I have never dated anyone bc of the fear that ocd would flare up too much and cause problems but this time i have taken a leap of faith and thought to myself that whatever ocd is gonna throw my way I will deal with it cause that's what I should be doing cause I can't not do anything in my life. What are your tips to when my ocd flares up due to me dating
I also would like to know this! My ocd has been off and on for a lot of my life. I have a bf and we have been dating for almost a year. A couple months ago my ocd flared up again and it was bad and still is bad. It’s honestly affected my relationship because I don’t know how to express what I’m feeling and he doesn’t know how to help me. I love him so much. We just need help!
I went into my current relationship not knowing about my OCD. I knew I had problems of some sort, but never THIS BAD. To be honest, just like with any theme in OCD, you cannot predict how it will manifest. You will have to make a decision. Going into a relationship means you have to hold yourself accountable and work on yourself, both for the betterment of yourself, your partner, and the relationship. You can’t let your problems fester. Everyone introduces their own weaknesses into a relationship—we are all broken people, and those cracks may only show themselves when someone else is close enough to perceive them. What matters is the willingness to work on them, both on your own, and WITH your partner. A relationship is a partnership, and this means you should never have to endure your sufferings alone. You’d have to be willing to let your partner in. Sharing that you are ill is scary, but by working on it together your partner will then be better armed with the tools necessary to help you get better. If they want to make the relationship work, they WILL move mountains for you. OCD is just another mountain. But they can move it together with you. Don’t be afraid. Love is such a wonderful thing, and it’s a blessing to have someone willing to endure life with you, both the good and bad. The first year of my relationship was a lot worse than it is now. I was dealing with a lot of external problems, and then my OCD began flaring up constantly on top of that. Regardless of how manic I was at times, my partner had faith in me always and pushed me to make the decisions I needed in my life to improve. I did one year therapy, and then researched religiously into OCD and all the things I’d needed to begin healing. My boyfriend has never given up on me. Not once. And he’s reminded me to never give up on myself, and that, despite my illness, I DESERVE to pursue a happy life. And that includes having someone to love. Take care. ♥️
@Chibee I love your comment!!🙏❤️💔
Anyone with HOCD/ROCD have any tips about going on a date when the thought of it makes you want to die of anxiousness? I’ve been talking to this guy on tinder who seems nice and everything but every time in the past that I’ve started talking to someone and say yes to a date, I literally cancel the next day cause I’m so deathly afraid. This isn’t even necessarily ocd’s fault I’ve always just been scared to death of this kinda thing but obviously having hocd, and what I believe is pre-rocd thoughts, make it seem literally impossible. But I WANT it. I think about having a boyfriend all the time. Ocd is so detrimental to everything you want it’s so frustrating. Ik- news flash haha. Anyways. Should I go? Is this bad timing- will I make everything worse for myself? He’s really cute and seems really nice. Jeez idk idk idk.
Hey guys so I have HOCD and real event OCD and false memory OCD and this guy i know is interested in dating me and I want to date him too, but I'm really scared. I don't know if I can date someone ever again honestly 😕 I just feel too guilty and like I have to tell them everything ya know? Especially with real event. What do I do? I just feel like I'll never be able to date someone
I’ve never been in a relationship, not even held a hand let alone kiss anyone or be in a relationship with them. I’m a female in my 20’s and OCD sees relationships as ⛔️⚠️danger. the older I get the more scared I become and I don’t know if to take the leap of faith and learn along the way or work on the OCD around it first. Any advice or if you can relate please share thank you 💜🧠🙏 Context: ( I like a guy he likes me but he didn’t know do he was ready for a relationship, I didn’t want casual then we spoke again a while later and he said he could see a relationship in the future and I shut it down and explained it was because of my OCD but I still like the guy and I’m worried I’m going to lose this opportunity with him but at the same time I don’t want to rush into it and hurt him because he will be with me + OCD )
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