rocd advice please

something that really bugs me and gets in my head with my rocd is that for most of my relationship i’ve had this nagging anxiety and ocd about it. i can accept my thoughts for the most part, but have this underlying fear that this one could really mean something and that makes me feel guilty! i don’t want to loose her but my mind tells me i do because ive had these thoughts. it’s even coming up in my dreams now! i had a dream last night that i cheated and it made me panic all today and feel so bad and this thought came up again! any advice?

Username: pamelaterrypamelaterry

Date posted: 5w ago

Fuck dude, I know exactly what it's like. I'm dealing with something similar right now. My OCD keeps messing with my head about my friendships, like convincing me that I secretly hate my closest friend or something. It’s so exhausting because even when I know it’s just my mind playing tricks, there's always that tiny voice saying "what if it’s true?" I get the guilt and fear you’re feeling. It’s like your mind is trying to sabotage something you care about. Just remember, you're not alone in this battle. We’re all fighting these irrational thoughts together. Keep pushing through, my friend. Sending you strength and love.

Username: bdads27bdads27

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 5w ago

@pamelaterry thank you for you kind words i know im not alone i appreciate you reading

Username: Chairo23Chairo23

Date posted: 5w ago

I have loads of OCD- particularly around my relationship. I have been married now for 4 years. I for I still battle with the OCD, but that thing you said about “I feel like I have to leave them…but I don’t want to” I focus on the second part. The first part is the mind, the second is something stronger, more consistent, more true… Idk if this helps but also maybe it’ll just be nice to hear someone else experiences it too.

Username: bdads27bdads27

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 5w ago

@Chairo23 definitely thank you! you’re certainly right in that and it does help frame my mind better. having had ocd for most of this relationship makes me feel defeated and like an excuse but i know myself too so it’s very disorienting

Username: bdads27bdads27

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 5w ago

Username: bdads27bdads27

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 5w ago

i know:( it feels like it’s true and like i don’t want to be with her and my head is like well you’ve never wanted to you know? it’s just this immense guilt that comes about and i feel like it’s true and it’s always been true and that i’m a bad person and that i should leave her. but i don’t want to! it makes it so hard to connect sometimes and so hard to feel and be grounded in my values

Username: SpecklesSpeckles

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 5w ago

It's difficult. I don't have ROCD, but can imagine it's draining. Maybe you can view the intrusive thoughts like you are a spectator and you aren't really in them. I just trying to figure out how to make it easier. I have several themes of OCD and I'm trying to just view them and not engage with them. It's hard tho

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD

Hello guys quick question, I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend now for 8 months coming up to 9. Last night and nights before I had dreams with like girls who aren’t her is that bad and does that mean anything I feel like if I didn’t have ocd I wouldn’t think twice about it. Like am i unfaithful and I can’t tell her and I just feel guilty.

Username: anonymous1963

Date posted: 44w ago

Rocd vs reality

How do people recognize the difference between relationship ocd intrusive thoughts and real thoughts about your relationship? I have been in a relationship for about a year, it’s my first long-term relationship and the healthiest, I am almost 20 years old, and I believe I have rocd (I haven’t been diagnosed but it’s pretty clear to me). The main thoughts I get are “what if I’ll lose feelings for my bf?, what if I don’t love him?, what if I’m gonna break his heart?” (it’s never about if he’s cheating on me or anything like that. He is a really great boyfriend and the best person to ever walk into my life, he isn’t toxic or bad in any way towards me or the relationship). Usually these thoughts occur before my period (luteal phase/pms) but I’m on day 6 of my period and I got these thoughts, which usually isn’t the case as I’ve said before. So I went into a spiral cus I believed that since I got these thoughts at a different time in my cycle, they must be true. Deep down I know I love my boyfriend so much, it’s just so hard to navigate whether or not these thoughts are just fake rocd thoughts or what I’m really thinking. Can anyone else relate?

Username: mgirl

Date posted: 44w ago

ROCD

i keep having dreams about cheating on my boyfriend, but i love him so much and don’t see myself with anyone else. but it’s making me anxious and i feel guilty. could there be a specific reason for this?

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