my parents don’t understand that a seemingly small and snide comment about my body will ruminate in my brain for months and months and be a never ending source of why i hate myself more and more everyday. I don’t know how to get them to understand as they are not in my shoes. I am overweight, not morbidly obese but I struggle to find the will to work out and improve myself, but i know this isn’t the motivation i need.
First of all your weight doesn't define you, and second of all your parents shouldn't be making negative comments about your weight, instead they should be uplifting you and trying to get help for you. I understand how hard it may be to work out and improve as it's a very strenuous activity to do. If you personally want to change, I recommend to not feel pressured by anyone and definitely take it slow first. There are many ways and things that may motivate you to improve your situation, if there is no one to help or support I will be here to tell you that you can achieve what you wish to.
i used to be the same way. i still am to a degree. i used to starve myself no matter how hungry i was, i wouldn't eat in front of anybody no matter what. i would only eat in certain periods of the day or else it would feel like i screwed up the whole day. i would wear excessively large shirts and pants nd if i didn't i would feel like the largest person on earth and it cause extreme anxiety. it used to be so bad. anyways, dude all i can say is first of all, don't be so hard on yourself forreal i know it's a lot easier said than done but that already helps a lot nd be PATIENT!! you're not gonna lose 10 pounds in a week haha. you don't even have to start extreme to start out or even go to the gym. start going on a walk around the block, do 10 push ups a day for two weeks, then do 15 a day for another two nd so on. don't be crazy with the nutritional value of shit either. cuz i was OBSESSED with that. if my food was even 3 grams of sugar i would not eat it. or 17 carbs, i wouldn't eat it. you don't have to hella track calories even. just EAT LESS. again, easier said than done haha but in a simple term, just eat less and move more. it's truly that simple. you don't need to starve yourself or start some kinda diet that everyones trying for 3 months lmao cuz i promise you dude all them people gain that weight right back as soon as they quit those "fad diets" anyways i hope this helps dude i apologize it was long asl but i just hadda comment cuz i used to struggle terribly wit my weight or body images (still kinda do) nd like you, i wasn't even morbidly obese or nothin like that. i was just and still am a little chubby haha.
It is very hard to find the will to workout. I feel that is has a lot to do with believing in yourself that you could do it. If you feel like you do not get that support from your parents is there anywhere else you can find the support from?
I’m having a rough time rn. My parents both told me that they don’t think I could or should be a dr (I’m going to be a sr in college this year). They said that I have too many and too intense of problems to be one - I’ve got OCD, depression, and dermotillomania (skin picking). Normally, I brush things ppl say off pretty easily, but not w my parents. I love them and really care about their opinion. But it’s making me even more depressed, as one of the last things I was holding onto was the thought that I would be able to use my experiences to be an even better dr than I would have been before getting these things. I’ve been suicidal for a long time but I always told myself that I was going to get through this and use it to help ppl. But it’s tearing away my last shreds knowing that not even the ppl I care about the most think I can achieve my dreams. ?
i feel so fucking trapped i feel so clueless what to do because ive been eatinf for the past 3 days and i feel like im not supposed to and im gaining weight even though im walking 9 miles a day and i dont know what to do because i’m doing everything i fucking can to lose weight and nothings working and im so terrified and i wish i could tell someone in my family and i just woke up to check my weight and i’m barely less lbs than yesterday and i HAVE to be losing weight or im doing something wrong and i am but its barely anything and im just so obsessed with calories and im starting to get obsessed with macros and its so fucking bad and i just feel myself falling deeper into the hole and i cant do anything about it. im crying so hard because im so tired of living like this constantly with no one close ro talk to about it. im having a hard time working out lately since its so cold out and so i have to use the treadmill inside but my ocd makes me constantly paranoid if people in my house can hear me or see me on the treadmill and im on it for like 2+ hours so i want to skip doing it because im constantly checking behind me and i cant ljsten to music when i have to check if people are coming out of their bedrooms but i cant take a break from working out since i know im gaining weight for some reason. i just wish i fasted those days i told myself i should have eaten. im so mad at myself for everything and i wish my body made sense to me. im going to kbbq tonight and its why im having this breakdown because i should be losing weight but its gonna make me gain weight. i dont want to go i really really dont want to go but i cant tell my friend that. i just dont want to go to any social outings ever again because they all make me gain weight. im so scared i dont know what to do i just want to go back to starving myself because its the safest option. im so sick of seeing the number on the scale go up and i just feel so fucking defeated
tldr: can’t stop obsessing over weight after i started cheer with a lot of tiny short girls, who tend to make slightly backhanded comments. does anybody have any experience or advice on something like this. recently i havnt been able to stop obsessing over my weight. it’s to the point where i can’t sleep at night by thoughts that i’m fat and i get so mad when i do eat. my first reaction if i do something wrong is to not let myself eat because i don’t deserve it. i am constantly comparing myself to other girls and i can hardly focus on anything else. i had some issues with this before but it’s gotten a lot worse since starting cheer, and all the backhanded comments i’ve endured during the season. while most of the girls are fairly short (4’9 to 5’3) i’m 5’4 1/2 and they always bring up how tall and heavy i am, even though i’m a normal weight for my height. it’s just so difficult to constantly tell yourself not to eat and then if you do you beat yourself up over it. i also struggle with contamination ocd, adm with that i can at least i can temporarily get rid of those feelings, but not with this. if anybody has any advise for this, please let me know.
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