can make feelings feel so real when they aren't and thoughts that aren't logical make the most sense. I know how it works but having OCD doesn't mean you can't experience the same things other people experience in relationships. So how do you know the difference.
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