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I double texted a girl that I really like today (we just started talking last week) and I'm kind of going insane now... is double texting actually that bad or am I having a flare-up?
I double texted a girl that I really like today (we just started talking last week) and I'm kind of going insane now... is double texting actually that bad or am I having a flare-up?
When I started dating my boyfriend I loved getting double, triple, quadruple texts. Still do!
Well, double-texting is never a good idea, unless you truly forgot to add something to the last one or you needed to add a pic and you did it separately. Here’s how you save yourself. Do nothing now. Wait for the reply. Then answer back either 3-4 hours later or better yet the next day.
nah I sent 2 messages and then 20min later I remembered I said something completely stupid, I deleted the second one and resent the corrected version 20min after
@ocdbelowzero they are 20mins apart basically
@ocdbelowzero That’s ok, just do nothing now. Wait it out, and then some. When you like someone, it’s so hard not to answer back fast. Unfortunately, in this world.. it comes off as desperate. I didn’t make the rules, I just play by them. And hate them.
this is just what being in a new relationship is about lol. Not everyone cares about double texting. i am a quadruple texter but I do remember the fear and over analyzing of a brand new budding relationship and overthinking every move. Your OCD may or may not be involved in this but the good news is, either way, you treat both situations the same. you accept the uncertainty and just wait for her response.
she responded, we are having a conversation but I am tweaking and then I'm tweaking some more for no reason
@ocdbelowzero - Thats normal lol you're in new relationship territory. how old are you if I may ask?
@TexasOCD41 I am 19 years old, she is 21
@ocdbelowzero - yep. You are just young ( im 33 and married) but I remember being in your EXACT same shoes. I'm sure our OCD and tendency towards anxiety makes these things a bit harder to navigate but I think your experiencing butterfly because you like her and you don't wanna mess anything up. Just try to enjoy the thing, have fun. ACCEPT UNCERTAINTY.
@TexasOCD41 thx man. so far it's going good, we have chemistry and a date on Friday, but I have to get this shit under control cause I know I'm stressing about things that I should not at all
@ocdbelowzero - well just know you are normal, everyone does it. stop trying to be in control and go with the flow. no 19 year old has their shit together.im 33 and I still don't. girls like guys who don't try to control everything and let awkward things happen, they think its cute. just breathe and have fun :) good luck Friday..
i recently about six days ago ? started talking with someone with the intention of being friends and we’d talk a couple of times a day every for the past six days. But i immediately grew incredibly attached and obsessed with them i have no idea why it’s been driving me crayz. it didn’t help when they teased (?) me i guess and said if my compliments or well praise to soemthing they had done was flirting. it hasn’t left my mind at all. i don’t know what to do or why i’m feeling like this. and the worst part is i can’t say anything to them because i’ll just look weird i bet. i can’t help it i think about them so much and i check their stuff a lot and my lockscreen so much to see if they’ve texted me… is there any way to help with this ? it’s been really draining and causing me to overthink really badly.
Hey so lately I've been thinking along the line of the theme of ocd of 'what if I was to shout something inappropriate out" only this is what if I was to text someone something inappropriate please help me somebody it's causing me to panic.
A girl that I know that lives in my neighborhood just snapped me and it was “watch Marlee show off her garden or something” and I was worried enough to just open the snap bc I’m scared of interacting with other girls bf my ocd. The snap was just of her friend playing a garden game and then it switched to a coloring one but I genuinely just skipped over the whole video, it was 10 snaps long. Also the girl that sent me that, her name on snap has had a “😘” and even after changing it today it still shows the ____😘 on her public profile but I never changed her name on my snap and I feel bad bc I have a gf. I hate when people add the stupid hearts and stuff for their names on snap. I’m not going to respond to this snap. Also my brain is telling me I’m a cheater bc I never took out the emoji from her name beforehand. I genuinely never thought about the name until today, it’s been like that forever and I don’t think I ever paid much attention to it until now when my OCD is attaching to it. It’s also attaching to the part where a couple weeks ago her and her friends were giving out cookies to people and they texted me if I wanted one, they were down to their last cookie, so I was like sure and they were in their car just out of my driveway in the street and I got a cookie from them. Even then I felt terrible for getting a cookie from them bc of just interacting with other girls. But now I’m like why did I never realize the name had the 😘 emoji with it and I’m spiraling. It’s also attaching to the part where a couple weeks ago her and her friends were giving out cookies to people and they texted me if I wanted one, they were down to their last cookie, so I was like sure and they were in their car just out of my driveway in the street and I got a cookie from them. Even then I felt terrible for getting a cookie from them bc of just interacting with other girls. But now I’m like why did I never realize the name had the 😘 emoji with it and I’m spiraling. Also she texted me June 20 asking about if I had a bbl which was weird and so I responded to her then bc I was like wtf. But now I’m like why did I never realize her name had that emoji in it and I’m stressing. I really don’t enjoy talking to her and I’m not attracted to her at all and barely actually talk with her, and if I do I’m not flirting with her bc I love my girlfriend and don’t care about other girls I do remember that it wasn’t that girl that texted me about the cookie, it was one of my friends gfs. I was also worried about that bc I didn’t want to text my friends gf bc I thought it would be weird but it was only about the cookie
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