stxrmads
- Date posted
- 33w ago
falling out of love?
im worried that im falling out of love or if I haven't already, then I'm on track to. I don't know what to do
NgullNgull
- Date posted
- 33w ago
Hello there friend!! I just wanna let you know that I went through this exact same thing about two years ago with my boyfriend at the time and it was really bad and very scary and very confusing. But we started school and I started getting distracted with other things and it started to go away somehow and I was reminded how much I really did love him and that during those times I never didn’t love him, but I didn’t know that this could’ve possibly been OCD, but during those times I would try to buy stuff for him and go out of my way for him to see how my reaction was. I was constantly looking for reassurance from him and almost like other people as well, but you are not alone and you love your partner I promise you!!
avxavx
- Date posted
- 33w ago
@Nguillory Yes, unfortunately, reassuring fellow OCD-ers can be very sneaky. Unfortunately, no one can tell you that you are ‘in love’ with someone, it’s a conscious choice and has evidence to go along with it.
avxavx
- Date posted
- 33w ago
Love isn't always a feeling, it's a choice. As OCD-ers we cannot usually trust our feelings (it's arguable that anyone should, because our feelings are inaccurate representations of what is going on). What we can look at is: are you both safe? Do you both treat each other well? Do you do nice things for eachother? Then that's all you really need in this moment. If not, then you may need to have another look.
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- Date posted
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- Date posted
- 12w ago
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