- Username
- stxrmads
- Date posted
- 18w ago
falling out of love?
im worried that im falling out of love or if I haven't already, then I'm on track to. I don't know what to do
- Username
- avxavx
- Date posted
- 18w ago
Love isn't always a feeling, it's a choice. As OCD-ers we cannot usually trust our feelings (it's arguable that anyone should, because our feelings are inaccurate representations of what is going on). What we can look at is: are you both safe? Do you both treat each other well? Do you do nice things for eachother? Then that's all you really need in this moment. If not, then you may need to have another look.
- Username
- NgullNgull
- Date posted
- 18w ago
Hello there friend!! I just wanna let you know that I went through this exact same thing about two years ago with my boyfriend at the time and it was really bad and very scary and very confusing. But we started school and I started getting distracted with other things and it started to go away somehow and I was reminded how much I really did love him and that during those times I never didn’t love him, but I didn’t know that this could’ve possibly been OCD, but during those times I would try to buy stuff for him and go out of my way for him to see how my reaction was. I was constantly looking for reassurance from him and almost like other people as well, but you are not alone and you love your partner I promise you!!
- Username
- avxavx
- Date posted
- 18w ago
@Nguillory Yes, unfortunately, reassuring fellow OCD-ers can be very sneaky. Unfortunately, no one can tell you that you are ‘in love’ with someone, it’s a conscious choice and has evidence to go along with it.
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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Do you guys think this is ROCD or am in denial(I prey not). I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 8 months now and I assume I fell out if the honeymoon faze a long time ago. I get worried because sometimes i feel annoyed with her and don't feel like I love her and then other times I just want to love all up on here, cuddle with her, and give her affection. I'm just scared because it just seems like most of the time It doesn't feel like I am attracted to her or that I love her. I want to fight and keep pushing because I know love is a choice but I don't know if i'm just in denial or not. I just really want to feel the way I used to about her or at least like not feel doubtful and feel like almost repulsed by her (in a way ig). I just want to feel for her again please helppppp.
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- sabrinaindigo
- Date posted
- 1y ago
scared
i feel like what if me and my partner don’t make it and what if he’s falling out of love with me? i keep having intrusive thoughts of him wanting someone else instead of me and choosing to marry and spend a lifetime with someone else. idk if this is anxiety or a gut feeling :/. but nonetheless its scary. he tells me he loves me and he only wants to be with me and he never wants to leave me. but idk..
- Username
- Cloudbunny19
- Date posted
- 30w ago
Falling out of love or OCD?
Can someone please help me. The other day out of no where my brain is trying to convince me that I no longer love my boyfriend which is scaring me and terrifying because I’ve been with him for almost 4 years and we live together and planned our future together but now my brain is now nit picking everything thing he does, trying to convince me he has so many flaws to break up with him or noticing all the perfect things he does to love him all over again. I’m scared and so upset am I falling out of love or is just ROCD? It just won’t leave me alone I don’t want to be with anyone else but I’m scared my thoughts will fully convince me I don’t love him anymore or don’t want to be with him anymore 😞
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